Do I want I child

Hi, I just want a simple clarification that you said ‘My boyfriend and I had been together for almost two years and we love each other very much’ – what should I understand from this, that you are married or just living with a person whom you like. May be our cultural difference, if you are not married, I request you to get married with the person with whom you are currently living. Or, if are married, in that case, you could have start with “My husband and I had been together…., it is ok. Now back to your real problem, as you said, you had an ambition to become a graduate and become a working girl. I think, if you are not qualified enough, you are not at all late. The age of 22 is not too much to get a degree. If your partner is working, or an earning person, you can pursue your studies. If you are brilliant enough and a strong ambition and decided or dedicated mind to study, I request you to continue your studies and try to get a job first and then think for a child. You are still 22 and your first child birth can even after 25 or 26-27 and it is not too much. If you already have a job and become an earning member, you can get prepared for pregnancy. If both are not working and still having financial problems, how difficult it could be after getting a baby. You may not enjoy the life thereafter so easily. So, as you are aware of your present situations, act wisely considering all facts. But one thing I can surely tell you that for a child you can even wait for another 2 or 3 years more. My wife give birth to my first baby when my wife was at the age of 27 and also after 3 years of our marriage. So, there are people around with nice plans. You talk with your h/b (bf) in detail and take a combined decision whichever is most appropriate. Please excuse me, if you are not married, first go for it and rest all are afterwards. It is my request and you can clear my doubts later on. Thanks

I think you have to weight the pros and cons of your decision. First, if you will have a baby what will be gone to you? Obviously, you will not be able to enjoy the life of a single woman with no commitments. So, you will have to be responsible for your actions. The moment that your baby was born, you need to be extra careful so that the baby will always be safe. More time will be spent to your baby since the baby needs so much attention for its growth and development. You will suffer from lack of good sleep because you have to check from time to time if the baby's diaper is full or not with urine and feces. The milk should always be prepared so that in case of urgency you will not be cramming on preparing it. Those things that I said are all cons of having a baby. But there are also pros in having one. Its up to you decide if your really going to have a baby soon or have to find a decent job and save money for your future. God bless and good luck!

I think 22 year old mother is just too young. When you get a baby, you don't have much time to do business that you are interested in as you need to care for your baby.

It is sure that everybody will require children. I would suggest you to first finish your bechelor degree then find a good job and marry the boy friend. You are too young and you will never be late to have a child. You may try to have a child when you are in late 20s as you will be ready mentally and physically to take of your child. Your dream of becoming a career woman should never die. You must not think of fully depending on our husband or your parents.

You're too young! You're only 22 years old! I disagree with that mentality of "waiting to become ready will result to not having a child" thing that you mentioned. It's not that you're waiting to become ready, but you have to consider finances as a huge factor in starting a family. You should at least be able to feed the whole family, if you want to start one. I mean, that you don't depend on your parents anymore. Considering that you're only 22 years old, you still have a long way to go. You're young, you don't have to make haste for starting a family. That can wait. You should always consider the child's welfare if you want to start making one.

Well, its up to you Miryana. Things like that need preparation and time. You must be absolutely sure that you want it. Maybe at 22 you are still in that stage whether you want to start a career first.Having a baby wont be a problem if you have a supportive partner and family because. It is very important to have these support systems. You do not want to get stressed if you decide to have a baby. Good luck

Hi Miryana,Welcome to the real world,you see many young people have these wonderful notions that there going to have this, that, and the other, there going to go here, there and every where, which is a total allusion,why would you even contemplate having a child,what can you offer?You have no job(no fault of your own!)and if you have a child, where is your careea exspections going to go,now doubt down the drain,i suggest you tell your boy friend to zip up and come into the real world!Is he trying to pin you down to a life of drudgery?No i thinks there is more about you than that,sit down with yourself,think what you want,you will only get one chance and these decesion are the most inportant you will ever make,Remember there is no going back if you have a child now,I wish you all the love and happiness life can give you!

I think that a lady rarely feels totally ready to have a baby at any time. Sometimes a lady might do a degree at university and not want to begin her career but have a baby. It is best to have enough money and a somewhere to live before having a baby. You are just 22 years old so you have plenty of time to have children. I think usually the best age for a lady to have a baby is age 24 to 29 years old. I had my first baby at age 22 years old. Then I did further studying and my career. I had my disabled son at age 34 years old and my daughter at age 36 years old. I know some ladies have a surprise pregnancy and make the best of what has happened to them. A pregnancy lasts 9 months and so a lady can have about 8 months to get ready for becoming a mom.

This is a complex world and it´s not as simple as before to decide in such a big issue. Having a baby is a full time job and although noone is prepared for being a parent, maybe you want to try your wings at work before starting a family. You might even , after a while, want t go on with your studies and a baby will make imposible. On the other hand, I feel that young parents have more energy and bond better with their children, specially later, when they start their teens. So there are not easy answers. I married early and had my both kids when very young, but had house help. I think I would have gone insane if I had had to be a prisoner of my home and kids all day, all days, for a long time. I could study part time and do the social life a young person needs. Think it well. By the way, I did not go on with the career I started then and stayed at home a couple of years. Then, when the children were older, I resumed it and later on studied something else that was what I felt was the thing for me. I don´t regret any of my decisions. I hope this helps. Have a lovely day!