Too much freedom for the kids

I remember when i was a kid like around 8 years old, freedom means i dont have to study, eat as many candy as i want, play as much as i like, and pull the tail of our cat as hard as i can. I love that freedom! :)

I really liked the way you put it as parents treating their children as possessions. I can relate completely with the situation as I feel that I was treated the same way by my mom. I feel some parents suffer from insecurity themselves and that rubs off on the way they treat their kids. My mom was so hyper most of the time that anytime I said No to something, she would take that as a sign of disobedience. That attitude of her didn’t do me any good as I was a rebel without a cause in my teens and early youth (that led to a lot of other related problems) and even in my professional life, I suffered a lot coz I never really learned how to handle people properly and how to present my point of view. There’s no doubt ever that mom loves me and whatever she did, she thought that it would be in the best of my interest, but that was not so. I think all parents should give their children enough freedom to develop their own judgment…only then can children ever become truly independent person.

i think i taught them well to be the best person they should be. but even how much i try them to act good they still do it differently or opposite to what we taught them. i could probably blame the technology as other people here agreed but not totally with how the parents guide them.

They need to watch The Waltons awhile. People quit having generational families and so they miss out on grandparents input in the family dynamics. My grandmother took care of me from a very early age so she instilled in me values and self respect. Oldfashioned ways of looking at life.