My overprotective Him

@pbbbsra (1214)
Philippines
August 15, 2011 6:27pm CST
My husband is protective and jealous and I love him like that. Sometimes, people tell him he is being too much but he will still not care. He won't let me go out alone. He won't let me ride the taxi and he won't let anybody come to visit me at home especially if he is working. Recently my inlaw asked me if I wanted to take a driving lesson. He won't let me go because he is scared that if I drive, I may come into some accident when another reckless driver come across my way. My friends were inviting me out and we agreed that we will be going out together by bus, he did not let me go, he told me where we will meet, he dropped me off and he returned to pick me up. He said the bus may come into an accident, and he is afraid for that. When we go out, his eyes are all over as if someone will try to take me away. He can't sleep with windows open and there will always be a baseball bat under his side of the bed. People think he is exaggerating, but I love him like that. It makes me happy and it's not even pressuring me when he is jealous or over protecting. Is your man jealous too? How do you feel when he gets jealous?
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
16 Aug 11
I was like that in relationship with my wife. I use to do many things for her not allowing her to go independently. Even today she may not like going to a bank, post office or other places. Possessiveness should be to an extent it doesn't affect the growth of the partner and enable him/her to enjoy life fully.
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
I agree... everybody thinks my partner is paranoid, but it does not make me bored. I love him like that, and it is making me feel very important.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
16 Aug 11
pbbsra-- 'paranoid" - dictionary says fearful-- megalomania. What is required is understanding between the concerned two. If that is good the whole world cannot change it.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
16 Aug 11
Gavril: Seeing you after a long time. How are you? hope u keep urself fine. perhaps u know them personally because u are also in the same place.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
My girlfriend can be very jealous and possessive at times but I still get some space. There are times when it irritates me and there also times when it makes me feel happy and proud.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
22 Aug 11
Then you both deserve each other and I am happy for the both of you. Best wishes!
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
It doesn't irritate me at all. It makes me happy and contented.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
19 Aug 11
yeah i have been told quite a bit that my husband is overprotective and controlling by a variety of people. i had never really thought much of it until they started saying something about it. i used to just think of it as he loves me and wants me to himself as well as wants me to be safe. but recently i started feeling like he is overreacting alot of the time....oddly enough he started suspecting that i might do something, not that somebody else would try to do something with me. it hurt me alot because i know i'd never cheat on him. i think he is getting out of control
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
23 Aug 11
I was sort of like that when I was married and I am like that now with my new girl friend. I am not paranoid, I worry about her. I guess I am an worrier. But, if there is a time when I cannot take her somewhere, I let her go alone. She isn't the type to just get up and go anyway. If she had to go somewhere if I could not take her, she would call her father and he will pick her up. You have to have some trust.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
That's so sweet of you husband, being over protective to your partner means he is so into you. That's so cute of him having a baseball bat,funny thing. he loves you so much and you're so lucky to have him. Good thing you don't get irritated of his actions. My boyfriend is jealous when someone stares at me and also over protective. There was once instance that a 3 men came to the house of her aunt and fixed the internet connection he told to go inside the guest room and stay there. Afterwards we went to their own house and left me their for I perfumed myself, he was so mad because of that and told me "why i'm using perfume,he left me at home". I will just laugh it off.
16 Aug 11
At least he is being ridiculously overprotective because he does love you and wants to look after you in this scary world. I would personally find the jealousy and overprotectiveness would do my head in and I'd rather be single but that's just me. You love each other so fair dos.
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
I know, people think he is being too much. He asks me sometimes if I am getting bored or I am not able to breathe. I tell him no, I don't even want him to change a bit.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
16 Aug 11
I don't think that I could quite stand the extent to which your husband is protective and possessive.... but to each their own!
• Guyana
16 Aug 11
My husband is the same. If you're happy with that kudus to you.