I'm single and lonely but I'll be ok!
By Brooke
@o2bnocn (2992)
United States
August 12, 2011 8:54pm CST
I am single and lonely but I will be okay. My heart was broken but I am sure many of you know how that feels. I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with my ex. At first it was really hard but now I am doing ok. I could do better but I am taking it one step at a time.
Any suggestions? Any tips?
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18 responses
@eynjel_1988 (330)
• Philippines
13 Aug 11
Hi there. Well there things happened for a certain reason. I am happy that you are very optimistic. You are not alone. Well I will suggest that you should keep yourself busy. do not reminisce the past that could make you remember that moments that you have with your ex. Remember when God closes the door, somewhere he opens a window. Just think of it positively. There's always more fish in the sea. Have a great day!
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@eynjel_1988 (330)
• Philippines
13 Aug 11
You'll be okay. I can assure you that. I am also on that same situation now. let us stay strong. Let us make good discussions here in mylot it can help ourselves busy.
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
13 Aug 11
I have been single for the last 5 years. I was a little sad and lonely at first, but I decided that being single was for the best. I get lonely once in awhile, but for the most part I am still ok with it. You just have to realize that being in a relationship is not something that has to happen. A relationship does not define who you are.
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@o2bnocn (2992)
• United States
13 Aug 11
Thanks! I agree with you that a relationship doesn't define who I am. I think it was so hard this time because I fell so madly in love with him and because it was the first time I really fell in love, especially in that way. I think it is the first time that I really got my hard broken.
I was single for almost three years, and then again for about two years. I am not one of those girls that jump from relationship to relationship. I just can't do that. I am not saying it is bad or trying to put them down. All I am saying is that I do not jump from relationship to relationship because I have trouble doing that. I need time to heal after the relationships or at least some time to myself.
Being single has its perks but I am lonely. I miss that "in love" feeling the most.
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
13 Aug 11
I miss that in love feeling sometimes too. That is why I am ok with being single MOST of the time. 
I do like a guy right now, but he is my boss and even though I am pretty sure that he likes me too I doubt that will ever happen. He makes me smile though, so that is an improvement over just being lonely.
I do like a guy right now, but he is my boss and even though I am pretty sure that he likes me too I doubt that will ever happen. He makes me smile though, so that is an improvement over just being lonely.1 person likes this
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
14 Aug 11
The only suggestion I can give is live. Live in today..not for the past. Don't waste your time wondering about what could have or would have...think of what can be and will be. Don't worry about finding someone new..just try to focus on doing some things for you. There is no time limit on when you are "supposed" to be with someone in my opinion.
Take care.
@captinjack (788)
• China
13 Aug 11
Good for you,o2bnocn.But i don't think i can help you out because i have not experienced a serious relation yet .Your psychology is good .Forget about the past and live at the present .
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@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
14 Aug 11
I have been single for about 4 years too. Had my heart broken then by my first love and have recovered, but it was a long process. Anyway I am perfectly Ok now and am taking a step at a time too like you. I am in no hurry coz I might get on with a guy who'll break my heart again so no hurry for me. I am taking my time getting to know people and actually haven't found anyone special haha.
Anyway I hope we get the right person who actually deserves us, not like the ones in the past. Good luck to the both of us 
@guegui (17)
• United States
14 Aug 11
I understand what you are saying. So to fight my lonelisess I do crafts. Anything that keeps me from thinking too much about my situation. So for that few minutes I can envelope myself in what I am doing and enjoy it. It beats sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. Though I do that too sometimes. Aside from that try and make friends. It can be hard. I have found church to be a great place to meet people. Just don't have expectations of them being any diffenrent from the rest of the world. We are just trying to find our way. Anyway I hope you find what you need for fullfilment.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
13 Aug 11
You have to get back out there and keep playing the field. Get back out there and find a guy who won't be a complete and total moron. You need to find someone who likes you and who will treat you with the respect and love that you deserve, and don't ask for anything less.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
13 Aug 11
Hey, time heals everything, be strong inside though. You had done nothing wrong, and don't live within guilt. I was once thought that I can make this girl loves me forever, but at the end, I knew I was a fool of myself. I wish that I didn't waste my time before. What I had done is already done. I can undone it.
@Lucyalicia92 (670)
• United States
13 Aug 11
just know you'll get over him eventually. it takes time, for me many years to get over someone I was in love with. for me it was unrequited and they were my friend for a year and it took me about 4 years to forget them and really get over them. it was difficult but it takes time, just let yourself get over him no matter how long it takes. don't be in a rush to find who ever you can to pass the time with, it might even make you miss him more. see, things are already better like you said, in time it will only get easier. just do the things you love, maybe watch movies, listen to music, spend time with family.
@sweet_missy (49)
• Philippines
13 Aug 11
The process of moving on is the hardest part and art of letting go. At the right time your heart will be totally heal and forgotten all the heartache and moving forward for the possibility of falling in love again. God will made something good and better for you, his preparing the right person and at the right time.Just focus on the brighter things.
@flowerfest08 (1677)
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13 Aug 11
hi:)
Sometimes it's better to be single than to be in problematic relationship, but I believe that there's someone for everyone, and in time your one will find you, now just enjoy yourself being single coz you'll surely miss that when you're already in a relationship again.
@goggles213 (735)
• Philippines
14 Aug 11
As I always say, time will heal all the wounds, it might be painful but you just got to bear it. Someday you would be able to smile and look back at things as just a memory of your past love. These times are always hard but rest assure that things are going to get better because once you're down, the only way that you'll be going to is up.
@pibi713 (187)
• China
13 Aug 11
There isn't just one boy/girl for you. Just like there isn't one flavor of ice cream. There are lots of flavors out there, cherry, chocolate,vanilla,cream. You will meet some nice pepole. Speaking of which, at leat you have had the love of a boy/girl for smetime, a period time of closeness and sharing even though that wouldn't be long enough as you hoped. This is probably for the best,try to think nice things. Next one may be more smart, more beautiful, more rich, more sophisticated.
@pibi713 (187)
• China
13 Aug 11
We just have the same experience. Mow I am single, I didn't go out with boys for one and a half years. Sometimes when I felt a lot of pressure, I hoped there was some one could give me hand. But most of the time, I was good. I read a book a week now while I needed one month for a book.Everyday I would make efforts to learn something. I felt better for myself.
@GemmaR (8517)
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13 Aug 11
I think that a lot of us think that we're going to be with our current partners forever, to the extent that it's actually quite a shock to us when we find out that it's not actually going to be the case in the end. Taking it one step at a time is a good way to be, as it allows you to adjust to being single seeing as you're not used to it. Other than that, you should spend time with your friends and family and, gradually, you will learn to be happy on your own. Soon, you might even feel as though you're ready to try and find another partner, but don't put pressure on yourself to do this until you're sure you're ready.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
13 Aug 11
Oh yes I do know how a broken heart feels and I can tell you it does not get any easier if it happens again! I wish for you not to have your feelings hurt again and although being single after a break-up is a lonely adjustment, I know the day will come when you will feel like smiling again and your heart will be whole and ready for love once more and who knows it may be open for just the right relationship this time. It is good to take one day at a time and give yourself time to heal.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
13 Aug 11
There are single friends that i have known to be happy. They experienced being heart broken too, but that made them vow not to be put down by it.
They found love in their family and friends and they are happy.
Don't dwell on your being heart broken. Socialize and be with friends and family always. They can give you the happiness and enjoyment that can substitute for a lost love. 
@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
13 Aug 11
Being single has its good points also, when you do not have a spouse. My heart has been broken many times. I've learnt to acknowledge the pain and loss after a divorce and going seperate ways to move on your our own lives. After sometime I persistently make myself think about other things. I put my full attention on other activities whilst I feel the healing process is mending my heart again. Best to remain positive is to have hobbies.
