Are You Seen Yourself Here? How?
By visavis
@visavis (5934)
Philippines
August 14, 2011 2:27am CST
Hello my fellow mylotters,
Chatting in one internet cofee here to a good friend of mine a few days ago, and he told me an interesting story. One time when he was walking home, by surprised when he walked by, a couple who were obviously in an emotional discussion. As he heard, the woman was breaking up with the man, and he was trying to understand why. The drama went something like this:
Girl: I'm not attracted to you anymore. I just don't FEEL IT.
Boy: But I would do ANYTHING to make this work...I'll do anything you want... just tell me what to do."
Girl: "That's the problem. You just don't get it."
Ohhh... that was all he heard.
Have you ever been experienced such situation? Have you ever had a girlfriend break up with you, or just drift away, and the more you tried to hold on, the further she ran from you? And the more you tried to be a "good guy" and please her, the more distant she became? How you can handle this kind of situation?
4 responses
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Aug 11
The best thing to do is back off. The more you push, the more she is not going to want to be with you.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Aug 11
I think that the ONLY chance to redeem it is to back off and give the girl her space. But there is a good possibility that there's no way to redeem it.
@louie847 (350)
• Philippines
14 Aug 11
I did experience a long time ago when my girlfriend broke up with me. I really do not understand whats her reason and i just feel that there is nothing that i can do to stop her from breaking up with me. I know it hurts but all i can do is to accept it and move on.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
17 Aug 11
louie-- good stand. I appreciate your point "accept it and move on."" you will get another girl early.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
17 Aug 11
you just reminded me of my own experience some 20 years ago. 
well, i know i was a good guy then. i was in college and i want to concentrate with my studies. but she just didn't understand it and she run away from me. i thought i could have her back after some few misfortunes with my life but no. i finally found her only through facebook. unfortunately, we both have our own families now.
well, i know i was a good guy then. i was in college and i want to concentrate with my studies. but she just didn't understand it and she run away from me. i thought i could have her back after some few misfortunes with my life but no. i finally found her only through facebook. unfortunately, we both have our own families now. @ravisivan (14079)
• India
17 Aug 11
visavis__-- You are asking from personal experience perhaps. Yes it is true. If u go after one thing that thing will go away from you. if you go away from one thing that thing will come near you. this is applicable in the case of the above situations also.
