Texting or conversation

Hi 2004cqui. A shout out to your son for handling that in such a wonderful way. I can understand how he feel. This texting has taken over all socializing with people. I have went to visit people or just in their company and I am doing the talking and they are busy texting on their cell phones and I know they are not listening to me because I am not getting any response from them at all. Or I am in their company having a conversation with them and the cellphone rings and they answer it and completely ignore me it burns me up. Sometime I just keep on talking while they are talking on the phone because I know they can't comprehend both conversations at the same time.

First of all 'autistic' is mostly a label. I think that your son may have felt more hurt or 'put down' by this girl's behaviour than some other people might have done but, probably thanks to the way you have brought him up to deal with life, he actually coped with the situation better than many 'normal' (another label!) people would have done. All power to him! I think that that selfish girl needs to be told EXACTLY what sort of person she is, NOT because your son is autistic (and she treated him abominably) but because SHE is what she is and she doesn't deserve to be dated by anyone!

Sheesh! I hope that it was because she was jittery and nervous about getting a great date!, so had to keep her fingers on there to calm herself down! (crossing fingers). But I would find this quite improper and rude, especially if it's a first date!

I prefer to talk. I think to write to someone at dinner was very funny. then better to go to dinner. I think it's very nice to talk to someone at dinner to discuss different things. nice day!

I hate it when people is texting or when they answer their phone while we are talking. I think it is so rude! I would walk out to to the person who will do that to me. Good thing he paid half of the bill. If I were in that situation, I would just leave. Most cellphone here in my country is prepaid like mine. I haven't load up to text because most of my friends is in internet and it is our basic communication. I will load up only if I will be away from home. If I will go out and be away for how many hours here at home.

Im a texter but i would not text while i am at dinner i rather talk & enjoy my time & dinner. And yea i no people like that is a funny thing is not a problem some times but all the time constently is jus not cool on ur own time is better to text but if u have company i dont feel is the right thing unless is a must as urgent or an emergancy..

That was rude of her! Good for you, your son was wise enough to walk out on her. shame on her.

i have encountered people who are like that who keeps on texting during mealtime while in a group. i find the behavior rude and offensive. i have experienced that with some friends. i mean, we get together to catch up with everybody and this person keeps on texting it seems like she was with us physically but would rather be somewhere else.

That was a nice way of your son in dealing with such a situation. In my opinion, the girl isn't interested with having a conversation, because if she is, she will stop texting and be attentive to her date. She deserved the walk out of your son. But your son had really fine manners because he still paid his half. Some men would have just plainly walked out on her, even if dinner is not yet served .

i think the girl was very rude. If i am with another person especially if it is a date, i try my best not to answer messages in my phone, i only read the messages as fast as i can and answer it later if it is not an emergency.

I can't stand it when I'm out to eat with someone and all they do is text. To me, it's rude because aren't you the person the other person originally wanted to eat with? So it just makes me mad when I'm with someone and all they do is text. Good for your son on paying and then just walking out. He should've done it sooner since the girl was so rude, but at least you know you raised a nice son that has manners :) I know when my boyfriend and I go to a restaurant we try to pay as little attention to our phones as possible. The only exception is if it's a parent or an emergency. But when I go out, I want to talk to my dinner partner so I can catch up with them and see how they're doing.

Oh my! That was very rude of a girl your son had there. It really is impolite to keep on texting when you are having a date. Dating means getting to know each other, and that can be best achieved through conversation. Good thing your son did the right thing of just dumping the girl. As for me, I'd prefer the conversation anytime against texting. Conversation has the element of emotions where we can see and feel what the other is saying unlike through text where you just don't know what the true emotions of the texter is all about.

That must be really annoying for him. I would rather not go on a date if that is what I do to my date. That would be so disrespectful of me. Unless it is something very important or a family matter that needs to be answered. But I would asked to be excused if I want to text for a while. It was good for her that you son walked out. I hope she learned her lesson.

You have a good son. That was really funny. He has done it right. That was too rude. Yeah, sometimes I will meet such persons and I don't like them at all.

Three cheers for your son, I'd say he handled the situation pretty good! The girl was totally rude and clueless on how a date actually works. Yes, I have met people like that, and you'd think they'd know better (but obviously not lol) A date is for the purpose of getting to know each other, and if she didn't want to get to know him, she should have never accepted the date in the first place. You'd think most people would put the phone on vibrate, and maybe check it quickly to see if it's a true emergency, if not, then the text (or call) should be ignored. Tell your son he's probably lucky he learned this about her now rather than later. Ms 'right' is out there somewhere, and she will appreciate him for being exactly who he is and not ignore him.

I had a scrapbooking weekend at my sisters once...her friend who was also there spent most of the time on the phone...I asked my sister if she wanted to be with us or all those people whom she thought she had to talk to. A couple of months later I guess the friend and her husband got into a big fight. They were at an airport with my sister and her husband...the whole time she was on the phone...I asked my sister if she had ignored her husband to talk on the phone...a light bulb went off for my sister then....she said...now I know what you mean...she is constantly on the phone. If I am together with this person again I might mention it.....she has choices and ignoring me is not going to be tolerated!

Regardless if you are a texter or not what that girl did was extremely rude. If you go out to dinner with them it is on the assumption that you want to get to know them and spend time with them, not ignore them while you text on your phone. I could see answering one text that might be urgent or answering to tell a friend you will get back to them later because you are on a date, but texting the whole evening is just bad manners. I am glad your son did what he did. Good for him.

Oh better not to go for a date if your date is like that you waste your time together in front of food and what a boring date. If they will go for texting better to let go off and stop the dinner date. I prefer conversation than texting. That is the best thing we have to share with somebody or someone live and not for writing on my phone. How nice to talk with friends on live.

I'm so impressed that your son had the guts to just walk out after paying his share of the bill - I know I couldn't have done it! All too often we put up with being treated badly rather than 'causing a scene' etc, even though it would be totally justified. I think people are rarely fully disconnected from technology nowadays - our free time is spent on the computer, watching tv, playing games, walking somewhere listening to an ipod, texting, etc etc. My partner was phone obsessed when he first got his iPhone and it drove me mad. He has got much better now, particularly for important things like going out for dinner, but he does still spend lots of time glued to it - people don't seem to realise that it's rude to play on a phone or text whilst someone's talking to you (even if you think you're giving them 'full attention').

Personally I would rather talk to someone. I was brought up into a family where I didn't have a mobile phone until I was 16 so I had to rely on going out and actually meeting people to talk to them, instead of phoning or texting them.