Perhaps it's time to bring out the heavy artillery

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So for those of you who haven't been following the saga of my weird journey through the world of divorce, a brief recap: As of April of this year, my divorce was final. However, the ex-husband is still my roommate. We are living in the same house (different bedrooms) until the house can be sold. Which can't exactly happen until we get it on the market, something that is hopefully scheduled for Monday after next. But meanwhile, we live in the same house, and he occasionally takes advantage of my proximity to attempt to get me to reconsider the divorce, despite my telling him over and over not to. Last night I had a long phone conversation with an old acquaintance. She's the daughter of a close friend of my parents, and she and her ex-husband, and Richard and I, used to attend and host these games parties. It was a group that our parents were members of, and when the membership got really low, we were invited in. We were never close friends or anything, but she seems like a nice person. Anyway, she was going through more or less the same thing that I was, and at the same time. Her divorce was final a little sooner than mine, and she has got her ex out of the house, but many of the things we have been going through are the same, except that her ex seems like a much worse jerk than mine. We had a nice, long talk. R came in at the very end of the conversation, and wanted to know who it was. So I told him, and the conversation that followed got him on the topic of us. Again... It was the same old stuff that he repeats over and over again. What did he do wrong, why don't I want to try, if it was good before, it can be good again, bla bla bla. As usual, he just wouldn't shut up. I could have gotten up and walked out, but I was in the middle of something and didn't want to. So I mostly tuned him out. But I was quite ticked. I've been holding this in reserve, because 1) he's been behaving 2) he helps with the kids and the housework and 3) he contributes financially. But I'm getting to the point where enough may be enough. I have a signed, notarized marital settlement agreement, filed with the court, that says that I live in this house and he doesn't. So I'm thinking that it's time, and probably past time, to calmly and firmly wave it under his nose, and tell him that he has a choice. Either he can stop with the "please reconsider" stuff, the guilt, the manipulation, the "I know better what's good for you", the "I'm the right guy for you" crap, or he can move out. And if he doesn't stop, and if he doesn't move out, he will be made aware that I have the firepower to go down to the courthouse and file a motion to get him out. I filed the divorce papers, and hopefully he will believe that I will do this too. Or I can just prove it to him.