What is sexy for you?
By bingskee
@bingskee (5234)
Philippines
August 14, 2011 7:30am CST
Generally, the perception for the word 'sexy' is having a beautiful body and a beautiful or pretty face, for both men and women.
I can understand that. But still, like the adage 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder', I would like to believe that this could be subjective; that everybody perceives 'sexiness' depending on what appeals to one person or another.
Most of the time, what appeals sexy to me is a man (being the woman that I am) who has brains. I get easily turned off with men who doesn't have 'brains'. I will find it impossible to talk or converse with a good looking man that I cannot have an intelligent and healthy discussion with, plus the sense of humor. My father used to say that individuals who have the ability to make other people laugh are intelligent, too. This influenced me a lot. When I get bored with a conversation, most likely, I will not take interest.
I have to admit that looks play an important role to sensuality. But it is second on the list only.
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11 responses
@craquele9 (17)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
I certainly agree with you. Physical appearance is just skin deep and it fades as we age. Being sexy goes hand in hand with confidence and the right mental attitude. It usually exudes from within and shows in your aura. So even if you don't have that perfect body to show off if you carry yourself well then you are sexy. I find women who are witty, approachable, conversational and funny as sexy. They really charm me and I can't help but admire them. I usually dig into the person and not just ogle on their physical beauty because more often than not, people who have good looks are "no-brainers", sorry for the term but most of these women just pay attention to their physical attributes they tend to forget more important things like attitude, intelligence and the like.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
you had said it very nicely, craquele9. i have to agree that confidence and attitude makes a sexy woman. i had seen a lot of physically beautiful/pretty women who sounded like empty cans. to believe that only physical appearance is what makes a person sounds like judging a book by its cover. 
thank you for sharing your thoughts. appreciate it very much.
thank you for sharing your thoughts. appreciate it very much.
@craquele9 (17)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
thank you for appreciating my answer. it's an honor for me. your thread is so sensible and interesting that's why i was able to write a good response to it. more power bingskee!hope to interact with you here more often!god bless.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
15 Aug 11
Hi Bingskee! 
Sexy for me can be defined in so many ways but true sexy for me is a partner who shows great interest when I speak. This to me with his eye gestures makes for a very sexy moment for me.
Thankfully I do have someone like that and ever so glad. Which is the main reason why he and I got together. In the beginning when I first met him, I did not find him to be my type. He asked for my phone number to have coffee one day and I was very hesitant. When then met a week later and I could not stop admiring his attentiveness and found him very sexy as he and still to date pays very close attention. lol
Sexy for me can be defined in so many ways but true sexy for me is a partner who shows great interest when I speak. This to me with his eye gestures makes for a very sexy moment for me.
Thankfully I do have someone like that and ever so glad. Which is the main reason why he and I got together. In the beginning when I first met him, I did not find him to be my type. He asked for my phone number to have coffee one day and I was very hesitant. When then met a week later and I could not stop admiring his attentiveness and found him very sexy as he and still to date pays very close attention. lol@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
15 Aug 11
I should add that yes still to date and going on almost eight years. 
Those attentive eyes still make me giggle.
Those attentive eyes still make me giggle.
thanks for joining the discussion.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
17 Aug 11
While I won't deny that having something that is nice to look at is a good thing, I really don't think that being a good looking man is alone enough to make a person sexy in my opinion. Instead, I think that the attributes that are really sexy are the personality of a man and also their sense of humor. The reason that these things are really important to me is because of the fact that I've known people in my life that are really easy on the eyes, but anything that is deeper than the superficial appearance is someone that is really ugly.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
7 Sep 11
hello, dorannmwin! it's been awhile that i have not visited mylot and found your interesting comment! especially the one that mentions 'really easy on the eyes, but anything that is deeper than the superficial appearance is someone that is really ugly'. i know people who are just like that.
especially the one that mentions 'really easy on the eyes, but anything that is deeper than the superficial appearance is someone that is really ugly'. i know people who are just like that.
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
19 Aug 11
Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. What is considered sexy to one is not sexy to another. Look, I like looking at beautiful women, but to me it's more like admiring a thing of beauty, sort of like looking at an exotic car or a beautiful painting. But I have encountered so called beautiful women that are just way to brainless for my taste. That is a major turn off. To be beautiful, you must have certain special qualities.
@flowerfest08 (1677)
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15 Aug 11
hi:)
I agree with you, being sexy is not only having sexy body and pretty face,it's being what you really are and be confident enough on what you have, me personally I'm not attracted to a man just because they are handsome, I like a man that know how to make me laugh and can teach me things that I didn't know, those who have more knowledge than me so I could learn something from them, and of course a man who is responsible enough to stand on their own. that's what is sexy for me.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Aug 11
Brains are important, but also a nice smile, nice eyes, and a sexy voice...
@hushi22 (4928)
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14 Aug 11
honestly speaking sexy to me is usually associated with having a hot body!
not only that. some people have gorgeous body but dont know how to make use of them. dont know how to project and things like that so for me i dont find them sexy. they should have gorgeous bodies and must know how to project.
@koperty3 (1876)
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14 Aug 11
I'm not attracted to empty people with whom I can't talk because we don't have topic to talk about. Even if the man is very attractive physically and his mind is gone somewhere, so I don't find this man sexy. Being sexy is a package. Being handsome ( for men because I'm woman)and being intelligent the same time. I like men with sense of humour. My partner got full package. I love to talk to him the same times as to see him.
@ciangy050295 (1)
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15 Aug 11
Being sexy is a package. Being handsome ( for men because I'm woman)and being intelligent the same time. I like men with sense of humour. My partner got full package. I love to talk to him the same times as to see
