Are you SINGLE or MARRIED?
By Dominique25
@Dominique25 (9464)
United States
August 10, 2011 1:01am CST
Are you single or Married? What would you say are the pros and cons of your current situation. I'm married. I know when I was single I felt it was horrible to be single. I wanted to find a person who cared deeply for me and who I could spend my life with. I worked hard during my years of singleness focusing on differing goals I wanted to pursue. When I started courting it was a wonderful, enjoyable time for me. My husband and I have known each other for a long time. We love each other dearly and have a precious daughter together. I'm happy that we are together. I'm not saying that marriage is easy because it takes a lot of time, energy, effort, patience and commitment. I think if a person is considering marriage it's important to think about all that it entails and the responsibilities that a person will gain. For example if a woman absolutely hates cooking,cleaning, and answering to another person it would probably be wise to reevaluate whether or not she should get married. There are pros and cons to being married. When a person is single they may have more time to do other things and focus on goals without distraction. With marriage a person is able to spend hopefully a lot of time with their spouse and that's a blessing. Spending time with your best friend for years to come can be something that is enjoyable and that a person looks forward too. What's your situation?
7 responses
@Awinds (2468)
• United States
10 Aug 11
I am....single! I really quite enjoy it actually.
For one one thing I have never really been one to establish close connections to people in general. My family is an exception of course, but how you can not be close to the one in whom you spent nine months? Anyway, for example I am not on Facebook or Yahoo Answers or even Twitter. I don't have a desire to be either. In real life I have about one or maybe two best friends. I am obviously not the most social person in the world.
As a single person, I am in full control. I don't have to watch those close to me do what I consider to be mistakes. If I want to do something I do it, with my only responsibility being myself. In marriage you must consider the other person - you do not have the freedom to do as you please.
Then there is the fact of my personality. I am independent, opinionated and a bit stubborn. I enjoy working by myself and I was never to thrilled about group projects in school. This isn't exactly a good soup of traits for a successful marriage. There is also the fact that I am a bit lazy in my house cleaning...
So there you have it. At this point I plan to remain single. However I am not totally closed to marriage of the right one comes along. :)
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 Aug 11
I understand where you are coming from. Facebook and other sites like that aren't all that people make them to be. In fact it causes many problems for relationships. Being asingle person has many benefits as well. I think it's a lot easier to go and do as you please. A person who is single generally doesn't have to consider another person when making decisions. I wholeheartedly agree with you on not having to watch your partner or spouse make a mistake. As a married person i think that is one of the hardest things to do. When I was single I didn't have the finances to travel or go different places as much as I would have liked. I think it's a great thing for those who are single to be able to take advantage of all the opportunities that come their way. I'mhappy for you and glad that you are enjoying your singleness and if or when you find the right person you are able to enjoy marriage as well.
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@veedee13 (242)
• United States
12 Aug 11
I am very much single and i couldn't be any happier.Being single means being independent.I can go anywhere without having to consult anyone where I go or what time i'll be home.Although,being single can also mean feeling lonely but it has its benefits.I love being single and independent.Great feeling!
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
14 Sep 11
I agree with you being single does have it's benefits. I have friends who are single some for a short time, and others have been single for awhile. They admit that it can be lonely but they make the best of their situations. But that can also be the case with marriages at times we have to work hard to improve ourselves and our relationship. We have to make the best of whatever situation we may be in.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
11 Aug 11
I prefer to be single! I don't have to answer to anyone! I can come and go as I please! I can do what I want! I don't have to argue with anyone! When a person is married you have to do all that and more! I don't want that! I love living alone! I am grateful I don't have a boyfriend, or a roommate or a husband! Men are to much trouble! I have trouble trusting them and when I am in a relationship I start acting like my mom which is not good! Marriage is very stressful! Being single is alot less stressful! No marriage for me,ever!
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
12 Aug 11
Lol, you seem to have it all figured out. I'm happy for you. I wish I was that way, knowing exactly what I wanted. Enjoy your singleness and have lots of fun in your life. Being responsible only for yourself isn't so bad, is it? Marriage does have it's stresses. Take care of yourself and do all the wonderful things that you would like to do with your friends and family. Being an independent person is something to be proud of.
@gingerberrie (191)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
Hi there! Yeah...I'm married. I agree with you that you should be prepared before getting married. There are lots of blessings and sacrifices will encounter in marriage life. I’ve taught a lot of things especially the unconditional patience which is the greatest key in our smooth and happy journey in life.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 Aug 11
Yeah, I agree with you. We learn a lot of quality skills from marriage. It takes time and patience. I strongly feel because of marriage I'm a better and stronger person. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me.
@xcyper2084 (152)
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
I am SINGLE but happily in a relationship for four years now. I have a long distance relationship with my boyfriend I don't know if that is an advantage because in a way I can still do whatever I want. Being single gives you freedom to do whatever you want .To be with your friends till dawn .You will be responsible on your actions you will run your own life. I think marriage is a submission of oneself , you will have a partner in life that you need to consider.Everything will be limited because you need to consider your family. Priorities will change family first before anything else. So if you want to get married make sure that you will be ready on this changes its a submission of yourself and a Big sacrifice.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
12 Aug 11
It is good that you and your partner have been together for four years even though you have a long distance relationship. Having a long distance relationship does have challenges in itself. I agree with you, you still are able to do as you want and not necessarily have to worry about your partner. Marriage does involve being submissive and yielding certain aspects of your life that you may have done a lot when a person was single. Family does need to come first and a couple has to consider these things and how they view them before entering into marriage.
@varier (5685)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 11
I am single and very happy B-)
Actually I am really enjoy my situation now, being free without the bond of marriage. :)
But, I really eager to marry in the future :).
When I already meet a right person for me, and having a good income for life.
Definitely, I will married! xD
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
12 Aug 11
I commend you. You have a good head on your shoulders. You know what things you would like to accomplish and the goals that you have set for yourself. And then you hope to get married. That really is the way to do it. That way you have a stable income and are able to help support your family. In this way then you are more likely to be able to relax and enjoy the wonderful person that you meet and hope to marry when he comes along.
@alquizar (480)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
I am single but I am happy and contented with my life because I had my family and circle of friends around me.As of now I am not ready yet to get married and to have my own family because I am still thinking about my own career and to help my family financially.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 Aug 11
I feel it is very helpful to have a close family and circle of fruends when a person is single. Feeling lonely can cause a person to desire marriage more. Keep up the good work in taking care of your family and working hard on your career. Finding a career that you like and that helps take care of your family will be something you enjoy.
