Stress!!!! Help................

I went through the same situation as yours few years back when my babies were still little. now they are 6 and 4 yrs old. i work first shift while my husband work second shift. the worst part is, we don't have a nanny to take care of the babies coz' we can't afford it and also i don't trust anybody to take care of my babies so me and my husband take turns to watch the kids even now.i know it's very hard, sometimes i only get sleep like 3 or 4 hrs. my husband is the same and he works 10 hrs a day. it's only during week end that we can sleep lots. but i don't mind coz i love my kids.

hi biach17, maybe you need to see a doctor for your tummy that ache's do you feel that that isn't serious as far as health concern specially that you had just gave birth, you need to be sure that everything is well, that you are healthy for you have kids and you are a working... Mother's should stay at home because you know maybe the reason why, but in cases that you really need to work i won't hold you to that... It's just that health is wealth it's not easy being a working mom, i think you should try resting for a while because you have just gave birth you might get so sick and you'll be in a lot of trouble if you pursue being so stress..

Did you ever try breathing in and breathing out in a controlled way, which is widely known as meditation? I think you should do this every day at your convenience for 10 -15 minutes..This not only gives a beautiful sleep but drives away your tiresomeness and fatigue. [b][/b]

It's really tough working and taking care of a baby, keeping up with the 5 yr old and the household and all that it involves. You sound sleep-deprived terribly! Is there any way that you and your husband could take turns getting up with the baby during the night? I remember when my girls were all younger and going through this. I didn't have any help and sometimes it was just horrible. As for your tummy, hurting...you maybe should get that checked. It could be nerves but it could also be something more serious.

I am also a working mother, i work from 8 in the morning till 6 in the eve. I even have "sidelines" after work. My youngest is 1 year and 2 months, the middle child is 4 and eldest is 6. See how much of a jungle it is when i come home! I also went through what you are going through right now my friend. I also have a nanny that looks after my one year old and the baby do sleep with me. It is indeed a matter of management and stamina and endurance. I also know that having a baby as young as that do get tiring especially if the baby keeps waking up at night. But on my case, i trained the baby, as much as possible to sleep through the night and never really had that much trouble..and my hubby installed a cradle or "duyan" so if the baby gets restless at night we would put him there and he would go back to sleep lol. But i did go through times where he will stay all through the dawn! It was so irritating right? That is where you get stressed out and cranky..but i guess i was able to maintain composure and still be able to go through. I just told myself, its my baby and my family so i just got over it. Tell yourself you can do. You can. Also eat so you wont get tired easily, find ways to keep that strength and endurance. You can do. I can juggle now family and work.

Sometimes stress happens if you lack rest or sleep. I suggest you get lots of sleep, drink plenty of multivitamins, and manager your time well. Don't try to do too many things. I'm a working mother with a 2 year old daughter. This is not as stressful as what you have right now, I can imagine . But I have to admit most of my time goes to working. I hardly have time to take care of my daughter nowadays, I usually sleep as soon as I get home from work. When I didn't have a nanny for my daughter, what I did was I tried to get her to nap during the afternoons so that I could get some sleep as well. And since my shift starts sometime around midnight, my daughter sleeps around 9 PM, and by that time I'm a bit exhausted as well, and fall asleep at around that time. I don't partake in any other activities at work where my energy would be required because I don't have enough left at home. For now, I'm sure your 3 month old baby naps as well, so If you could get your 5 year old boy to nap while your baby girl is sleeping, then you can sleep while they are sleeping so that way you'll have energy. It's really hard in the beginning, but just make sure you have those vitamins handy to make up for whatever you're missing in your system! Goodluck!

As a single mother of two with a full time career I barely ever had time to breathe, so I totally understand your feelings. It is not until the kids are older that you actually get some time for you. The only thing is that you try and manage the little time you have in a organized manner so that at least you get a few minutes daily for you. Not an easy task as there will be days you will be gasping for air.

We can experience stress if we luck of sleep, the body need to recharge so take a good sleep minimum six hours sleep and you will feel better also the children can add stress to just manage your children in the right way that you will not be over protective to your child that will cause some stress to, another is that when you are at home and if you got some problem in your job don't think that problem in your home leave it in your job place also live one day at the time don't think for the next day the next day is the another day to manage.

we live in this world.whatever jobs we do,we always feel that we`re surrounded by the stress,don`t worry about it.trying your best to find a solution like applying for several holidays or let some relatives or intimate friends to look after you baby for short when you want to have a rest.bless!