You Should Get an Abortion!

If her daughter is pregnant, it really is out of her hands, especially if she is old enough to make her own decisions. Abortion or not, she needs to support her daughter. She might very well be disappointed and embarrassed that her daughter became pregnant before getting married, but no matter how much other people talk, she has to be loyal to her own daughter. It is not right to tell anyone to get an abortion, that is a very personal decision, mother or not.

That was absurd. She is indeed a hypocrite. Although it does not surprise me because I have known a lot of people who goes to church regularly and sing God's gospels but both the couple I know are hypocrites. My cousin who married to their who is a seaman is not the one holding the atm card and she almost doesn't have anything for herself and they will compute to the last penny the expenses for the children. It's my cousin's fault anyway because she is too nice she can't fight. But this one is her daughter. I would have expected her to be happy because she will finally have a grand child. I hope she realizes what a hypocrite she is. It is so inconceivable. I wish the couple is fine just now despite all that shocking statement.

She might be too afraid to face her relatives. If getting abortion is a crime, getting pregnant without marrying someone is not a crime, under Philippine law?

without saying anything about religion, that will upset other members. you hear the stories about it. but i feel it is wrong to get an abortion done with out good cause. (like the baby will be born with a defect) Most mothers even thou may not show it would be thrilled to be grandparents!!! Even if their daughter is a bit young etc. I have a friend whos' daughter fell preg early, the parents werent to thrilled due to her age, but the daughter and her partner have worked together and now have 2 kids together even thou she is still young (under 21 i think she is) Times have changed and people need to move with them, it is not so much a sin to have a child out of wedlock now, but then also some cultures it still is.

thats completely wrong, and i can understand your anger. and if thats how she truely feels, yet she goes to church and is a devoted catholic etc.. then thats completely wrong.. however i have 2 points. my first point is, the legal age or timeframe for a child to be aborted, is so that the child, is not a child yet. it is merely a feotus. now a lot of abortion protesters that you would see on tv, and on the streets, are holding pictures of aborted babies, that are fully formedm with hearts, brains etc.. which is, if you look it up, scientifically impossible unless the child was, i don;t know, injected with some rapid aging hormone or something.. the point of abortion is to get rid of an unwanted baby, that doesnt mean it is a "baby" thats being aborted. maybe many years ago it did, but the vast manjority of abortions that take place, are when the "baby" is no more than cells, starting to form. there is no "baby" yet. it has no feelings, no memory, no nothing. technically the "baby" ceases to exist, merely cell formation etc... so whereas i'm not FOR abortion, i can understand how some people are. my second point is.. do you think maybe the mother is just scared? i mean, is the girl young? maybe the mother is worried about her daughter not being financially stable? maybe shes worried about the baby not being provided for. has the daughter ever had a history of depression? maybe the mother is worried that the strain, especially with the lack of funds, and living arrangements being so up in the air [having to live with you etc] her daughter may become mentally ill? post-natal depression etc? did you not say she was her mothers primary carer? maybe the mother is concerned that considering the daughter looks after her, she may not be able to look after a child too? and if the mother is ill and dependant on her child, maybe she feels guilty that she won't be able to help out where the baby is concerned? it may just be irrational fear talking, rather than clear thought? and if the time came for the abortion, her faith, love for her daughter, and maternal instincts for a grand-child may cause her to rethink the situation?

Many countries are now legalizing abortion but it doesn't mean it's the right thing to do. i feel sad when i heard stories like this. and how odd that people who really are in to abortion are condemning killings/murders? when in fact they must condemn themselves too. In situation like this, a mother should know what's the best thing to do even if her "image" is at stake. A normal person know's how to respond this kind situation, thus i think the mother of you brother-in-law's gf is not "normal".

I think that this is a terrible situation to be in and find that so many people will say what someone should do or throw around the sin factor. But when it is there own family they see this as a separate situation and its not! People are people no matter what and sin is sin no matter what. I have a hard time with this situation. And how far along is she? Is she showing? That is pretty late to abort the baby and could really cause her harm and that is not to mention the mental torment that will come after if she were to get this done. How old is she? And why did she think that it was so bad after the fact? She needs to let her daughter make her own decision on this. Its ultimately her decision. She is the one who will need to live with this.

They are going to have a family reunion next month and the mother cares about what the rest of the family members are going to think. I think that the daughter is pregnant and she must get used to that fact. I think it is very wrong for the mother to tell her own daughter to have an abortion. Her daughter's boyfriend is planning to move in with her and be very supportive. I am surprised that the mother is a church goer. Also abortions are illegal in the Philippines. So she wants her daughter to have a back street abortion and risk her life.

Hi Toniganzon, Well, I actually believe that it is the woman's choice. I would NEVER EVER tell my daughter that she should get an abortion..NEVER! When one of my daughters found herself in a situation and asked me what I thought she should do, I told her that the choice was 100% hers and that I would support her and help her in any way that I could regardless of how she chose to go with it. In the end, she decided she would keep the baby but unfortunatly lost it. She did get pregnant again and this time there was no question at all...she kept him and I now have a 7 month old grandson. I can't imagine telling my daughter to get an abortion or anyone for that matter.

I don't see how any Catholic would make that kind of decision. Although I am no longer practicing, I still believe life is sacred and that there is no such thing as an unwanted baby, just an unwanted pregnancy (something my pastor said when I was in 9th grade). What does the daughter want? I agree that the mother is a hypocrite. Since the daughter is an adult (at least I think she would be), it should be her own decision and not the mother's. What right does she have to try to get her daughter to do such a thing??? If it is illegal in your country, I hope the daughter makes the right choice. Thanks for sharing!

Yes, I don't see any logic there. From what I understand, I assume that the girls belly is not yet that big; so, the relatives won't think that she is pregnant. On the other hand, if the reunion is coming in a week's time, I don't believe the girl could attend the reunion given that she just undergone an abortion. Anyway, I believe that abortion is a mortal sin. This mother should be educated. The unborn in a mother's womb already has life! Aborting the baby is synonymous to killing. I would argue with her if she would lie that she does not know the fifth commandment of God. I hope the girl did not obey her mother this time around.

Besides the law of each country, I think this is something that you don´t tell anyone at a public place, no matter what your ideas on the subject. It shows a lack of sensibility and manners in something that is, to say the least, one of the mayor decisions a person can make in her life. I would not call her a mother: she does not deserve the name.

Its not only the Philippine Law because you can easily escape it when that kind of sin. If they'll do it, there's more than being in jail. Everyone knows how to define conscience. And we know how it grudges against a person as a human being. You can escape away from jail but never from your conscience. It will never give you peace of mind while you are still alive. I do not understand people who pretend to be religious and yet, would opt to kill an innocent unborn human being. How ruthless would a person be to do such against a baby? I am also giving an allowance for her so I can see the way it feels for her. The mother may have felt ashamed to let everyone know the problem because she is "religious". She wants to save her own honor at all means even if it takes someone's life. for the couple, I suggest that they continue what they have started. The baby is innocent and so why would he be punished with the sin he didn't committed? If they have to stay away from the girls daughter then it is (for me) better. Fight for the baby's life. and they should stand the result of their choices.

Hi toniganzon This is horrendous. Asking your daughter to get an abortion - when she is financially independent and old enough!! Added to it the fact that it's totally against your country's law!! If living under her roof is what makes her have to obey commands, well, she should move out!! Why don't they just marry?? Her being angry is acceptable, but she is definitely being too brash. Family reunion is next month, right?? Why can't she take that day as an occasion to announce her daughter's wedding!? I pray and hope everything turns out right for your brother-in-law and his girlfriend... God help them through it all. Have a nice day!

I can't imagine telling my child that. I am pro-choice, but it's a bad thing to say. I would, never encourage my child to have an abortion, even if she doesn't like the boy, although I'm sure your cousin is a fine person. Does what her child what's mean nothing? I'm confused and horrified for the girl.

i could not understand how she said it to her daughter. if it's a crime against the law of the country, it's much heavier sin to the law of Heavens. she is really a hypocrite and i cannot understand how such a devotee thought of killing an innocent even before being born.

Unfortunately there are many hypocrites in churches. Worse though is it is a crime against God. I hope they do not listen to her. Everyone deserves a chance to live their life. Sad the woman wants her own grand child to be killed.

I Am not surprised at all! and why not? I had the opportunity to meet such people in my life[ those who go to church every sunday and pray to God asking for forgiviness ] and they are the most selfish self centre human beings I have ever met!...let's put it this way I was rised a catholic[ family tradition... right?]but today I Am sad to say I do not believe in the institution of the church and the people that populate that institution.

Unfortunately there are many people like this women... I think abortion is one of the biggest sin a women can do because it's like rejecting God from my point of view. Beside this, abortion is very dangerous for healthy, sometimes that women will never have children again of it might even die while doing this - I know cases. The best thing that she could is to keep the child.

As a mother of 3 children, I am completely horrified that this mother would advise her only daughter to kill her only grandchild! I can understand the stress and embarrassment, but a human life is at stake. Hopefully the daughter will listen to God and have this precious child. Adoption is a great option. There are so many couples waiting for a child of their own. My prayers are with family.