Is love a matter of decision?
By airamtheb
@airamtheb (370)
August 9, 2011 11:10am CST
It is YES for me.That part of the brain called hypothalamus is partly responsible of the feelings we have decided to feel. No doubt, love is just a matter of decision. If one says he is in love, it is because he decided to be in love while the one who says he falls out of love,it is because he decided to fall out of love.
God has put the brain above the heart for us to let the brain rule over the heart, not the heart above the brain for the heart to rule over the brain. Therefore, anyone who is brokenhearted, there is no reason for you to sulk and cry in the corner as if it is the end of the world, for you always have a reason to decide not to love the person who let you decide to love.
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@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
9 Aug 11
Love is not a decision of the mind, it is the will of the heart, a kind of magic that can not be explained. You can not choose the person whom you will fall in love with. It will come automatically no matter how your brain tells you to stop it, the brain will have no power.
If you decide to separate from that person you love as the brain instructed you, you may act out of decision but it doesn't mean that you will stop loving that person.
@stevemartin (43)
• India
10 Aug 11
sorry to hexebella,love is a decision of mind as well as will of heart
@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
don't be sorry stevemartin, if that's your case, mine is different.....it is my heart that loves not my brain....it is my brain that thinks, not my heart....we humans are wonderfully and uniquely created by our Creator and He created me this way :)
@craquele9 (17)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
I totally agree, love is a decision and is not based on feelings alone. Of course at first it will be guided by our emotions but eventually as we spend more time with the person we love, we discover things about the person which might cause us to "fall out of love" with the person.It may also happen that we just had that infatuated feeling but if we decide to love the person and make her the significant other we want to spend our life with then it becomes a decision. Ever wonder why some arranged marriages last longer than those who have the freedom to choose the person they can love but eventually end up having divorce?Well it has always been their choice to stay or not.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
welcome to the wonderful world of mylot. for me when it comes to love the heart rules more over the brain. that is why sometimes people end up loving the wrong people for they did not use their brain. they only used their hearts to decide. i agree that God puts the brain over the heart but we are only human that sometimes we go after what we feel without thinking. again, that is only my opinion. i married my wife even my parents are against it. but i am happy i choose the one my heart was shouting for and so far we are on our 9th year wedding anniversary.
@Doritoes (84)
• United States
10 Aug 11
I would say no and then maybe sometimes yes. Yes, because we when we fall in love when choose whether we want to continue and do something progressive with it or just ignore it. No, because we all know you can't force yourself to fall in or out of love. It is not an option. No matter how hard you try to make yourself fall in love with someone you know it's not possible and vice versa.
@azizan88 (1)
•
10 Aug 11
Love love love, its a nice word probably the nicest thing that a human can thing and feel about, nobody can say that love is a matter of decision cause love comes from more than one thing such as the first look or a friend that you know to much about or even a person at work that you've never had the balls to go and talk too. Love is something that comes out of uncontrolled feelings towards the other person you cant know if its today or tomorrow or maybe never.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
9 Aug 11
I must be inhuman because my heart and brain work together . I feel just as much than I think. When I say I love you to my guy I mean it. I didn't decide it , I feel it. When love is concerned the heart is first But the brain agrees. When it comes to decisions the brain is first and the heart agrees.I when my heart was broken I felt it . I didn't decide it! Sorry. I must not be human!
