I'm learning to say no.

Saying "no" is definitely ok especially if the favor is something out of your way. We all have the right and capacity to say "no". It doesn't mean we don't want to help them out but it's because we "can't" do something they ask. It's indeed difficult to reject a request or favor but if you end up accepting it but was unable to fulfill it, don't you think it might lead to a bigger mess. To add, saying "no" might also help someone grow since you are letting him/her experience and do things on her own :D What you said is right. You should only take on favors that's only within your capacity :)

I am not really good myself at saying "no" too. And Have found myself in sticky situations at times, have found myself going to the places I never wanted to, doing things I never wanted to just coz I couldn't say NO! I don't know why saying "no" is that hard a deal for me but it really is. I have to start having some say of my own too from now on and lean to say NO.

Learning not to be co-dependent is not easy. It is a everyday thing. Just like an addicti has to steer away from things so does a co-dependent personality. Being self reliant is also a good characteristic to learn and something to be very proud of. People who use others for favors will soon tire their friends and family.

No, you should learn to say no. It is nice to help out friends or family when you can but if you start to be taken advantage of it is time to quit. It sounds like you are being taken advantage of, and should say no if it would be a hardship for you!

I really hate asking favor from people even my relatives because i don't like giving them any burdens. Sometimes we really have to learn how to say no or else we would always be prone to abuse. Good luck!

I am told by my admires to learn to say NO..but I dont feel comfortable saying no to someone who wants to have his/her work done.At times it becomes so complicated when you have other things to do but as usual because of your habit to say yes to everyone you give priority to other's work and find yourself stuck under loads of pending work of your own.Its easy to think that next time we will refuse..but you know by saying yes yes every time we have made people use to it.and when they listen NO they react as if we hurt them or not giving importance to them. It is better to be reserved.but if you are kind and helpful in nature you will do it again. hahaha

We have the same problem as I too can't easily say no, and it has really bothered me in so many ways. Learning to say it and stand firm to it is something I still have to develop fully. Good luck to us!