Calling off a wedding....I was supposed to go to one last night!

My friend recently called off her wedding. I mean they have to call it off. The grooms mom want the wedding off because my friend's zodiac sign is Leo... We are still finding a way to change the situation, and I hope we will figure it out soon. I see how my friend is suffering with all the pressures right now. It is a good thing her groom is on her side... but how can she live a life with a mother in law like that... I don't know too, but I know all her pains.

That can be really hard. Especially when a lot of time and effort went into planning such an event. I feel it would be better to call off a wedding than to go through with something if you don't think it will work out. I'm sorry to hear how your first plans of marriage turned out. I think that would be a horrible way to do it. He should have talked to you about it in person instead of basically running off and leaving a note. I would have been highly irritate and embarrassed about the way he handled things. My first engagement I ended it because I was able to see that our relationship was not at all strong enough for marriage. I guess i never really thought of it as calling off my wedding but I guess I did. We were no where near being married in two weeks. I did however already have a wedding dress and decorations bought and planned. I'm happy though that I made the decision that I did because I know that it would not have been a good marriage at all. Today we are still friends though and he has married a friend of mine and has a little family. I'm happy for him and he's happy for me. He and his wife even offered to give us clothes and a car seat when our little girl was born. We are the type to harbor animosity and so I think that is a wonderful blessing in itself.

I am fortunate that I have never had to call off a wedding, nor do I know of anyone who ever has, but I know of a couple who got married, and then divorced about two months later, because the bride decided to have an affair with the best man. LOL

What a terrible thing to do to your intended! Did you ever speak to him again? I called off my wedding first time around as I felt I wasn't ready, but it was plenty of time beforehand and it was not all organised. I subsequently went ahead some time later.

I have never had to call off a wedding nor do I know someone who did. That would be a devastating...and embarassing...thing to do. But last week they were talking about this topic on the radio station that I listen to in the morning. They got on the topic since there were a couple of celebrities who have called off their weddings within the last couple of weeks. Someone had called in and said that she was invited to a wedding in another state and the wedding had been called off, not sure how long before, but it was close to the wedding date. She had already purchased her plane tickets, which were non-refundable. I think this happens more often then what people want to believe, but it is sad that they could not have figured out their differences or decided to not get married BEFORE the expenses of the wedding were incurred.

I am sure it would be very painful to the other party. I know someone who did call the wedding off because the bride to be realized she don't love the groom that much,so she cancelled the wedding 3 weeks before the wedding. Everything is also settled after a year of planning and even a new house was built for her. Everyone was shocked...but accepted her decision. jaiho®

I had to call off my first wedding back in like 1986. My Mom had helped buy all the material and was going to make all the dresses, and plans were being made etc. and it would going to be a Great time. But things happened to where I was unsure of it happening due to all the issues my Mom and Step dad were having at the time, and then they split and so with being afraid I called everything off. (With everything that happened it almost scared me from ever wanting to marry etc.) So I can relate with the feelings of feeling like you failed everyone, etc. The bride needs to do what is Best for her, and move on. In time everything happens for a reason and will improve.

Now that's a major nightmare. I have heard of it happening but it never happened to anyone I know or myself. I can't imagine the embarrassment. Your story is so sad. I am sorry it happened.

I do not know of or remember any right off hand. I am sure that it has happened to someone I know though.

No I have never had to call off a wedding. I knew it was the right decision when I married my husband and he felt the same. As hard as it is to call a wedding off, I think it is the right thing to do if someone is feeling as if they are taking the wrong steps in their lives. I certainly know people who should have called off their wedding, one of my best friends was debating all night long the night before her wedding. Seven years and 3 kids later she realized she had made the wrong decision. That was much harder on the husband, and of course hurt the kids. When it comes to marriage if there are doubts I say don't do it.

Well calling it off and facing the embarassment is better than going through with it even though you have doubts, then living miserably the rest of your life.. or going through the headache of divorce. I've never personally known anyone to call off a wedding.

I've never really known someone who called off a wedding. No not anyone among my friends has ever done that. All weddings where I got invited pushed through. It is a tough situation and a very hard decision to make. At any rate, it is better to call off a wedding than to suffer for the rest of your life. Marriage should be for life so if don't feel like marrying the person then you can always back out even at the very last minute.

I don't know of anyone who called off an actual wedding... engagements, yes, but not the actual wedding. I'm with the man I hope to marry, so there shouldn't be any broken wedding plans in my future. He can't get away from me that easily.

what a horrible person who did that to you? that's so sad thinking everything is set then just because of a letter. everything planned has gone. i haven't known someone who had to call off a wedding nor who did. hoping it won't happen to me. that's really life and love. be strong girl.

I just answered a post here where a runaway bride in Taiwan has to pay the groom for calling off the wedding or spend so time in jail! I think it is better Not to marry than marry the wrong person. But to wait until 2 weeks before and disappear? Wrong!

Hi jill! I have never experienced that! That must have been a terrible experience. I think I can imagine the shame. Did you hate the guy? Because if I were in your position, I would probably hate him. I wouldn't be able to go out of my room for a long time! I probably wouldn't be able to face my own family. I don't know anyone who have experienced something like this. My friends who are already married went through with their weddings just fine. And now that I think of the consequences for calling off a wedding, I'm glad their weddings pushed through.

I am so sorry that this happened to you. It must have been devastating for you as well as embarrassing at the time. But the old cliche is right; time is a great healer. No this has not happened to any one I know. Many blessings

I had a friend who had to call a wedding off like a month before it was scheduled! She found out her future husband had gotten involved with another woman! They had everything set! She had her dress,the hall was booked,the honeymoon was booked and the bridesmaids had their dresses! She and her ex had to get together to clear up everything! The families were not happy! It was a mess!

i have not been wed yet and if i were to someday i hope and wish that if i say yes to the person i am really inlove and would have no doubts. I also pray that my future husband will be honest to me. I have not known anyone who has called off a wedding but then i think it is better than having to divorce afterwards.

oh god, fortunately i haven't done it yet nor had to face it. This can be very hard on the prospective partner. So many preparations, money and more importantly emotions invested. Its a breach of trust. but on the other hand its better to happen before the marriage than later. I guess a person going through this badly needs some counseling and support.