I don't find myself attracted to anyone.

hello vulgarlittleprincess i have some bad news, i think you should take the shrink option. a counsellor would be fine, but chose carefully. the problem is that people who have social anxiety issues can attract narcissitic types who then can be very unkind and controlling towards someone who is a bit insecure. and i think the reason you are not attracted to anyone is that you fear the same thing happening again. there are books you can read on this issue, but a real life person to talk is better, though both is probably even better. sorry, but if you have issues like this that you need to deal with my advice is always do it as soon as possible, as the last thing you, or anyone in your situation want, is another bad relationship. and the best way to learn to spot a villain early is through counselling. and there is no need to see going to a counsellor as a sign of weakness, it is a very sensible way to solve a problem.

Good day Vulgarlittleprincess, Perhaps, what you are experiencing right now is just a normal thing. Since you just came from a relationship wherein you invested emotions and time. So these two might still be affecting you. In addition, maybe your mind is dictating you most of the time rather than your heart on what has to be done. There are times, our heart dictates that we like it but our mind does not go with the flow that we feel inside our heart. For this reason, you somehow end up thinking it twice if you will or will not. On the other hand, there are some instance, that our mind wants it and yet our heart dictates what to do and then we end up again indecisive. Thus, just let go with the flow, if you are destined to be married, then let it be. One day you will just feel it again that you are in love. And when this time comes, who knows, you will end up into a good marriage relationship. Have a nice day.

Your story is almost similar to mine. Maybe,I am even worse. I am 34 n still single and I sometimes think is as disaster. I often feel afraid that I won`t find a good man. After breaking up with my best ex due to long distance relationship ( he is just married and surprisingly, I couldn`t cry at all, despite being with him for soooo long). We broke up in 2005 and he got married a few months ago. After breaking up, I had relationship twice and both were horrible. There is a person who is chasing me, but don`t know why, I am not so attracted to him, even though we can talk for hours. It seems that he dramatized everything in the beginning, he tried to lure us with expensive and high class cakes, flowers and my parents are not in respect because it seems that he is not what he is and he didn`t want to know what other people said. When my dad was hospitalized and taken care to isolation room, I told him not to visit my dad as the day later my dad would be home. But without out knowledge, he went to the hospital to visit my dad and we got the report from the nurses, he sometimes comes to my house without waiting for my reply to his message whether I am ready or not. I am not so into him ,but he is into me. My dad and sister are against him as they think that he doesn`t have respect for other people`s will. I don`t know whether I have to push my feeling for him and try to know more someone new. After my failed relationships, sometimes I am afraid of having feeling to someone and even try to have relationship with someone who loves me but I have no feeling for him with hopes that someday I can love him. Well..I think don`t push yourself to have relationship. Still open your heart and mind, make friends with lots of people and boost your self-confidence.

Of course you will, andI think is good because in this way you won't be losting your time with people just because you don't want to be alone, you will see that this special person will come to your life, and as soon as you see him will you'll know that he is the one,just take your time and don't worry my sister is 42 years old when she thought she will never find the right person, she found him or he found her I don't know lol' but now they are getting ready for the wedding.I wish the best!.

I think you just haven't met 'that' person yet. It might have something to do with your last stressful relationship but I'm sure you just haven't came across someone worth your attention. I've had an extremely stressful relationship myself few years back as well. I've been with him for over 2/3 years, ha I don't even remember. A lot break ups and make ups too. I was head over heels for this guy and I thought I would never get over the relationship, NEVER! Then I met my boyfriend now and it's probably the best thing that's happened to me so far. So I think it's just really about meeting the right person. You're just going to have to wait or look harder. Loosen up and put yourself in the market!

I believe what you are experiencing is a possibility of being afraid to start another relationship and recovering from the last. Your past is somehow connected or keeping you from moving forward;being afraid that every guy is like the ones that you have met so far. Therefore subconsciously, you may have put up a guard to keep from starting a new relationship out of the fear of your past. My advice is to allow your STUMBLING BLOCKS TO BECOME YOUR BUILDING BLOCKS! Last but not least,for many reasons waiting to began another relationship is best especially if you are recovering from the last because when you do decide to enter into another relationship you will be free of all the old baggage and will not luggage them up to travel with you into your next destination. Blessings

I could see that your ex has a lot to do with it. My last relationship was about 5 years ago. It ended on a bad note. Actually MOST of the relationship was bad. When I got out of that relationship I was not interested in anyone for a really long time. I think I just got it into my head that relationships were just too much trouble to be bothered with and that kept me from really finding anyone attractive. I have recently started to like someone which I thought was really odd since I have made it a point to avoid relationships. I am not dating him and I don't know that I ever will, but it has made me realize that my heart has not gone completely cold.

It is possible to be asexual. Asexual people just are not sexually attracted to anyone. You really may want to see a therapist. I realize there is a lot of stress and stigma attached with doing so, but they can be really helpful. Another option is a journal where you can just write whatever you are thinking or feeling at the moment. It may be that your focus on finding a relationship, getting married and having a family may be holding you back. You may want to take a step back and work on building relationships with people around you, and widening your circle of friends/acquaintances. A person's personality is often more important than their physical looks when it comes to attractiveness. If you don't take the time to get to know people before dating you are doing yourself a disservice. Good luck!

I also feel the same way. I really want to fall in love with someone, be married, and have kids in the future. However, I seriously can't find anyone attractive. It's not that I have a high expectation or something, but no one is really catching my attention right now. I wish that there is, though. My last relationship was last 2008. The guy I was with broke my heart into a million little pieces. Although I am much better now and I don't feel pain anymore, I still have a hard time liking someone. My advice is that you expand your social circle or go on dates. It is possible that there will be someone who will catch your attention.

Yes, try to broaden the people you meet. This will give you a chance to meet different kinds of people which gives you a higher probability of getting someone you are attracted to. The more diversed the gathering, event or social activity, the better opportunity for you to look for someone. Meeting different kinds of people will also broaden your attraction spectrum. I suggest you meet people with a different whole new interests as yours or maybe look for a new interest that you might want to venture on and look for people in it. Acquaintances are the best bet for you to spark an attraction again.

I guess that maybe you were so disappointed with your last relationship that you think that every guy that you find is going to be the same thing. I don't think is time to see a shrink yet, I think it's normal that you pass sometime without feel attracted to anyone. Just enjoy life without thinking about that you need to feel attracted to someone that the things are going to happen naturally.

Not all people are same. Maybe you have not met your soul mate for now. There is the best time and moment for something like this. And when we get it then it becomes special and we know that the person is meant for us. Life maybe short but there are so many opportunity to find happiness and be where we belong. Don't loose hope. Don't let fear overtake your way to meet the person for you.

I know that opposites do attract. You might just be too scared to find another one. I know it hurts. I hope you can get well as soon as possible. You don't have to worry about it. I think your prince just hasn't come yet. Someday you may meet him. Just give it a little time. Good luck to you. Life is full of possibilities. Cheer it up!

This is practical things of heart, Just get yourself together and forget the past and move on with your life. Soon u shall celebrate. That man is not for you that is while it happened that way. God will surely grant you your heart desire believe it or not, because there is appropriate time for everybody.

Maybe you're just overlooking the person you're attracted to. Or maybe you're doing too much that your entire focus is on other things that you start to forget what type of people you're attracted to.

I don't believe that you are not attractive. Yes you are attractive. Do not down yourself because your last bf had broken-up with you, it only means that he's not meant for you. I suggest that if you are planning to have a boyfriend again then look for an exceptional guy despite of his being ugly.

It is possible. A lot of women are afraid to marry seeing a lot of marriages flounder. We get so hurt and start to fear that all the men we meet and have relationships with might hurt us the way we have always been hurt. I think you don't have to go to a shrink. Your being aware that it is something that is mentally affecting you then to take that scare off is to have positive mental views that not all men and people are the same and that you may not just have met the perfect person for you. We shouldn't be scared of these these things. We have to scare them away because they can block our way of the chances for a happy life. You are young and there is a lot to learn and explore to finally get the ultimate life you want. We just need to be careful while we are on that journey and be cautious of the people that we have relationships with. When you feel something is wrong you have to think of yourself first and think of whether or not to pursue. There is always someone out there for everyone. Sooner or later we will find them.

Maybe you didn't saw yet that one person that will catch your attention that much, over a year is not that long yet, especially your past relationship doesn't goes well, just enjoy yourself for now and don't think about getting attracted yet. it will surely come in time mostly when you least expect it.

That's normal especially since you were in a 2 years relationship and you said it was stressfu and because of that you shut off guys from your life.For you to start being attracted to someone again,you have to let go of the past and change your thinking about guys.Not all guys are the same and there's someone out there for you.

you know vulgar, it is possible that this sort of thing happens to everyone from time to time....perhaps you need some time to heal after this last relationship or relationships i gather. it might be good to have quality time just with yourself and learn and grow as a person...as an artist, you should immerse yourself within your art and just exist in that place! and the psychoartist certainly does not think there would be anything amiss with your seeing the shrink as you so disrespectfully call psychiatrists! this may help you grow in your travelling....good luck with your journey ....