Get married or not?

There's no such thing as a perfect person. We choose and decide whom to love and as suggested we should love and accept the person for who and what he/she is. That means total embrace of the person's strengths and flaws. I remembered what my psychology prof told me in college, "if you love someone, it is highly recommended to evaluate if you wanna end up with them, visualizing yourself with them in marriage", from there you would know that you are for that person. Doubts are pretty normal but you should clear it before pursuing deeper into the relationship. Having the right person to marry is subjective, most of the time it's hard to explain and yet the feeling is great and you just know it. Just be open to what your heart feels and what your mind is saying then set the balance. They should work hand in hand instead of opposing each other. On marriage, you should ask yourself if both of you could really work things out in the future like fixing conflicts on principles and beliefs in life.How about life sytle?Most of all, have you imagined yourself waking up in the morning beside him?Is he the person you wanna grow old with?Ask yourself. Good luck!

Hi kwylima, It's so easy to think about love, to talk about love, to wish for love, but its not always easy to recognize love, even we hold it .....in our hands.

There is no such thing as the perfect person or the perfect relationship. It's a choice. You have to choose whether or not you think you want to stay with this person day in and day out forever. You have to accept them for who they are. If you don't think you can be with them as who they are right now then don't marry them. As for marriage for myself it's not something I have a need for. I'm perfectly happy being single the rest of my life. Marriage was never a dream of mine or something I feel I need.

marriage is not part of my imagination. i sometimes think about it and try to involve it on my plans for the future but no. i don't wanna get married. i'm used to being alone most of the time. though sometimes i love being with someone but my being independent would somehow be a problem. men usually have problems with that as i noticed. they wanna take care of me but i prefer doin everything on my own which would give them an idea that i dont need them even if i explain it that it's just me. but i would love to have kids soon. maybe 2 kids on my own, adopted or not..

I still believe that exist the right person out there, but unfortunately I still didn't find it. I have to say that I never felt close to be by the side of the right person to me, that's probably the reason why I never wanted to get married yet. But, I think that when you find this person, you will know right away.

I think you should ask yourself "What's the meaning of the right person?". And I want to tell you mostly the right one is not the perfect. Maybe just you love him. Many of us always like making choices. And at last, you know, the last one maybe isn't your Mr right. Just you love him and so do him at the beginning, and then you becomes his girlfriend. Then you try to share the experience, the happy or not happy. And when you feel that you can understand each other, at that time, you get married with him.

If you are thinking that your ideal man is the one for you, you might be wrong. And most of the time, your ideal man doesn't really exist. Majority of us will end up with someone far from what we are hoping for. It could be a good thing or a bad thing depending on how you handle the relationship. Definitely it is on the couples' hand on what the result of the relationship would be. There is no such thing as a perfect couple by the way. Marriage is a lot of work, it is a commitment. There would be a lot of trials but as long as both of you are on the same boat then everything will be alright. I'm not saying it is a bad thing, I am actually happily married. I'm just pointing out that it is not something that you can throw out or leave behind easily if ever things go wrong. Don't look for a perfect person, look for someone you want to be with through thick and thin for the rest of your life.

Usually, when people find the perfect person, they don't need to ask themselves whether or not he's the perfect person. They get a feeling that THIS PERSON IS THE PERFECT PERSON. Opening up to yourself can help, and maybe you'll discover that keep inside, you believe he is perfect. And maybe you'll discover that he isn't. Whatever the outcome, at least you'll know. I've heard a lot of different answers to the "when" question. Some people say immediately. The moment you see them, you fall in love with them and know that they are "the one". Others say that after getting to know them and understand them, they slowly realize that they love them. It's different for everyone, and I guess that's something you'll have to discover on your own ;) I haven't dated many people in my life, and I have definitely not found the perfect someone. But I know he's out there, and I'm looking! I hope that you'll find the right person!

Congratulations ,kwylima! It is always sweet to fall in love with someone . As to marriage , i am afraid of that i can not offer you any conducive suggestions for i have not got married yet . It is better for you to think twice before make a decision on that ,though . As you said ,rash marriage may make you miss your Mr Right .

In order for you to know he's the right guy is you must assess his ATTITUDE. How he treat you. You have to make sure he loves you more.. It's really good when the guy loves you more and check his views. Is he wiling to marry you, he will be a good father and a god husband to you. In the long run you'll get to know him more.Don't rush things, just take it slow. In my part I can say I found him and I am totally happy. Thank GOD!

I think when you feel that you cannot live without that person means he is the right guy for you . That is my realization when we had some problems and we think that we are not getting along together I ask myself would it will be the same when this person is gone in my life .Maybe that's a sign when you cannot live without him

hi:) I think if you are both financially and emotionally ready, then marriage is a good thing, everyone wants to get married and wishing that they will find that perfect one for them, it will come for sure, because there's someone out there for everyone.

First,I think you should have a definition if your heart:What is the perfect man for you?What is his character and personality? Then you should know there isnot the perfect man in the world. Marriage is the compromise of the two people and needs to be managed.If he is not good, but you are a good woman, you can change him.Really. So trust yourself and follow what your heart is thinking..

I'm not really a marriage type of person. maybe because of the experience that may parents had in the past and i guess all of the relationships that I had counts in as well. but views about marriage do differs on different people. I've got friends whom I really know way back and got married and are now living a very happy life. They even have kids now and I'm really so happy with them. Maybe if you really found the right one and you get to reach a certain level of mutual love and respect with each other, I think you can say it for yourself that you're ready to face a new stage in your life.

since you Know you want marriage then the right guy will want to marry you too. You will not have to hint about marriage. You will not have to wait for him to " come around" about the idea of marriage. When will you Know the guy you are with is the One? You will feel it. For me, I realized that my guy was everything I was looking for in a guy And he liked and Loved me , just the way I am. We just fit. So keep looking , there is someone for everyone.I am living proof!

I'm with my partner about 5 years. We talked about wedding many times. But the true is that we living as married and the ceremony would be only for family. We already feel like married couple. One day we will do it for sure but not yet. We are busy with our lives, work and hobbies. There is no time for preparing everything for a wedding.

My advice is... if you have that "Is he the right one for me?" question in your mind... that means you are not decided yet into marrying. You are not even sure yet if you are with the right person... The time I realized I wanted to get married was the time I realized, I am not complete without him. I feel alone when he is not around. That day I told myself, I cannot live without this man... that is the time I said YES..

well for me, just an opinion. Don't expect to marry a perfect person. It is really boring in the future. But I believe a perfect does not exist today. don't Just marry him because he is perfect but marry him because you accept the imperfection. That may do, I have heard and read stories based on real life. They taught that they marry a perfect person, but as their days goes by, the imperfection comes and they can accept it. In the end, their relationship ruined. Well, that is my opinion hope that may help.

What I would say is can you live without him? Can he live without you? Are you both madly in love with each other so that you complement each other and can't bare to be without each other? Nobody in this world is perfect but if he's basically a good person and you really love each other then you would want to live with each other for the rest of your lives (whether you marry or not) because there is no other way for you both to be happy. You can like a really good person with only a few flaws but that doesn't mean you are in love and have to get married.