Why do many people find it relatively easy to help others but their own life ..

One once said: You preach the best what one has to learn the most. I think when you see the parallel to his own life and know that it is not under control and it is very difficult, we can assist other people better and know what they do not want because they have already done it myself wrong.

Good question. I think we are better able to help others than ourselves because when it comes to other people and their problems, we can view them objectively, which is to say relatively dispassionately. But when it comes to our own lives and problems, we are more subjective, which is to say, largely governed by intense feelings and emotions. This may be the reason why when we look back at decisions we have made in the past, we say: What was I thinking when I did that? The truth is...we weren't being rational. We were under the sway of our emotions. Our lives can be very significantly governed by our emotions, especially if we are very sensitive, and can become chaotic in consequence. It may be that the most successful people are able to plot and plan their way through life without being excessively governed by emotion, feeling and impulse. And of course as we get older, we are less governed by impulse, usually anyway; but then...it could be said that life is less exciting than when we are young, and life is thrilling.

It looks at the other people rather on what is lacking and for this reason can also help. We often have insight and sometimes the view, the case of a missing myself often. In itself it is often the root of the problem and not replaced anything, because it might not even want to know.

In my opinion it is so that you will not often feel alone with their problems and you realize it's not just one but yourself is bad to others. As already said you can often deal with the more subjective issues other than their own. And not everyone has lust ever sat down to deal with his problems. Distance you can win something for epoxy and other perspectives. It is better to help each other.

For most, it is easier to return than other doors in front of his own. It is always difficult to admit to themselves that life does not work the way you would like it. One knows that one has to change and what can, but you dare not always because one is afraid of what might come. This makes you nothing but trust and always occurs on a site will be dissatisfied with the general situation and we might just as one does not go on living at the moment but dares not to start something new because you have fear of changes. Sounds funny but it is in my experience.

that is human. need an other. we all need other people, not just help, but for looking to us, about us. even finally only you can help your self

The sense of community stands on its own. This goes to the sacrifice. One can look in my opinion the problems of other objective than their own (logical subject is a component of subjectivity) Practically, if the others would understand and to use instead of one would would also help. That should have been the spark for the core idea of communism, the difficulties to be overcome. A healthy selfishness includes the consideration of other relevant parts of one's life (environment, human beings).

I am as a typical example of your thesis. It applies to me. A possible reason for this phenomenon in my life is the fact that words and deeds were not equally distributed in friendships. When my life got a break where the people have helped me away from me. Personally and geographically. From their perspective it was not necessary to help me. Because they know that I always have time for them and would help them.