How to move on from a heartache?

The first thing to do is to erase every memory you have of him, throw all those love letters and gifts, burn all your photos of him, delete him from your facebook account and erase his number in your phonebook. Do these things to help you forget about him. Next is to make yourself busy with something else, make your schedule full so that there will be no time to think of him. Pamper yourself, to take off the stress and heartache, eat what you want and shop if you want to... And dont be afraid to cry. Crying can heal a wounded heart.

Rediscover yourself, with your families and friends..

Actually, i am in that same situation as your friend and unfortunately, its really hard to move on from a relationship that lasted that long. Your friend can only move on unless knows herself for a fact that she is really ready. If not, she'll just end up fooling herself and crying over her past. The best thing you could do for her aside from being there as she mourn, is that you could encourage her to work on ways to improve herself, like learning how to cook, learning a new language, changing her hairstyle, and other ways on how to make heraelf beautiful. That wont just make herself busy but who knows, it might lead her to someone who really deserves her. Goodluck to you and your friend.

Hi dear..... its called that marriage is born in heaven, if you do believe then tell her that the guy was not meant for her... the god has saved her because he is a perfect traitor and there were chances to get more badly hurt after some years if the relationship would continue... then why to waste her time thinking about him. Give importance on life, not in love because love is just a part of life. All the best to your friend and hope you will help her to make some changes.

Well,no matter how we tried our best to console a friend,if she's not helping her self that would be no use. I also have a friend who lost her boyfriend months before their supposedly wedding. She did cried a lot,but it only takes her a month to moved on. The heartache made her stronger and promised herself that she will never cry for any guy anymore. Now she was able to hang out with us. She realized that,it is better to lost someone at an early stage then getting married and lost in the later part of it. I wish your friend will have same courage as my friend has. Just give her some advice and support,let her cry and express her emotions freely until she get's tired. have a good day jaiho®

Hi eynjel_1988 ! I appreciate your concern for your friend . You did the right thing to tell to her to pray . After all praying to God is always the best recourse. Only He can give her the strength that she needs to overcome this situation . You have not mentioned what she is doing at present . She needs more engagement in work to keep her away from thinking over this all the time . It is very tough for her as she is involved in this affair for five years . You take the initiative to take her to places like movies , restaurants and making new friends . It is better that she got to know the guy before she married her . I think God saved her from someone who after five years of relationship could say that he found his lady love atlast . Such people are not trustworthy ever . But you should not say anything against him infront of her as she loves her . It is very difficult to forget so easily and so fast . Gift her interesting books to read . You may also refer her to Mylot where she can share her views and feel relaxed . You may even take her to some counselor (introducing him/her as your friend) to tackle things if she is too depressed and discoraged . Wish you and friend good luck . God be with you !

Tell her to pay attention the population of the world. there is almost similar rate of men and woman, when the ratio is about 51-52 percent of women and 48-49 of men. this means that there is order in the world and god is doing his thing. she just has to be a good person and preserve her purity. good luck to her.

It's really a tough situation to deal with. I know what she's going through right now... I've been with my husband for over 8 years. We've been married for almost 5 1/2 years now, and a couple weeks ago he put all of his things in his car and drove off. He hasn't even called me to ask how our daughter is doing. You were right to not tell your friend to forget her boyfriend. 5 years is a lot of time to spend together, and it's rougher for her because he just dropped her for someone new. I've been focusing on myself and my daughter since my husband left us. We spent a week at my parents' house, and now I'm keeping myself busy by redecorating my apartment and getting ready for a new semester at school. I think the best thing you can do for your friend is going to be to be there for her if she needs a shoulder to cry on or a sympathetic ear to rant to. Invite her to go out with you--maybe you could go shopping or see a movie, or even plan a trip to a zoo if there's one nearby. I don't think you can really forget someone you've spent so much time with or the heartache of the breakup. The key to moving on--at least for me--is in not dwelling too much on what's in the past.

Wow, that is so harsh......maybe he shouldn't have told her that but please, she CAN'T GIVE UP HER LIFE, not for a man. Can she imagine how it would be like to find out years later? It's time to she to enjoy her self, to know her self better, be alone with the greatest company of all: her self.

After my terrible relationship I was alone two years. During this time I was unhappy and heartbroken. When my heart was numb I decided that I still can enjoy my life even as single person. But I met my partner and now I'm happy. It's hard to move on and hard to think that she is alone. But time make all pain numb and then she will start again. That's life.

Moving on is very difficult, especially from such a long relationship. The best thing is time, time really does heal all wounds and in 5 years time she is going to wonder why she even cried over the guy. I have said this already in a few of my responses. We do not choose who we fall in love with and we can not make others love us. It is something the other person must do.She can't make him love her and atleast he was honest as to why he ended it, she has closure and can try to move on from there. She needs to understand firstly that it is not her fault, he didnt choose to fall for someone else, it just happens. (If he was being honest) I would tell her all these things over and over again and just be there for her whenever she needs a friend. Just tell her that one day she will fall inlove again and that person will love her back just as much!

Great question.It has to come from the person that's hurting.they have to let go of the past and move on to the future.It's not the end of the world.There are so many great things to do out there that maybe they haven't explored.Bring them to a happy and positive place and show them that are better things out there to look to instead of dwelling in the past.Life is too short to be sad.Be happy for you are still alive!