Staying Home Or Working? Which is more difficult?

I am a sahm to an autistic child, I promise you sahm's have it way harder than dads who work. I also work from home when I can however so that makes it even harder, sometimes I miss some sleep, but at the end of the day it's all worth it. I do not want someone else raising my child, and I love, being a mommy, it is my dram come true. My baby will be starting school soon, and then I will time to get out and work during her school hours, which will be a lot easier for me. But between taking care of my daughter, my household, and myself, and working from home it is exhausting b/c it really is 24/7 it seems. But it'll get easier very soon, so I'm thankful for everything, and if your husband thinks his job is harder, he should trade places with you for one day, then he will see.

I think the chores at home should be shared! Even if one is working out of the house....like the husband...there is no reason they can't come home and watch the kids....cook dinner etc.

A good mother's job is never done. Your husband has no idea and the only way he will understand is if you say one day you are going out of town and has to take care of the kids! This is the main reason I Never will marry nor have kids. It is a job that would make me so frustrated because I Know I wouldn't get Any help and it is so under appreciated. Knowing me I would take it just so much and I would leave.So of course staying home is more difficult but no one No One who hasn't either seen a stay at home mom or been a stay at home will Ever admit it! Oops I ranted. Sorry!

I do both. I stay at home and look after everything, including caring for someone, and work part-time... thankfully from home! In my opinion, being a stay-at-home parent is easier until you reach 2 kids. Then it's gotta start being at least as hard. 3 is definitely harder. (Bear in mind I have none yet.) I would imagine that having 3 kids and being a stay-at-home is like trying to hold down three part-time jobs that overlap in hours.

choose one of your job. don't forget, kid need a parent more than other. and you still get other job that you can do at home,at part time.

I think both is just hard. It wasnt easy to be working and still caring for the house at the same time. And it is hard too to be working 24/7 in 365 days... wow that really is hard... I can't imagine myself in your situation with 3 kids. I think it really is hard for both of you.

I think that both are tough, but you are right in the points that you make. I also worked outside the home and had all the work at home to do and I was home schooling our girls. It was tough! I completely understand you feeling that yours is a harder job as you can't ever get a sick day or a day off and I agree.

I think staying home is more difficult. I am working mother; I have to come home from work and cook for my family. But I still prefer this way than staying home the whole day and cooking and cleaning, I think I would be equally tired whether I work and come home or just stay home and do the same things. Now at least my husband helps me; but if I stayed home I cannot expect help from him; so rather this is nice Staying home is more difficult....

hi lovingmybabies I think so many men just do not realize the scope of what we women do as wives moms, and house cleaners. they do not mean to belittle us. My hubby found out just what all I did when I was young and after two children and the second a terrible delivery I had to have emergency hysterectomy. I was in the hospital for ten days and my hubby tried to do all I did and had to ask my mom to care for the two little ones one and two years olds only 11 months apart. after that he started helping me with house work a nd caring for the two kids too. He said it opened his eyes for sure. I am not rude here as I think a lot of men do not really comprehend just all we do as wives and moms then when they have to play Mr Mom they do understand. we all have it rough at times, both men and women too.

Ive had been a single parent so i always had to go to work and come home to work some more. I got the kids to help out in the house. Since they helped mess it up they can help clean it up. I think either way if you go out or stay home there is always plent of work to do. But if there is a couple that both work outside the home they both should work in the home too. My son-in-law is one that tries to come home and lounge around. My daughter is right on his tail about that too. She also has the kids help out.

Although I would agree that for the one left home the job is 24/7, and for the other that go to work gets to have breaks and days off, I don't necessary agree that the one at home has it tougher. Unless the one out is working on some mundane work where there is no stress, then that I can see as easier. Usually, there is a tremendous amount of stress involved in having a job. And thus the need for breaks, as there is only so much a person can take. And then there is the additional stress of working for or with difficult people, commuting to and from work, etc.

Well,I think it denpends,if the children are under 3years old,I think the stay-at -home ones are tougher,if the children are more than 3years,maybe you can say they have more easier times.It also depends on the work the leave-home ones do. So need to compare all the conditions together.

Hi friend you are doing a good work to do job and maintain home also,but as you said it is exhausted,so I think you should take care of your kids and then in spare time you do some work on home as a online work.so you easily maintain your responsibility.have a nice day........

Be it stress or work pressure,its upto an invidual majorly and we can completely blame it on the job profile.If you love your job,then you would appreciate spending time for it. So if at all you feel you love your profession and dont have time for yourself, then get some ideas on how to manage your time.As people say the other side of the fence looks greener,you feel your husband has less work.Probably his job is hectic too, but he never complains :) Any job on earth is difficult for that matter.Even sitting idol at home or snoaring and sleeping all the time as a career is hard.Nobody would like to spend their hard earned bucks unwisely, so is your employer,and no wonder he would demand more sweat from you.

I'm not sure. Some of it depends on what each person is suited for. Our family is set up differently. I work part time in the evenings, so when my husband gets home from work, he has to cook dinner, clean up, give our son a bath. I usually arrive home in time for bedtime and we do that together, then we have a bit of a break or we clean, or he goes for a run and I do some sewing. Sometimes my husband works evenings, so he does most of the morning things. I do end up doing most of the laundry. He just procrastinates too much to actually be in charge of it. I've tried not doing it, and when we run out of clothes, he'll do laundry, but then it's an enormous task. I'm pretty sure that going to work is easier. Evidence: when I first started booking clients after we brought our son home, my husband couldn't handle the entire day on the weekends and asked me to book fewer sessions when you go to work, you don't have a toddler who intermittently wants to be picked up so he can watch whatever you're doing. Kind of hard to do laundry with one arm. (But it's pretty cute when he tries to help). when you go to work, no one throws food at you. if you put something down while you're at work, you can be reasonably certain that that is where you'll find it later. Instead of in a random drawer. (Or for a week, he put everything in the laundry room garbage. I don't know why I just watched him do it. At the time, it was hilarious).

I think both are tough. But I feel it's harder if you are the female in both accounts. Like you said when I've been home with my kids I had to suck it up when I was sick do the best I could and keep an eye on them as well as myself. When husbands (as us women typically are the one to stay home and earn less in wages) are sick they crawl into bed and don't think twice about anything other then themselves. On their day off they want to relax as much as possible. At home you are right you never leave your job, the errands and tasks always need to be completed to the best of your ability no matter how tired and unmotivated you are. Now you mentioned a working parent, I think they have it a smidge easier as they spend part of their day at work and with adults away from the headaches at home. But then when they come home they are in a jam for time trying to accomplish alot in so little time. And typically it's the female who'll come home and make the meal, toss in a load of wash, run the kids to soccer and the husband just wants to sit and do his thing while we go nuts. I work part time and I do enjoy getting out and being someone other than Mom. I don't like coming home to find things trashed, dishes piled high to the sky, home work not completed, and trash not taken out when I have alot of hours especially. Some reason it really makes me and hubby is clueless.

I think that they are both the same amount of toughness. And I agree that if you are working outside the home and come home to have to do all the homemaker duties as well that it even more rough and highly unfair if it is one person doing all of that. And even if one person is a stay at home parent they deserve breaks from work too and it's sad that so many husbands won't give their wives a break from being homemaker and stay at home mom. Wives need breaks too.

Staying at home!!! The tense and pressure is lot more by staying at home than working. Moreover if the mom need to take care those naughty kids.(^^) More problems and pressure. By staying at home mom need to get ready 24/7 to mkae sure everything is done.(^^)

Here,s my point of view, i rather stay at home and work from home. Its all about a peace of mind. I think taking care of 1 child is much more difficult than 3. Why i said that cause when theres 3 they will do everything together and the younger will always follow what the eldest do. Let them watch TV or video or listen to musics, make them occupied with educational stuffs. Children have a lot of questions that they want answer as they are growing up, who is better to provide them the needs. Now as a parent you have to aim that your children will get good education and proper guidance before they are out from the house socialising with other kids. Count the days that they are growing up and soon your responsibility will be lighten. Im talking tru my experience and now my children have succeded being in university. Looking back ive made the right decision to stay and work from home. All the best to you and me.

well i got mine tougher since i do everything, got a regular job, and i do house choirs, though i don't take care of children since i have none.. anyways, i believe with regards to your life is, i would say, you have a difficult life, but somehow working i mean your husband's work may also be stressful, i mean, have you ever experience of stress related to deadlines, handling irate boss, managing a team, working with colleagues with issues and all.. can you imagine that?.. so if that may have your husband's case... i would say you both have a difficult work.. so that's my opinion..