Is she really my friend?
By labea17
@labea17 (443)
Philippines
August 4, 2011 11:14am CST
I am a dilemma right now. I am not sure whether someone is really my friend or she is just being a good actress.
It all started when we were having a chat conversation. I asked her what she feels about this another girl. Then she told me that she thought that I was a flirt. I was shocked with what she said, and I thought that maybe she was not referring to me so I asked her, "Me?" Then she explained why she thought that I was a flirt. She said that because I was too friendly with boys back then, I was a flirt. I was speechless because we were talking about another person then all of a sudden, she said those things. She also said that other people, specifically our friends, thought of me that way. I asked one of my friends if he really thought that way, and he said no. Then the friend who told me that she thought that I was a flirt told everyone that she NEVER told me that. She even said that she was referring to that another person. I am just hurt because she tried to make me look like I was lying. And, if she really was talking about that other person, why did she even bother to explain to me why she thought that I was a flirt.
What she said to me did not bother me because if that is what she thought of me, then fine. The only thing that bothers and hurts me is that she tried to make me look like a liar to all of our friends.
4 responses
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
4 Aug 11
If I were I will try to stay away from this kind of people.. and if you are really sure to what she said to you..you should have told it to your friends..that you got a little bit confuse but then she didnt even give a single effort to expalin and she let you believe what thought it is...
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@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
5 Aug 11
yeah tell that to your friends... see what will happen...
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
6 Aug 11
Well, if you don't think she is a friend, then cut off with her connection once and all. Don't even bother to get angry with such person. She is not worth it. You should try to distance such persons, and never be friend with them anymore. That is my suggestion though.
@labea17 (443)
• Philippines
6 Aug 11
Hi! I actually thought of that before. I did not talk to her for more than two months because I was really pissed off with her. However, another friend told me that I should still be friends with her, I just have to refrain myself from telling her all my secrets. I really wanted to let go of her as a friend, but I realized all the times that we spent together. She was there for me through thick and thin, you know? We're still friends, but not as close as we used to be.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
6 Aug 11
Maybe she didn't mean it. Maybe she really saw you as a flirt that's why she said it to you, you know, as a heads up so you won't look bad in front of the others in the future. I don't really have an idea because I haven't seen her.
@labea17 (443)
• Philippines
6 Aug 11
Honestly, I did not get mad at her because she thought that I was a flirt. If that is what she thought of me, then I really can't do anything about it. I was mad because she told all of our friends that she NEVER said that she told me that. I mean, I already told her before that it was alright with me if she thought of me that way. I was just pissed off because she made me look like I was lying in front of all of our friends. I am still friends with her, but I will not tell her all my secrets any longer because I don't trust her as much as before.
@sweet_missy (49)
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
I don't think she is a FRIEND. a friend is someone you can lean on in so many ways and will support you no matter what.she will even not create an issue that will cause some Gap between you and her. Be thankful that You have the chance to really know the real person she is now.
@labea17 (443)
• Philippines
6 Aug 11
I was also not sure before whether I should still be friends with her or not. I mean, I was really hurt and pissed off because of what she did. I admit that I was not angry she called me a flirt because if she really thought of me that way, then I really can't do anything about it. Thank you for the advice. We are still friends, but we are not as close as before anymore. Honestly, I am still hesitant to tell her my secrets because I am afraid that she will judge me again.
