Just gave a check to CRY!

You are right, there are so many people out there who really are so much more impoverished than most of us! At least people like us are able to put food on our tables without worrying about the next meal. Yeah, I know the sort of people you are talking about. The free checks should be given to people to help tide over difficult times and until they can find some proper jobs or such, and not take that money as something that they deserve life long, that is wrong! In addition to such people, there are those who have money and leave alone help others, refuse to pay even to those whom they owe. Like a family I know, the person earns quite a tidy sum and yet his wife hassles with poor grocers and won't pay them what they ask for. This same people pay hefty amounts of money in swanky malls without hesitation.

Yes, We have lended money to family members and not in small increments. They have yet to pay us back. My one brother owns us a lot of money and he is driving a new car. Now I don't have a problem with him driving a new car. My issue is he should be paying his debt before he gets a new car. I guess we will never see that money. Best Wishes!

Hi Seena, I am really very sorry for not having looked in earlier! Things had been real hectic with my husband's exhibition of paintings and then him slipping off his bike and getting injured and all! Whew!! Its all back to normal now! I know what you mean, I have quite a similar situation with my brother too! Not that he is spending it on a car but then he has this penchant for new and expensive clothes he can ill afford! He has quite a debt on his credit card and he owes me a lot. So I am guessing I too won't be seeing that money.

Hi Sanjeev and Sunil, good to finally see you both here! Yeah Sanjeev, you do have a point that we should not be spending money in tight situations but it was something that I had long wanted to do and really to be honest, money is never enough. The more you get, the more you spend and the less you feel it is. So I had actually decided to give the amount for a credible NGO such as CRY! Those girls are indeed students and well trained in a very professional manner. They are very well behaved and never coerce you into giving money. Even before they came to visit me, I was saving up money to give it some NGO in remembrance of my first baby who was still-born(four years back in 2007) There are so many people who keep knocking on my door for money, it is for every imaginable excuse that one can think of, I never entertain such people, except when my instincts tell me that their cause is genuine! and 1200 is not a big amount really, especially since we don't do such things very often! Also, my thought process is that if I have lots of money and then I am giving 1200 rs, its not a charity or sacrifice but my ingratitude.

I know they are volunteers but the way they speak they look as if they are professionals and trained how to make people feel that they should donate money to the organisation.I know it because i remember when there was a TSUNAMI and flood in Orissa two girls came to my house to ask some money for me to donate for them and i did not know if they are really going to submit the donations for the help of people or not i thought of not donating but somehow i donated 500/ that time and thought afterwards why i did so.

Hello Professorji, many apologies that I didn't reply to your post sooner, I just cannot figure out how I missed it. Anyway, thanks for your comment and yes you are right, before giving money to anyone we need to be extra careful. When those people act shifty and suspicious, that means they are upto no good. The girls who came to my place were very much open and honest (after leading teams of people, I can spot a fraud within few minutes of meeting them, at least until now I have never failed) These girls were also carrying proper IDs and the fact that cheque was made out to CRY was easy to keep a tab on their activities.