Do your parents want a grandson to continue the family line?!
By Robben2009
@Robben2009 (146)
China
August 8, 2011 8:08pm CST
I have a daughter who is almost 2 years old, she is so so lovely and I love her very much. For me, it is ok no matter I got a girl or boy, but it is different for my parents, they love boy more compared to the girl. I have a brother, he aslo only has one daughter who is 6 years old, so my parents especailly my mother always persuade us to get one grandson for them, because in their opinion only boy can continue the family line. I understand them, I personally also want one kid more, but not now, because my daughter is too young and I don't have enough energy and money to support two kids now, maybe after 2 or 3 years. Besides, one kid is too lonely, two kids are just enough, they can care each other when we get old.
Do your parents also prefer the boy? Please note which country you are from if you don't mind, thanks.
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8 responses
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Aug 11
I am from the Philippines.
I think, our parents also want a son for their child. Thus , my mom gave birth one after the other, for hope of having a son. Unfortunately, we summed up to 5 girls already and so they stopped hoping, because we are all that they can afford to give a nice and comfortable life. Thus, the family name of our father is now changed into our husband's family names.
Nonetheless, my parents are proud that they have brought us well and given them honor even without a son.
I guess, it's every family's wish to have a son to continue their family line, but they accept what God would give them nonetheless.
@Robben2009 (146)
• China
9 Aug 11
It is also very good that your parents have five girls, because at least you would not feel lonely
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Aug 11
Yes, we enjoyed our growing up days so much, until all have gotten married.
Now, two of us , have 3 boys each for their children. They had a reversal of my mother's fate for their children .
The other one have 2 girls, the other one have 1 boy 2 girls and me 1 girl.
But the boys bore their father's family name not my father's. My father's family name got overshadowed.
@liyakonnan (2)
• China
9 Aug 11
I'm from southeast China.Many people in China,especially in rural districts,want to have boys.But now this situation has changed.People who are very rich and people who don't have much money may want sons more eagerly than the middle class do.It's a kind of traditional Chinese culture,I think.Rich people want to have boy heirs and people who are not so rich just think boys are better.But in the district I live,girls are equal to boys.Sometimes parents prefer girls,because they are more thoughtful and sweet.What's more,it doesn't cost too much for a girl,compared to a boy.I guess you are from China.(maybe I'm wrong.)I prefer girls!
@Robben2009 (146)
• China
9 Aug 11
Yes you are right, I'm from China, the reason many people prefer the boy is that this is a kind of traditional chinease culture, this phenomenon is more popuplar in the rural districts
@fromvoid (62)
• China
9 Aug 11
my parents want me to have a gril as their grandchild, but I want no kids at all. This bothering me all the time. I think there got be some way to persuade ur parents or something can distract them, or u gonna have to fight for your stand. good luck with that.
We living our own life not for anyone else, so i suggest u to fight for yourself from destroying your life and keep giving love to your little girl.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
9 Aug 11
For me my parents they are in middle category if have then it is if not then it is okay for them just because we are hold the priority's in life like serving Jehovah God.
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
9 Aug 11
Maybe it's a cultural difference, but I don't understand why a male is considered as someone who can continue the family line and a female isn't I mean, females are the ones who get pregnant and will bring grandsons or granddaughters, isn't it? I'm in Japan, by the way, as you asked to know which countries are we in
My parents want me to have kids one day, and I have told them dozens of times that it won't happen, but I suppose they think dreaming is free
@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
9 Aug 11
Here in Sweden we do not think about to have especially a boy more than to have healthy children. Well, in some families men seem to only be able to produce the sperms for the result for the woman to give birth to girls. As there are other families who have only boys. I think one should be grateful for the children and grandchildren you will have either boy or girl. We are human beings.
@r3jcorp (1382)
• Philippines
9 Aug 11
My father's wish to continue the family line or name stopped long time ago when he got only 2 daughters. When my sister and I got pregnant, he never say anything of his dream to have a grandson. But as soon as my sister got a baby boy as her second child, we know that he really wished for it. He took care of our little Yang-Yang and pampered him so much. The little boy loves him too much that he could live without his parents at his side but not without my father. The neighbors and relatives knows the special bond between the grandfather and the grandson and the relatives loves back the boy as special as my father was giving him. The 3 other granddaughters are not complaining because they all love the youngest boy.
The sad thing on this story was my father left us all when my nephew is only 3 years old. I know my father had so many things that he still wants to teach our little boy but his time came sooner to left him. At present, I am doing my best to look after of little Yang-Yang and I guess the rest of the family are doing their part.
On my in-law's part, I know they are wishing too for a grandson but they know the reality in our life today. It is hard to have another child and I wouldn't want any if I could not give him a life he deserves.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
9 Aug 11
My parents do not ask me too much for this.No matter boy or girl,it is ok for them.I think this is not a problem,you just do not need to worry.As i'm the only child in my family,so,just don't think too much.We're all the good children in our parents' eyes.Some people don't have children after all.