I Can't Stand Pushy People!

I don't like pushy people either. I remember one time some lady called and try to sell to me life insurance. I said that I don't need any and I wanted hang up the phone but she told be that I would be stupid If I have not taken this offer. I said that I'm intelligent enough to say to her no. I understand that those people have some strategies and maybe that is working for other people but for me isn't.

devideddi here`s my side: in our country in the (Philippines) when your son really wanted to study even its cheep or free or even in the big institute the parents will do something for their kids, they will start loaning or borrow money to their friends just to support their kids.because my parents said to me that knowledge is the only thing that i can give you. but its up to you please don't get mad to those pushy people trying to give you a loan because their just tying to do their job and try to help you.

Some of those 'admission representatives' are extremely pushy. Back when I was applying for college in high school I signed up for 'free information' on several colleges and mistakenly put my phone number and email as ways for them to 'contact me'. Oh man was that ever a mistake... I would get two calls a week from different 'admission representatives' - SO annoying - they wouLD NOT take a hint either! UGH! It's good that you stood up for your son... College is expensive (but that college sounds extremely expensive).

I've encountered some of these before, most of them are salesmen in a mall, usually at the gaming section. They often try to sell you something, telling you it's all brand new when it had already been released several months ago. These people will not understand "no" unless you say it pretty loudly.

I hate these kind of people too. Being nice is not the solution, I ignore them and even if they think I'm rude, I don't care.

I agree with you. You handled the situation very well. You and I are only a few yrs apart in age and I know that today I do not behave as I did when I was a younger man. In days past, I would have torn that poor guy apart over the phone for being a pushy @ss. but not anymore. We both have more patience than when we were younger.

In your situation I probably would have done the same. Most recently at Sam's Club they were trying to get you to upgrade so that they will put coupons on your card. I do not know how many times I had to refuse, and there is a line behind me waiting to check out. I was mad enough that day that I just wanted to go home and cancel the membership. I did get over it though.

I once got accepted to an art school, but for the 2 year program tuition was over 40 000! Plus it was on the other side of the country so I would also have rent and bills. I wanted to go, but with loans (the max loan in my province is 10 000) there was no way I could afford it. The admission person kept calling me, I explained to him that there was no way I could afford it, so instead of listening he forwarded my number to the student loan people who called me saying they would help me apply for the loan that I was interested in. I said that I had already told the admission person that I wasn't going to the college. He called back the next say kind of upset and asked what he could do to get me to go to the college. I said "pay my tuition for me". He never called back again.

Good for you!! I often make a game/challenge of it by practicing patience and 'killing them with kindness' I try to be as calm and even as I can and often use humor to keep things from getting too serious. I have even complemented sales people on their skills of persuasion and tell them why I am just not 'buying' into it right now. I keep in mind people go to seminars to learn negotiating and persuasion and objection counters...

Pushy people make us lose our patience and is difficult eal with them, but with my husband I learned that if I am not interested and they are on the phone just say with a powerful and polite voice "oh thank you very mucho but I am not interested. Thanks BYE!" lol, I never did itand saw that I didnt know how to deal them, so he took the phone one day from me when I was on the phone with one pushy person, and said " NO THANK YOU" lol, no know I am trying to do it but still is difficult for me. lol.

devideddi here`s my side: in our country in the (Philippines) when your son really wanted to study even its cheep or free or even in the big institute the parents will do something for their kids, they will start loaning or borrow money to their friends just to support their kids.because my parents said to me that knowledge is the only thing that i can give you. but its up to you please don't get mad to those pushy people trying to give you a loan because their just tying to do their job and try to help you.

Gosh, I hate those kind of people. They don't really seem to think or care for your son's well-being at all and just want him for how his talents and capabilities would give their school's reputation a boost I guess. He could also just have been really overly enthusiastic in trying to help you, thinking that you didn't understand your options. Sometimes when I'm out shopping I would be bombarded with salesperson pushing their products on me, something I really hate. This especially happens during the holiday seasons which brings out pushiness even more. Often, its easier to cave in rather than confront them since I'm the type of person who don't like confronting others but sometimes i just tell myself enough is enough! It's easier to avoid someone's pushiness over the phone but when its in person, it really is harder to do. I usually end the conversation with an assertive but still positive tone like "Thank you for your suggestion, that really is a nice scarf, but it doesn't go well with any of my outfits. Thanks again though." I find that the second thank you gives them a big hint that the conversation is over. Just remember to be assertive but don't cross the line to being aggressive.