For You It's Ok To Hit On Women?
By visavis
@visavis (5934)
Philippines
August 10, 2011 4:48am CST
Hi there My friends
Here is my new discussion might be rise eyebrows of other, but let me see your views about here.
I've got a question to all of you mylotters: Do women enjoy being hit on - or do they loath it?
If YOU know in your heart-of-hearts women enjoy it - maybe even love it - you're well on your way to experiencing massive success with the women. If not that women find men hitting on them more annoying you're in big trouble.
But some said, DON'T worry, my friend, because you're in the same position most men are you agree? Many man believes women hate to be hit on - and rightfully so.
Like for example, very open in the bar or club scene you've probably overheard groups of women yapping away about how they fear and loath men hitting on them. why they accepted that because of money or they are happy to do with?
Let me see the same holds true with women. Most women claim, they hate when guys hit on them. But most women love it. They can't get enough of it. But they'll never admit it. It's their dirty little secret. Are you agree? Why?
Don't be mad on me, just share your views about this...
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18 responses
@aimend13 (51)
• United States
10 Aug 11
For me it really depends on the style of flirting. If a strange guy is being too confident, open, and aggressive - it's a terrible turn OFF. I do not want to be made to feel uncomfortable while I'm out having a good time and enjoying myself.
However, is a guy is just being sweet and genuinely friendly that I'm much more likely to be flattered and reciprocate. For example, if I'm sitting at a bar and a guy comes up to me, introduced himself and tries to start a perfectly normal conversation then I'm flattered. It shows that he wants to get to know me, not just try to bed me or get my number.
With guys that I have an already established friendship with, flirting goes much further. But then again that type of flirting is just for fun, and it's not meant to be indicative of actual feelings. Having a friendship with someone already establishes a relationship in which a certain level of boldness is considered funny and not harassing.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
I've encountered a lot men hitting on me. Friends i met online did it but i told them i'm married so they need to step back a little and should think of me as just a friend. Even twitter male friends hit on me publicly on twitter, but i would just laughed at them. They all know i'm married anyway!
In the bar though, i ignore those strangers hitting on me as i find it very offensive. I consider being hit on a bar as very offensive. That's just the way i see it. And i can easily get into trouble because they can do something to me physically in a bar. So my group of friends would usually surround me when they see a man coming towards me.
So for me, i don't enjoy it from a stranger. But for casual friends who do it as a joke, i just laugh at them.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
"Hitting on" someone and physical abuse are two different things right? But you used the phrase hitting on which means flirting and there's no physical act involved in there.
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@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
hi visavis,
First Hitting woman physically is a NO NO no one has the right to hurt anyone physically,verbally or mentally there are some woman who allowed this things happened to them for many reasons 
But for me I will not allow anyone to hurt me because I am so loved by everyone even my father he never hit us or spank us.
Hitting in a way of flirting well I am not good on this so I can't comment any further 
happy mylotting
But for me I will not allow anyone to hurt me because I am so loved by everyone even my father he never hit us or spank us.
Hitting in a way of flirting well I am not good on this so I can't comment any further
happy mylotting
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
Yeah everybody don't want man hitting on women but sometimes there are claiming that some men are doing physically abuse women by hitting them.
On the other hand yeah some women are accepting some abusive words hitting to them in order to avoid any troubles. But some said they are happy to hear that, what are you crazy a normal answer.. right?
@lilbabycatapillar (497)
• United States
10 Aug 11
Hitting women and hitting ON women are too different things. Hitting a woman is striking a woman. But hitting ON a woman is just slang for flirting. 
@AgentGulaman (3546)
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
I think women loves being hit on. It can boost their egos and self confidence. But I think there is a fine line between being hit on and being harassed or picked on. In my opinion, women loved it when great looking or guys who interests them will try to hit on them. It is much like flirting and any amount of flirting results in a good feeling for women. But if the guy who will hit on him has a bad reputation, a plain non hygienic street guy or a guy with no pleasing personality, girls will surely hate being hit on by them. It will be disgusting for them. 
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@GemmaR (8517)
•
10 Aug 11
I don't think that you can say that it's just men who hit on women, because I know of a lot of women who will hit on men as well. For me, personally, I don't like it when a man comes up to me and starts flirting because I feel uncomfortable with it. I prefer to be friends with a man first and then take the relationship to that level; whereas a lot of men just prefer to "pull" on a night out and then form their relationships that way. I would never be "forward" enough on a night out to be able to just go up to a man and tell him that I fancied him, so that would be entirely out of the question for me.
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jaiho®@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
He's referring to being flirted with. "Hitting on" someone means flirting with them.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
hello toni,
thanks for clearing...
i just want to be specific before digging deeper.
jaiho®
@umabharti (3972)
• India
11 Aug 11
WOMEN wait for the time to hit back.So when men do like to hit or show their anger on women should be afraid ,when the time comes women will take the step to give it back ,its the men who lose anger very fast and tehy like to use physical torture to women ,however when time comes the women will do take steps to not even think to go to the court for punishing such idiots who show up their strenght on women for just because they are male gender.
@umabharti (3972)
• India
13 Aug 11
It can be anything my friend,anything that hurts does sit in the heart and mind ,so any harsh words ,any sort of physical torture,any action or flirting all do have a return back.
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 11
Why women will like to get hit by someone physically? I don't really understand why, but by thinking how they think about getting hit physically in their shoes, I don't think any women will like to get hit physically unless she is insane.
Basically, people who are normal will not like it when someone hit them regardless of gender. Unless they are more into something that they like other to torture them. That is call abnormal.
Basically, people who are normal will not like it when someone hit them regardless of gender. Unless they are more into something that they like other to torture them. That is call abnormal. 
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
10 Aug 11
Hi visavis,
I can only speak for myself and hitting of any kind is not appreciated and or wanted on my behalf. Causing physical pain to a woman and or a man to me is disrespectful. My thinking is that if I don't like inflicted pain, then I should not inflict it myself.
As for flirting well if the parties involved don't mind then I guess it is okay for them. I am in a relationship so I don't feel keen on being flirted to as I would not appreciate my boyfriend flirting and or being flirted too. lol
@lilbabycatapillar (497)
• United States
10 Aug 11
If men don't hit on women, what are they supposed to do? It's just that many women expect more from a man that hits on her, and he might not be looking for a relationship. Some women also just hate being hit on much older men, or guys who are too cocky. The nice, romantic guys they want to hit on them might be too shy. Women are usually easily flattered, though. Even if they feel creeped out and openly reject a guy, they do get an ego boost from getting hit on. I agree though, a lot of them complain about it, but they do like it. They might make it seem like they're annoyed by it because they are trying to seem unattainable, and if they complain about it to their friends, they might actually be bragging about how often they get hit on, but they try to make it seem as though they're not bragging.
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@Fragab (128)
• Philippines
14 Aug 11
It is bad to actually hit anyone, be it a man or a woman. Physical abuse, regarding who is doing the abusing part is bad. There should not be any hitting at any means in any relationship. If there is a case that one prefers being hit, them that person has problems. Being liked to be hit is something no normal person will like. If one is enjoying it, that would mean he is not normal and probably has a psychological issues that could have rooted from childhood.
Now, being hit on, as in being flirted with, is something else. Most women enjoy it when they like the guy hitting on them.
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
14 Aug 11
Hello my friend, welcome to mylot it seems your new here..
Thanks to your views regarding the topic which actually your correct. But if you can ask to a man why they are hitting such women, definitely they have reasons which absulately they are saying I'm hitting because it is deserve so something done wrong in the part of women, however if hitting without reasons may it is the one you are talking about...
@Fragab (128)
• Philippines
14 Aug 11
Hitler has reasons why he killed all those jews, right? Everyone have reasons for doing things that they wanted to do. But if truth be told, hitting does not justify anything. If by chance a women does something worth hitting, that still does not give him the right to hit her. No one deserves to be hit, even if they done things that the other person perceived to be wrong. Being equal in a relationship, no one is better than the other.
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
31 Aug 11
It depends. If you're gross about it I'm likely to slap you or at least I would be if I weren't a pacifist. I'll tell you off in a second if you're inappropriate to me. But if I like you and you are not rude about expressing yourself you might actually get somewhere.
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
Hi kababayan!
No one deserves to be hit! I myself don't like to think of it.
I've seen my parents always fighting while I'm on my way in growing up. Its my mom who hits my dad and my dad never hit my mom back.. Cuz he said he respect my mom and so all the women out there.
I just got so much respect to my dad because of it!
YEs, maybe some likes to be hit.. but mostly of all women, no ones likes it!
@minomarimat (372)
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
It depends on the current state of the woman's heart. There are some cases when women with broken hearts sometimes come together (if they're all friends), go the the club and party like crazy, and in those situations women sometimes like being hit on by guys, just because they forget the sadness and pain they felt from the past relationship.
Or of course, sometimes they're just too wild. I hope I don't offend any lady in the community.
@bholebaba19 (307)
• India
11 Aug 11
Hi visavis,I dont think any women like this type of behaviour to hit them.I also dont like this type of people who like to hurt women.
