what do you think of girls who confesses "love" to men ?
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
August 13, 2011 7:47am CST
do you think that in this day and age, women also can and should be able to do the first move and say their feelings to the guys and not the other way around?
what about the guys here? what do you think if a girl confesses their love for you? don't you just lose interest, or you like it that they are in control of themselves and is brave in doing so? or is it a big turn off?
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10 responses
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
17 Aug 11
Hi!
I used to think that it's downright embarrassing on the part of the girl if she confessed her love first to the guy. And it's even degrading to the pride of the girl. But then, I think that's only thinking in a conservative way. I now think that women also has the right to express their feelings for men. I don't live in the traditional belief anymore that women should wait. After watching too many liberating film, 
I now think that there's nothing wrong when a woman confess her love first to a guy. I wouldn't mind doing it (but I will need to find courage). It's better to know if the guy likes me too or not. If that turns off the guy, then I'm sorry, I just don't wanna wait until eternity for him to like me and confess. 
I now think that there's nothing wrong when a woman confess her love first to a guy. I wouldn't mind doing it (but I will need to find courage). It's better to know if the guy likes me too or not. If that turns off the guy, then I'm sorry, I just don't wanna wait until eternity for him to like me and confess. 
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 11
I am okay with as I don't find it is wrong for girls to do so. Men and women both have equal right to say their feelings. It is just a norm that girls are shy people so they are 'forbid' to make the first move. But nowadays girls are loud when talking about everything. It depends to oneself. If that girl have courage and have guts to do so then she may do the confession. If you telling me will I make such confession yes, why not but I think it is hard because I never see any men which I can do so.(^^)
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
14 Aug 11
Girls don't born "shy". Girls were taught from their parents that they need to be submissive and that's why, they were 'forbid' to make the first move. Parents learned about the submissivessness and being inferior of a women from the christian bible. They were not allowed to speak inside the church nor they did not have any "freedom of expression" and was brough up to our present days according to some specific religion. Men in our society were the one who created these kind of rules we had today even though it was very obvious that it was not written in the bible. It was their "ego" that created of what we called today a "patriarchal society" and how much religion effect women in our society today and that's why even expressing the love they had for a guy was forbidden and it was also a taboo.
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
14 Aug 11
I mean, they were not allowed to speak inside the church nor they did not have any "freedom of expression" and was 'brought' up to our present days according to some specific religion and that's why even expressing the love they had for a guy was forbidden and it was also a taboo.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 11
yes, we are brought up to be a shy and know what is the meaning of shame. For me it is essential and important to everyone not just girls only but for things like purposing someone to be your partner I don't think it is wrong to do so.But make it in a correct way~(^^)
@acrossnation (773)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 11
I am a female , though you posts question for the mens , i just cant help but to give my opinion. I ve read a book saying that men loves challenge thats why the like soccer and all the things guys do. If the women confesses first than it will kill the male i dont know what but i totally agree that women should play hard to get so the men will feel more challenging and drives them more to be with the women. Wait to slam me i just quoting what the book says and i think theres a truth to it.
@goggles213 (735)
• Philippines
14 Aug 11
I think it would be admirable if a woman were to confess her feelings to a man but that would leave her susceptible to pain and possibly being played on by the guy. I always advise girls to wait for the right one to court them and not look for the right one. But I guess if the feelings are really strong, we're just humans who won't be able to stop that especially if what we're feeling is love. You'll never know how guys would think, personally I think that it's not a turn off but I would turn the girl down no matter how much I would like her. If I answer her feelings, it would feel like I'm cheating her.
@heishlyshop (27)
• Philippines
14 Aug 11
i think its brave..women and men are now equal.what men do ,woman can also do it maybe in different ways. if you really love that guy then say so. if he admits that he likes you too then its a good start but if not atleast you give it a shot.
@touchtype30s (70)
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14 Aug 11
I think its OK for a girl to say she loves a man first and the other way around. I do think though that normally in society (in Britain anyway) it is the man who asks the woman out, he asks her to move in with him and then he asks her to marry him. It does happen the other way round sometimes and its not a problem but it is unusual. I think its a social thing from the past about men making the first move. What makes sense is for either the man or woman to say it if they feel the time is right.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
17 Aug 11
i also do not find any wrong about girls taking the first move and say how they feel about the guy. and in this world we live in now, there's no question girls are more liberated now.
@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
13 Aug 11
i never had a woman confesses "love" to me before, but i think it's OK for a woman to tell a man about her feelings, but the complication is that what i have to say as a man if i'm not feeling the same way about her. Can the woman have enough heart to accept this or she just make me as her eternal enemy because i said things she didn't want to hear.
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
14 Aug 11
I don't see anything wrong with that. In fact, I have taken the initiative b4. We live in a modern world, so what's wrong with a gal/woman confessing to a guy whom she likes??? Are there guys who really mind???
