is a wedding ring necessary for marriage?
By hushi22
@hushi22 (4928)
August 14, 2011 8:09am CST
my friends are also going to get married soon. well, they wont have the proper ceremony yet. it will be civil and they asked me if they need a wedding ring because they only want to use their wedding ring. this is because they are short of money.
i am wondering if it's okay. does anyone know about this issue?
my bf advised them that it should be okay because people, of course, have freedom to do their will.
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21 responses
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
15 Aug 11
A marriage is NOT defined by a piece of metal that may have a gemstone embedded within it, but rather by the love that the two people share.
Wedding rings are not necessary for a marriage... and a marriage certificate is only necessary to appease the law of man.
A marriage is how the people involved in the relationship define it.
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@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
14 Aug 11
I don't really think that it's necessary for them to have a wedding ring. I think that it's really a personal choice. Or at least, I think that it should be. If they wanted to have something sooner, they could try to get something that would be cheaper. But it's still really up to them.
@Galena (9110)
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14 Aug 11
it's not a legal requirement.
it's not fair to say that they won't be having a proper ceremony though. it's their wedding, and it will mean every bit as much to them as the most over the top ceremony that there can be.
it's up to them if they want a wedding ring or not. it is a lovely symbol, but not a legal necessity. maybe they could ask around and see if any family members have inherited rings from the family that they could use. I'm sure they would consider passing them down the family if they ask nicely. or even a cheaper ring or necklace from somewhere less expensive. after all, it's the symbolic giving of something to mark it that matters, not the cost, or even that it's a ring.
but if they choose to go without, that will be fine. they will still be married.
@drasnian (548)
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14 Aug 11
There's nothing against them doing this - everything is entirely up to them, and I know of several couples who have skipped an engagement ring, or who have bought a simple cheap ring that they plan to replace when they're better off financially.
It's not as unusual as you'd think nowadays and it's a sensible way to save money.
@touchtype30s (70)
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14 Aug 11
You don't need wedding rings to get married you just need love - and the legal ceremonies and papers to be official. People might think its a bit weird though if they are married and have no rings - that they've separated or something. The rings don't have to be really expensive - they can get something cheap and maybe even save up while married for gold rings possibly and wear cheap ones till then.
@kirishpatel (40)
• India
14 Aug 11
A wedding reing a nothing but a symbol of status how much u afford mony on this. but if you love eacj other jut go to direct marrig.if you not afford that much money or outof your bugect that you can buy a low cost ring or i place of ring you can give a rose for the symbol of love
@samrat16 (2442)
• India
15 Aug 11
No,not exactly.
Well it depends on the person.. everyones diffrent..........Usually the engagement ring should be 2 months salary......YES supposed to keep it forever. DUH! The wedding band comes in when you get married. If your askin when you should buy one....then that is when ever you want as long as its before the wedding. Special touches are either done before the wedding or on your one year anniversary. DUH again on the fact you keep these forever
@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
15 Aug 11
It should be OK even if they don't have a wedding ring. In fact the wedding ring is just a symbol for the ceremony. And a wedding ring can be anything, it can be even just a common metal ring from the pen. It doesn't matter. The most important that they want to marry to each other willingly.
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@churchill1980 (764)
• Philippines
18 Aug 11
for me, wedding ring is more important than the preparation or reception itself. our wedding was a dream come true for me. a very simple yet elegant wedding surrounded by my love ones and very close friends. i didn't wear a wedding gown, from the start, it is not on my list. i only want to wear jeans and shirts, something i could be very comfortable with, but my husband ask me to wear something formal. he brought me a blue dress, and i love it. everything was so simple, but our wedding ring costs more than the food we serve. i told my husband before we got married that a wedding ring is very important for me, it is the sign of our bond and we are to wear it, throughout our lives, for better or for worse, so it should be something we are to be given more attention and budget than anything else. and my husband provide it, i am so happy that he did. it gives me satisfaction and it made my dream come true.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
Well, I think it is important to have a wedding ring- it doesn't matter if it's expensive or not- it's the meaning behind it. The wedding ring signifies their marriage and commitment to each other, it also informs other people about it.
@dracopao (22)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
they can do whatever they want..your bf is right..they have their freedom to do their will..sometimes going through what has been a tradition could really make a whole out of your pockets..sometimes simplicity is the best as long as wants important is the couple love each other..they say a wedding ring is a symbol of a bond of the couple and its important to have a ring..but for me what matters most is the mutual feeling the couple has..
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
4 Dec 11
hi,
i think ring is very important especially to those catholic people,because the ring symbolize that you are married to someone you loved,and this also will binds a couple not only in the eye of the people but also to God.so when i see people who have this,meaning they already married and have responsible to other people.
@Harmonics (251)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
with or without a wedding ring, a marriage can go on normally. from what i observe, it is more of a "ceremonial" because not having a wedding ring to put on the fingers doesn't nullify an honorable marriage. as a couple contemplating marriage, your inherent right to decide on personal things should be respected by those around you. after your wedding, it will be you and your partner who is going to deal with the daily responsibilities and duties of marital life.
@GardenGerty (160952)
• United States
15 Aug 11
You do not need a ring to be married. You need the intent to be faithful and you need the legal and/or religious documentation. Marriage is in the heart. They are smart to wait on the rings if they do not have money. Who needs to start a life together in debt?
@bryanwmc (1051)
• Malaysia
15 Aug 11
state of mind versus the symbol of the ring.
when i initially got married,it was important to have the rings psychologically to us and those around us but as time went on and we have gotten used to each other's presence ,it doesnt seem as important , both of us seemed to have misplaced our rings,we both dont wear it and i cannot remember where i have lost it,but we have gotten so used to each other that neither of us will feel comfortable without the other.put kids into that equation and ring or no ring we are still as firmly married and commited to each other as ever.
@anitoton (389)
• Kolkata, India
14 Aug 11
hushi22 its all dependent on your mentality. after all its your life,you can choose whatever you want.Its just a ritual,that you have to show to the other people.An engagement ring does not create the relation. Its the heart in you. So it does not depends on a ring.We have the ritual of circling the a fire of holy fire god for seven times.But many people marries without any of this ritual.So it doesn't matter.
@mhelsdelacruz (160)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
For me wedding ring s not necessary . .Wedding ring is just a sign that you are married but their are also married couple who take off their wedding ring in their finger because they don't want other people know that they are married . .As long as you love each other,exchange vows and sign paper that's okay . .but if you want so but short of money why don't you buy a silver wedding ring . .The importance their is your love with each other . .
Best Wishes and Good Luck . .:)
@eynjel_1988 (330)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
Wedding rings symbolized a bond between a couple who gets married. This custom of wearing wedding ring was spread during the 20th century until now. Well I have attended several wedding ceremonies and they all have used wedding rings.
In your case since it is only a civil wedding, there is nothing wrong of not wearing a wedding ring on that day since the most important on that day is not the ring but the feelings that you have with your partner with each other.
But if you guys decided to get married in church, you really need to use wedding ring since wearing a wedding ring is a part of ceremony in church.
@bnpraveen (172)
• India
14 Aug 11
hai hushi
really iam not aware of necessary of wedding ring in marriage, but it is a custom that which we are following from our ancestors, in my view wedding ring is necessary for marriage, why because it gives some happyness to bride and bridegroom while they wear it,they feel much happy by showing to others asa wedding ring, here i need to say..it is not a matter of how much does ring cost?