I know this sucks, but sometimes I get really jealous,,

The first step in correcting that kind of behaviour is recognizing that it is a problem. First, I want you to understand that what I'm saying here, is coming from a person who was married to just that type of person, so you can see how it affects somebody. I was married for 20+ years, and his constant jealous attitudes are the main point that led us to divorce. It does hurt a relationship! I think it's one of the most destructive emotions there is. He was even jealous of his friends when they'd give me a compliment on artwork I did (I painted their motorcycles), food I cooked, and everything & anything imaginable under the sun lol. As that kind of jealousy progressed, it led to his distrust: If his friends told him they thought his wife was sexy (or whatever) then she MUST be having an affair with them. I was always 100% faithful, but I grew weary of having to always explain where I was, what I was doing (nothing lol), and from always having to defend myself against accusations without basis! Now, many years past my divorce, and seeing him in another marriage, it opened my eyes a lot! I see that he's insecure, and that nothing any spouse does will ever ease that insecurity...he needs to believe in the love he has, the love he gets, and quit trying to read things into things that are not there. Over the years I suggested counseling, either together, or alone, but he always refused saying I had the problem, not him. When I finally asked for a divorce, then he said OK to counseling, by then it was too late. I suggest that you talk to someone, and I don't mean girlfriends or parents, I mean somebody who is neutral and can see things as they are from an objective viewpoint. Successful relationships are based on honesty and trust. Jealousy, I think, is really saying you don't trust that person, and you don't trust who you are to keep that person. I wish you luck no matter what! (Oh, and by 'you' I don't mean you personally, just the general sense of the word.)

Being jealous is a sign of love. MY husband is very jealous too... and I am like that to in the same way. When we get jealous, I dont' think it is because we don't trust that person. We get jealous because of that fear of losing someone we love. We get jealous because we love that person. But it depends too on what things or which person you get jealous with... it depends on how your boyfriend will interpret that too. For some couples jealousy becomes a problem... but luckily for us it is not, both of use easily get jealous and for that reason, we understand what each other feel like. There is a limit on jealousy, just don't make it a reason for your boyfriend to feel that you don't trust him...

Personally I think overall this is natural. It is quite common from time to time for people to get jealous of the person that they are dating and even many times married too. They know that there are many men and women out there that could be vying for their attention, and it is often a matter of Trust in do you really think they would run off to someone else, or do they really Love and want to be with you.

I think you might want to figure out what's causing the behavior. If you figure that out, it might make it easier for you to stop it. Because if you don't stop it, you may lose him.

We are always in this state of shock everytime we are tolerating our feelings of jealousy..because this is ruin the relationship and for sure you may lost him. I hate this feelings also and really dont like if i feel jealous. We are getting unreasonable and very possessive in the way that we dont understand if this is really needed in a relationship, the reality is we cannot hold them tight. They are not our property that we can hold anytime we want. Lets be patient and understanding.

Being a little possessive is good for a healthy relationship... But being too possessive can ruin your relationship. You should know where to stop... My girlfriend loves the fact that im possessive...and i try my best to see to it that i dont cross the limit... so she is happy with that... You too should try out something like that... Trust is very important in a relationship... If you trust him fully...then i dont think u should worry about anything and ask him if he will leave you or he loves you... asking the same once in a while is ok but dont push it... Hope you understand... :-)

I used to be like that with my boyfriend, who is my hubby now. I was majorly insecure because my hubby used to be a major 'playah' in all. I got into the relationship for the fun of it, and I knew that it wouldn't be long before he met another girl to hook up with. So I thought there was no sense in taking things seriously. But when one is in in a relationship, you can't help thinking towards the future and working the kinks out so that you both have a harmonious relationship. However there's something that you could call "BEING NEEDY". Try thinking back to a time when you had a boyfriend whom you felt very comfortable with and you felt nothing could go wrong. And then he comes up to you on a regular basis asking you if you would leave him or not, if you would still love him, or if you love him at all. You might be just thinking too much. Maybe you should get busy, or find something to do so that you can keep occupied. And it would also help to think about what you would actually do if in case you guys would break up. Sometimes it takes a little getting prepared. I know it's not something you want to happen. After all, who wants to break up? But sometimes you just got to be prepared for things like this. Maybe once you've mapped out a course of action, you wouldn't feel insecure so much. You could handle yourself. And after all, you might be worrying for nothing anyway. So just to take care of things, think about what you're going to do in case something happens, and then stop worrying about it. Good Luck!

I thinks its normal to be jealous as we girls does. I think your still in jealousy state. Most of us who are in a relationship really pass by this stage wherein we easily get jealous on our boyfriend. As time will pass by, you will over come jealousy and will feel more secure.

I think that is normal for the majority of girls. My girlfriend also tends to get jealous even on simple things like having girl officemates. Its their nature and I don't complain about that as long as they can see the limitation. Me and my girlfriends knows when to stop being protective with each other. We avoid being overprotective with each other because that might just strangle us and force us to escape from each other just to breathe well. So, its normal but it has limitations. Anyway, anything over is not right. :)

It's all about building trust but being human, we can't avoid the nasty feelings of jealousy. It's a bad feeling and it simply gets you paranoid but it happens. You need to talk to your partner and simply build that trust with him. If you love him, let him go and see what happens because if he makes the wrong move, you guys were never meant to be together. I know, it's sounds scary and you're jealousy is possibly due to your protectiveness of him. But sometimes people need their own space. Don't get too paranoid, and build on that trust!

I think that is completely normal! Jealousy to a certain extent to actually healthy in a relationship IMO. It just shows that you are afraid that you'll lose that person, which is a sign of love. As long as you don't freak out about it, he should feel loved instead. I like it when my boyfriend gets jealous sometimes and I think it's cute. :)