In love with a friend, I do not know what to do?

Indonesia
August 10, 2011 10:19am CST
I fell into a friend, we worked together for six months, we hang in there and a lot of things together, talking, making jokes and teasing a little. During a break, we sat next to each other, he would hold my hand and stroked my arm, it seems it does not bother me at all, he would say yes (I think anyway). I'm pretty confused, actually do not believe that he likes me but sometimes I feel that what he feels for me. My problem is he has a girlfriend. Imposed on me the whole situation very much and I feel bad about it. I do not know what to do, tell him that I love him or leave him are better for me? I'm afraid our friendship is broken, he distanced himself when I told him. So what would you tell me?
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10 responses
lovestoned
@lovestoned (6)
• Bulgaria
14 Nov 11
If you dont think he feels the same,leave him.
adhyz82
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
26 Sep 11
i think you must use wait and see... in your current situation, he feels enjoyed when you admit him as your friend.. and the problem is he had a girlfriend..you are his friend..it`s true..it doesn`t mean that you know his true feeling... let him (temporary) with his girl friend.. if him is your truly soulmate, slow but sure, he become your mine
kendedes2011
@kendedes2011 (2712)
• Indonesia
16 Aug 11
dayangsumbi, if he does not understand first want you to cuddle up to him and petting him, then he is too attached to his girlfriend. Get it! Even if the two separate and you come together: You'll always be the "replacement wife" for him. You hand it should already say that you had fallen in love with him, but it is now over. And because you should never "never" say: Look how he reacts once.
najibdina29
@najibdina29 (1309)
• Indonesia
15 Aug 11
Take in the future, his arm away from you. At least he has a girlfriend. That you should consider in their best interests. How would it look like in you, if your friend toyed so with you? Very clean to me seems your "friend" in any case not to be ... Otherwise, he would refer you to the limits.
Dominique25
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
1 Sep 11
It seems that he cares for you as well. But I think he has to make a decision about his situation. Who does he want to be with. Does he want to be with his girlfriend or you. He can't be flirting with you and still be faithful to his girlfriend. And it isn't fair to you for him to lead you on. I encourage you to tell him how you feel, but don't let it drag on, because more than likely if it does you will possibly be hurt. He already has a girlfriend and so you don't want him to play with your heart and then keep going back with his girlfriend. A decision needs to be made and that way there will be less pain and hurt.
passion3924
@passion3924 (121)
• United States
25 Sep 11
it's better if you just let the friend know how you feel so that they will know and even if they have someone they still should know how you feel .. you need to get that out to them
nakula2009
@nakula2009 (2325)
• Indonesia
14 Aug 11
I would advise you to even talk to him about it. I would stop in your place, someone approached me to make, which already has a girlfriend. Put yourself in their situation yet again. I would wait and see how that develops and not cuddle with him. Or are you just talking to him about it, then you finally have clear conditions. greeting
cadguy08
@cadguy08 (1224)
• Canada
10 Aug 11
Just wait and see . That's the best thing to do , until he propose or if he doesn't then try to go farther away from him if you feel that he is just a friend of yours. There still a lot of guys there right.
gengeni
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
12 Aug 11
I know I'm not a man, but I would not advise you not to tell him, if I were you I would not tell him first He has a girlfriend, for you it is not the positive, I do not think that it separates itself for you (not meant anything by it .. is just not to expect easy) and second He is not the right one for you, if he has a girlfriend and still flirts with you, I find that he's such a great guy .. you'll still get to know others, you seem so shy not loud your narrative to be correct and will come! Incidentally, good luck, whether at the end with him or another, in the decision is yours.
rifnee
@rifnee (1713)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 11
If a relationship is formed through friendship .. and not within a very short time, I would dare ... Perhaps what is really out of it grand ... if you should remember once that he is a ***** and then you also know that it was not a very good friend .. Just my opinion.