Is 4-6 years old really the worst age for a kid?
By Fragab
@Fragab (128)
Philippines
August 15, 2011 6:03am CST
My son is really getting all the best out of me! Don't get me wrong, I love being a mother and I love my son so much, it is just that sometimes he does things that are so annoying...and so surprising, too. They say that 4 to 6 years old is their worst age, some says its just the start and it will be worse in the following years...oh my goodness, how worst can this be????
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12 responses
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
15 Aug 11
Hello Fraggab and welcome to myLot. Welcome to wonderful world of parenting. Back when I was raising my kids it was the terrible twos that we dreaded. Parenting is so much different today than it was when my kids were that age. It seems that discipline has gone to the wayside compared to what it was back then too. Kids seem to rule the family these days. Kids seem to be more hyper too. This is causing some restaurants to ban kids under 6.
If you don't ave control now you can look for a very hard time as your son gets older. When you have kids you have to have a different priority. A neat house is nice but your kids are little only once. Maybe you need to spend more time with him teaching him to color and reading to him so he learns how not to be hyper..
@Fragab (128)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
Maybe one reason why it is getting into my nerve is that i am beginning to feel old already. LOL. Perhaps if I had started a little early with parenting, maybe I could have been more patient. I start quite late being 30 when I gave birth. That is why my body is not agreeing with me most of the time. Sometimes I wanted to play with him but I can't anymore because I easily get tired. I hope he wont take it against me in the future, though. Thanks for your response. Have a nice day!
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@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
Awh.. is this for real?
Well, I think kids of this ages were really annoying and irritating and they do lots of noises or things that will really make you mad sometimes you can't do anything to stop them. they do want to explore things on their own. do things which you don't want them to.
I have a niece whose 4 years old now and studying. She is very hyper everywhere she goes. I find it hard how to manage my patience sometimes. Like you said, how worse can this be?
I don't know the answer.I'm so sorry. We are both in the same situation...
@Fragab (128)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
Either they are annoying or we are getting older...LOL. I guess kids are the same back then, now and in the future. I think, though, that as we become adult, we are less patient than our parents used to be. I suppose that is because of the technology and the lifestyle we have right now. Hopefully our kids grow better than us. I hope they become more patient and kind...LOL...so that when it is his turn to take care of me, he'll be nicer...
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
yes, that is what i dream also. for children to be more patient and kind for us to be loved and taken care of when we get old. It's hard to get old when you feel like nobody cares for you. I notice some old people who experience that. too bad!
I don't have my own family yet. I don't think when will I have a husband or a baby of my own. I just hope my family will take care of me, or if there's no one available, I hope there's someone who'll grow old with me and take care of each other as well. we all have to face old life.being old people.
kids will be kids. it's just their attitudes have differences, that's the fact!
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
15 Aug 11
I am a primary school teacher and I like teaching 5 to 6 year olds and 6 to 7 year olds. I am not keen on teaching 4 to 5 year old in the reception year. I think each child is different. One child can go through stages and this could include being annoying. I feel age 2 to 3 and a half is the terrible twos and happens to be quite challenging. Sometimes a school child can act up when he or she first goes there. At school a child can learn from others. Good luck.
@Fragab (128)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
Yeah, he is actually young for his school level. he is five and he is in first grade. he was accelerated when he was in preschool. now that he is with older kids, i think he is not getting good things from them. they are actually teaching him some not so nice thing. I wish I can get him back to preschool but there is not much i can do abt it. so i just pray that i will be able to teach him and guide him well. Tahnsk so much!
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
close your eyes and imagine the days when you are 4-6? are you an angel? if not then you know now why... har har har. that is called karma. well just kidding. some doctors say that the attitude of children also depends of what food they eat. if they eat too much chocolate, cola and junk foods. and of course you also need to give them tough love. no is no. my wife is very firm when it comes to this, while i have a hard time doing this but i have to or else i might be sleeping outside.
@Fragab (128)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
Karma...LOL! I remember a saying that says "A man realized that his father is right when he already has a son that tells him he is wrong". Oh well, yeah, I asked my parents how I was when I was small, they said they can't remember a time that I do not have a bump on my head. As a mother, I am actually a disciplinarian, but my son has his way of making super irritating remarks that really sends me to the limits. Sometimes it feels so right to whack him, though i haven't done something like that yet. LOL. Maybe, today...
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
well kids are kids. me and my wife believes in spanking. spare the rod spoil the child. but of course in the right place and at the right way. although our son is not that naughty and also he is scared when mom starts to sound piss. har har har. he knows how to stop once he heard mom's gator roar. my wife used to be a singer (well a professional one) so she can make her voice loud and strong so my son instantly change into a behave one once he hears change of mom's voice. love to see them like that. looking good regarding posting there friend.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
Enjoy your son's naughtiness, kids are like that.
I also think that once my kids grows us into young teens it would be easier to handle them..but I was wrong,the more they grow the problem becomes bigger as well.
be a friend, my kids are not bully when they're smaller,but now as they grows into young teens...I am having hard time with them.
So,I make friends with them and also adjust with their interest...now I act like their age,have to like their trend (hahaha)
Anyway,I like it...feeling like a teenager again.
have a good day always
jaiho®
@Fragab (128)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
I never thought parenting was this hard. I remember a time that I am always afraid of my father. I think I a still. Before, when parents say no, and you insists, they would say, you decide...that would mean if you decide on your favor that would be the end of you. Now, if you tell your kids to make decide, they will without actually thinking of what you would say regarding their decision. Oh well...kids this day...
@Fragab (128)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
when my son was two years old, i remember he still was manageable. Although he was actually hyper most of the time. my real dilemma actually started when he turned 5 just last year, was he unruly? OI guess that was when he start to attend school. He started to questions some rules that I set that apparently is different from the rules for other kids. His classmates are worse that him when it comes to discipline. But I still find him over the top most of the time.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
16 Aug 11
Hi Fragab,
What does your son do that is so annoying? I had 4 kids and they all had their irritating little moments but I have to say that I loved it when they were that age. I had all girls and I have to say that the teen years was the roughest of all to deal with. I don't know how boys are but girls are really difficult as teens.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
I think if you allow them to go worse then they will really turn worse and even worst. Naughtiness is bound in the heart of the child but you as a parent can always do something to disciple him. Train up a child in the way he should go so that when he is old he shall not depart from it. Parents are the children's guide toward righteous or unrighteous living. Whatever we taught our children will make or break them. You should train them to be good as early as they are born. Of course at age 4 and 6 they already know a lot and this age bracket is really crucial for their learning and training. If you then, as a parent is training your child to be a good and you are also a good example to him then you need not fear about him getting worse at all. That I assure you.
@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
18 Aug 11
I have been wondering for the past 46 years what is the worst age for a kid. Now I think the worst is between 44 and 46 years of age . Each age is difficult for parents and sons (or daughters). Parenting is not easy at any age nor is easy to be the son or daughter of someone. Noone teaches us how to do it well. All we can do is to give our love and do the best we can. Luck!
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
16 Aug 11
I can't say much about that, because I'm not a mother. But, for me, 4-6 years is my favorite age for my cousins. They were so much fun at this age and so cute!! Of course, they never wanted to stop to play, but, when I was tired, I put them on TV.
But, to live with 4-6 years kids 24/7 must to be a really difficult task, specially if you aren't a patient person.
@Sitakalyani (133)
• India
15 Aug 11
Do not feel your mentioned age limit as worse because children makes noise it is general for them. After grown up, you could not see those noise activities. Enjoy the activities of your kid.
@Fragab (128)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
Oh well, yeah I guess it just those days that you have too much and to do and they are getting into your nerves. Perhaps, I am just feeling a little stressed out as the day begins to have so many chores lined up. Monday and mornings is not a good combination for me. yeah, the noise is really, annoying. Not to mention the mess they make. Then if you ask them to do something better, they will either sleep or walk out. LOL. Aren't they the best? Ha ha ha