Jealousy is a disease
By pogi253
@pogi253 (1596)
Philippines
August 11, 2011 10:18pm CST
Jealousy will make you foolish. When you are in its grasp, the feeling is roughly insufferable. It can make you actually sick and incapable to focus on something else. Jealousy will force you to do things and say things you will later be sorry and you can never take back. Jealousy can devastate a good relationship. If you have a girlfriend or boyfriend that explicitly flirts with other women or men whom you are familiar with is cheating, you would have to be made of stone not to suffer hurt and deceive. Jealousy is a usual response. But when jealousy is self-created, dissimilar to reality, it acts like a toxin that takes over your life and tear down your confidence. The jealousy I’m referring to is based on fear, not on reality, a monster that you make out of your own thoughts. I have known many people who make excuses for their jealous manners. But the truth is jealousy feels terrible. It is unpleasant and destroys the love in a relationship.
11 responses
@coffeelover101 (94)
• Philippines
13 Aug 11
But what if you are really really jealous? Pretend you are not?
I believe that its normal to be jealous at times if you really
love a person. There is nothing wrong if a woman voices her concern
seeing his man flirting with another woman. Well i am really the jealous type
however i say no to obsessive jealousy. We dont own our partners but we
share our life with them. A little bit of jealousy is kinda romantic to me. :)
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@pogi253 (1596)
• Philippines
14 Aug 11
Every thriving and blissful relationship is built on foundations of love and trust. If you or your partner cannot appear to trust in one another the relationship will become a continuous burden for the both of you. In cases like these you must first evaluate why this distrust exists and what can be done to alleviate the underlying issues.
@coffeelover101 (94)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
Very well said pogi 253. However a little bit of jealousy doesnt necessarily mean
i dnt trust my partner. Aren't you going to be jealous if you caught your partner flirting with another man? :)Come onnnnn...LOL
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
12 Aug 11
Jealousy is not disease it can happen as normal ,and it helps in doing many good things happen.
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
13 Aug 11
we as humans have good and bad within us.It is a balance.We all have some thing less when we compare with others,as well as we do have much more which others do not have.For having something we should be satisfied,in the same way when we lack in something the feeling of jealous comes in . This feeling tells us to acquire the thing which is not with us.So we work towards getting it.
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@GemmaR (8517)
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12 Aug 11
If you're always jealous of other people, then you won't be able to live a happy and healthy life yourself. In my opinion, the main thing that you have to do to enjoy your life is be thankful for what you have and don't compare your life to that of anyone else. If you start doing that, then obviously you're bound to see other people who seem to have things that are better than the things that you have. I am happy with my life since I took this approach and I am glad that I decided to live like this rather than the way that I was living before.
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@crlconnors (90)
• United States
12 Aug 11
Think of it this way, If one is trully happy with self, you will notice they have no jealousy, envy or hatred in their lives.
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@crlconnors (90)
• United States
12 Aug 11
Well said, I remember a time when I was in the grips of jealousy and it was nothing nice. It took me over and I became this person I hated to be, but at the same time I had no control over it. Its powerful and very ugly. It took me a long time and alot of work to be able to control my jealousy. Don't get me wrong jealousy is a human reaction, but if its not controled , it will make you do and say things that you don't want to do.
@Judy890 (1644)
• United States
12 Aug 11
Jealous people are insecure and really hate themselves, they love to talk down to you and make you feel bad so that they can feel better about themselves. I remember in high school I wore really nice clothes a lot of people always complimented me outside the school, in the school ill always hear "oh she thinks she's cute" or "her outfits are ugly" I knew they were jealous when I wore just plain jeans and a t shirt I never heard anything negative. But when I dressed very fashionable I get dirty looks and people start laughingto make it seem like I was looking ugly when I clearly was looking way better then them, this didn't only happen to me I realize all the girls with nice clothes got treated the same way which is sad. I can't believe people would actually get jealous for dressing "nice" its funny how the ones who talked about the girls who dressed nice they wore the same jeans over. I can tell they were jealous they just wish they had the money to do it too. Girls hated me so much . I hope they get well.
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@flowerfest08 (1677)
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12 Aug 11
hi pogi:)
Yes too much jealousy is like a disease, it not only ruin relationships of lovers but also friendships and family, and some are so insane that can kill because of this, even they don't have concrete evidence yet, they are sometimes dilussional because of too much that.
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@Sitakalyani (133)
• India
12 Aug 11
You are correct. Jealousy makes the disturbance among relationships. According to me, who is jealousy with other definitely their development will be stopped because they do not keep their concentration on their work.
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@celticeagle (164045)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Aug 11
Yes, jealousy can make you foolish. I means you are out of control of your own emotions. I think jealousy has to do with immaturity and the passion one is feeling. Mixed together it can cause alot of problems. I think it also has to do with self-esteem problems which do lend back to the immaturity.
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@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
4 Dec 11
hi,
for me,this jealousy is not a disease, its an attitude that cant really hard to control in a one person,maybe i was paranoid during that time when i am really jealous to my partner,maybe because i dont have really trust to my partner before.tbis attitude i had is my weakness and make myself really paranoid.
@tenrajj (911)
• Bhutan
12 Aug 11
You are very correct and I appreciate the way you are thinking. Jealousy can be one of the dangerous disease within human beings with medicine may not be able to cure it. Jealousy will cause misunderstandings, jealousy can create walls within society, friends and families. Jealousy can give us tension, stress and worries.
And yea jealousy is self created. It comes within and no body and nothing can cure it except by oneself. The cure for jealousy must come from within. We must be able to conquer the jealousy so that life goes smooth. Jealousy is one of the poison in human body.
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@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
12 Aug 11
That's right! Jealousy clouds your better judgement and tend to provoke you to take drastic actions hat will hurt not only you but others around also. Being human, you can't help feeling jealousy but you cannot control it and not let it dominate your lifestyle. very nice point there, it reminds me of "Othello" by Shakespeare about a man so polluted by his own jealousies that he killed his wife.
@con909 (53)
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
Jealousy isn't such a bad thing in a relationship where it can surely show that you love someone and always has their attention, but having too much of it can be a bit annoying, it shows that you don't trust your partner which could really turn bad. A lot o relationships don't work out because of this.
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