You Only LIike

Hello TOni, We are all different in these Society we are living in. YOu're discussion reminded me of a Professor that only be nice to people that are nice to her, and those who are not she gives a real b*tchy approached. there's a downside on liking only those who like you though, some can be pretending, liking some one for a different reasons or has an hidden agenda. I like you as a friend thoughIt's best probably to ignore those who don't like you.

hi toni. yes toni, you are a bad person!!! i have a confession to make as well... i like you because you are a bad person. even though you don't like me, i'll still like you. i'll press the 'like' button infinite times to show you how much i like you. hahahahahahaha!!!! seriously though, i have the same trait. i don't go out of my way for other people to like me and i do remain neutral about how i feel about people who don't like me. i just don't care if people like me or not. i make an effort to be civil and professional and polite but no effort whatsoever for other people to like me. if someone likes me that's fine. if someone doesn't, i couldn't care less.

No, you are not a bad person , just a truthful one! Many pretend to like someone they truly despise.To me that is a form of lying and it chips away pieces of your soul.With your method, you keep your self respect!

haha! sis!! We are really the same. I am just facing a great problem with someone. I don't want to pretend that I am okay when I am not! I can't tolerate with them the whole time. I even said the same thing in my heart that I am not an angle, I do have feeling and I can choose to be or not to be with them. The worst is when we speak up for our own stand they blame us and they say that we are bad in fact we actually did nothing. If they think that I am bad then it is up to them. I've enough toleration with them. I can like whoever I want..(^^)

I can truly understand your situation Toni! It's hard to be friends with others who wouldn't like to be friends with you in reality. But that doesn't make you a bad person. I can relate. But maybe , try to control that. Try to make yourself likeable to other people. Reach out to them. smile. At least you are doing an effort. But if despite all the effort , they would still be aloof with you, then just be civil to them.

of course it doesnt make you a bad person!! why the hell would you spend your time talking to, caring about, spending time with, and liking, someone that can't stand you? lol.. and how would you even be able to spend time with, or talk to this person and try to be their friend anyway if they don't like you? because if they don't like you, surely they wont wanna be around you? and of course we like the people that like us, because.. thats what makes us friends. someone likes me, i like them, we're friends. there are people i don't like though, and if they try to be friends with me i'm like.. no. i don't like you. so it works both ways i guess. but you should not feel bad at all!!

From what I understand from your discussion here is that you tell the truth. I think that is a very positive attitude to have. If a guy criticized you for being honest, then he must have had a problem in accepting truth. If somebody tells me they dont' like me. Then fine, that's OK with me. I don't think I am in this world to be liked by anyone and I too like to say it as it is. If it can hurt somebody who cannot handle it, I would rather say nothing at all, but I don't lie and I would tell them that I wouldn't like to get into such a conversation with them, as there is no point in bashing people over the head with the truth! _Derek

different people have different attitude towards life and friendship. you may not pretend to like someone which you do not like, period. but there are some people who needs to pretend he likes this and that, for the sake of the relationship he has with the other person. just like being in a company or office. you have to pretend that you like your boss when you really don't like him. or pretend that you like your job. just for the sake of keeping the relationship or your means of income. just my thoughts.

I agree with you very much! There are some people that I know don't like me and I don't like them, but I do my best to at least get along with them for the sake of others. My boyfriend's mom really hates me. She admits that she has no good reason for it, she just doesn't like me. And because she is often making very hateful comments too and about me I have stopped trying to be her friend. But, for the sake of my boyfriend I keep being civil to her and I know this make him happy and feel like he has made a good choice in having me as his girlfriend.

Yes I agree with the man. Not because someone else deserves you caring about them, but because not liking someone hurts you. In the long run, it causes people to be bitter. I gave that up myself, and I feel better about it now. You should try it. Not easy, but it is better.

I like you toni! hahaha In my part if someone doesn't like me then I DON'T LIKE HER/HIM MORE.lol You're right, it's so hard to pretend but sometimes if they hate me and I didn't did anything then it's their lost not mine. It doesn't make me ugly anyway..lol :)

I can't pretend either. Even if I should try I just can't because it shows in my face. I don't have to hate them. I just can't be with them. I cannot be plastic. What is the use of being with people who doesn't like you? There will be misunderstandings because you will never get along and it is only a waste of both your time. Later you might end up fighting and it is even worse. You'd rather spend it to your good friends who are true to you. You are fine. It is okay. Some people can judge us for being like that and it is not right to criticize others telling them things that you can tolerate doing to others because everyone is different and he can't expect you to be like him.

well What I do is treating them in the same way they treat me, I think that is fair, because there is nothing else I can do, I am not the kind of person that goes and be like a foolish trying to get the attention of that person, I am like you if I don't like you, you don.t like me. Thanks for this interesting discussion.Blesses.

of course it dose't make you a bad person ,but i don't totally agree with your point! for instance as myself ,my wife used to hate me initially.for my badlooking ,but at last i hit on her by sincereness.it's hard to judge a person in a short term. on the other hand,the society is complicate,sometimes you need favor from the people who don't like you ,then it's time to find ways to please the person who don't like me ,right (actually i do it a lot ).

Hi toni! It is entirely your personal choice that whom you should like or you should not like (no one has any right to criticize you on this account). I endorse your views that if anyone does not like us, then how we can like him/her. It takes two hands to clap or say two to tango, therefore, good relationships could only be maintained when there is warmness from both ends. I also cannot be friends with those, who do not like me.

Hi toni Bad Person? Why? I have known you for quite some time and I can cay that this is a wrong conclusion that people might draw about you. We should accept a person as is - with all qualities and no, your liking for people who are quite like you is quite natural and normal... I think that way.

I am totally like you too. If you don't like me, I don't like you. If you are rude tome, I'll be the same. That's pretty much my life's motto :D But mom says that's not good too. She says we shouldn't hate the ones that hates us, rather just don't care about them. And one thing I've noticed for sure is to make the one that hates you mad, you have to be caring. They go confused and ballistic LOL well atleast that's what I've experienced =D

Hi! I saw an earlier comment that tells that Jesus Christ teaches us to love our enemies. It's true and I think we should all follow that teaching and set aside hate. I can feel you. I am also like that, I don't live to please others. If someone doesn't like me, I try my best to know though the reason because there are some truths in us that we on our own couldn't see. But if it turns out that its something to be an invalid reason and just that that person doest like me, then its best to just simply ignore the person but not to the point of doing bad to them and not helping them when time comes they needed help.

I think we should go beyond the feelings of sympathy and antipathy. These feelings are in us and can avoid to know how really a person is. It doesn't mean that we don't have such feelings but our opinion shouldn't be determinated by them only. :)

I think you're just being true to yourself, and your not bad.actually I think your nice. and how can you like someone who don't like you in the first place, and even if you tried to please them they wont even appreciate it.