Does she really love me? Is this what true love is?

@janevi (888)
Philippines
August 5, 2011 7:31pm CST
Love can be defined in many ways. It can even be expressed in hundred or thousand ways. But what really is true love? I have a friend for 11 years already. We started as collaborators in a project. We discovered that we have so many things in common. Views, values, likes, dislikes, terminologies or lingo, and even jokes we have almost the same. She can ride on my jokes, even the ones, that i thought its uncommon.She can follow my way of thinking and can discuss many things under the sun. She is a music lover, a poet,talented and multi-awarded in her college days. Beautiful inside and out.In short, I admire and love almost everything about her. I told her I love her and she said the same. Since we are separated by distance because is living in another country, we nurture our relationship through daily chats and my regular visits twice or thrice a year in her country. I can say we knew each other fully well. Everyday, we chat and share our plans of the day, and many other things. She gives me sound advices whenever I am down. She is one of my sources of strength when I am in a difficulty. Reprimands me lovingly when i don't take good care of my health. When i cannot chat because I'm tired, she would worry and would call me up.Cheer me up when I am sad and lonely. She will have a tantrum when i cannot deliver what I have promised but could easily be pacified when i explained the reason. This is the usual way of our life with the help of the net/ technology. We have planned for our marriage this year 2 years ago. We were excited and hopeful about it.Lately, she has not communicated with me. I promised her that I will see her this vacation and will plan out things but because of my work and school deadlines, I was not able to communicate with her as well. She sent offline messages several times and I tried to answer in one word or two words only. She said she understands that I am busy with my work and my studies and she loves me with all her heart without expecting something in return. I am so grateful about it. But how come that for two weeks now she has not communicated with me? This is very unlikely of her to be quite and not calling me. Does she really mean what she said about loving me without expecting something in return. What does she mean? I know i have many lapses. I have said many things to her that I was not able to fulfill and I love her. What is the problem? Does she really truly love me ? I'm confused. Please give me some enlightenment.
4 responses
@gelayagui98 (1336)
• Australia
6 Aug 11
There comes a time in our life, when we walk away from all the drama and people who create it. We surround ourselves with people who make us laugh. Forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat us right, pray for the ones who don't. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living. Mistakes are painful..but as time goes by, it becomes a collection of experiences called LESSONS..live life and embrace life lessons..
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
6 Aug 11
Thank you gelayagui. I think, I have taken her for granted that its always her who put an extra mile in understanding my shortcomings. Maybe I am too absorbed with myself that I did not notice her needs as well as to give her quality time moreso that we are very far apart. I learned a very important LESSON from this experience.
• Australia
6 Aug 11
Do not lost hope, prayer is the the powerful bullet in this imperfect world ask HIS guidance always and i am very sure he will guide you and show you the right way to win her heart again. We are learning from our mistakes. Good luck my friend i wish you all the best in this life.
@luanakent (794)
• Brazil
6 Aug 11
both only need to talk stay calm and dont imagine the worst.
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
I guess i just need to do that. Thank you.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
6 Aug 11
Never trust a women fully. She loves fun. She can ditch anyone for someone. her love can be deceptive.Its said its easier to find the path of a fish in water than to read a woman's heart. I am not demoralizing you.Wish u all the best
@Shlok369 (33)
• India
6 Aug 11
I really appreciate ut love story .... What I think is : she z really disappointed by ur skip of visit , u barely go twice a year .... She wants to enjoy full pledged love like every couple on the road who kiss daily .... Chatting z not gonna end desire to stay connected .... Better pack up ur things and set for marraige .... Ur making a lot of trial on her patience .... She might have desire to settle quickly ..... Dude ! Think well , u can find an other job more satisfying , but an another girl , it will take a life time .... Jump off before she says good bye ... Ur in another country , so more will be the brittle relation ..... ALL THE BEST ....
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
6 Aug 11
Thank u Shlok. You r right. I may find another work but not as satisfying as the one i have now. But i can't afford to lose her .