Old Friends: Where are you??

Are you talking about real life friends or mylot friends? It is really bad that your friends do not listen to you now.

Hi Tess! I think they didn't forgot you, and you should not think that way. Maybe they are just busy with their own life, with their family specially if they also have children now. Sometimes when we got married, our priorities in life changes too. Family, work... On my part, I am already married and I also don't have much time hanging out or even communicating with my friends, specially old friends...but it's because we are living far from each other and yes we are all busy with our respective lives. They might already find new friends and I do too but the friendship that we had is different.

I am sure they have not forgotten you and probably miss you too, but now that they are married it is harder to get together with people. Their husband's probably want to be with them in their spare time. The best thing for you to do would be to have a party and invite your friends and their husbands (and children if they have them). Get to know their husbands. If you become friends with their husbands as well it is easier for them to include you in things that they do and if their husbands find you trustworthy they are more likely to let their wives hang out with you or even suggest a ladies night every so often.

Old friends far too often tend to rather step right into the night and really it is only an act of faith when we run right into them. There are just times where perhaps they just fall into different areas of life, perhaps they have what they consider to be "more important friends" and therefore, their past friends are not important. It does make you question with some of these people about their friendships. Int he end, everything is really subject to a great deal of change, including the friendships. There were people from my childhood that I thought that I would be friends forever. Barely lasted a handful of years, as people tend to just go to the different areas in life, long forgotten right in life, rather into the distance. Life moves on, some friends remain forever, but many come and go and that is a shame but reality.

hello tess! i think it's normal for friends to be apart for sometime. but even if they don't text you, it doesn't really mean they forgot about you. they may or not. who knows? well, at least once in your life you have known them. that's the fact. people do change. friends come and go. you may treasure all your moments together. but if they are your real friends they will be there no matter what. well, there's much people all around right? you can gain friends in here as well. keep the faith!

People really change after years and we cannot blame them. We do have different priorities, responsibilities and careers but if we are really a true friend no matter how big things we have encountered or we are in a simple "HI!, HELLO! and HOW ARE YOU?" would really touch our hearts remembering the memories we had with our old friends in the past.

I don't like losing touch with the people who I was once so close with, but it's a sad fact of life that people do lose touch with each other when things change in our lives. I still have three of my friends from high school, and to be honest with you, I think I've done very well to be able to keep in touch with them over the years because all of our lives have been so different in many different ways. Some of us are married and some of us have children; so our priorities are bound to change as we grow older and how things change.

I am sorry to hear that ,tess. However ,i think it is better to let it go when you didn't get replies from your friends. Maybe they ,as you said ,have new friends.With the restrition of energy and time ,they are unable to keep in touch with all of their friends. Thus ,they may cut some of their friends out of their life . Although you are upset for your friends'coolness,you may turn into them someday . So just tolerant your friends and move on your life . Have a nice day !

I have just hook up with old friends from my high school days. I am thankful that a social network has allow me to catch up just like old times. Yes we have to be more accepting of the changes that are happening since we are no longer the person that we were before. We all have our own priorities. Do not judge them rudely because as I said they have different priorities and maybe you got more time on your hands compared to them.

That's too bad! Or maybe they're just too busy taking care of their family, they don't have time to meet you, not that they have forgotten you. Or some people are just too ashamed to meet their friends again because they believed that they have made the wrong choice in life. There might be a lot of reasons why they couldn't get back to you. Someday they'll have that time i hope.

I'm sure they have not forgotten you. Yes, there are a lot of changes when one person got married. Since the couple now prioritize their family. As long as they can adjust with the new situation, I'm sure they will find time to get together to common friends again. But I know it will take time. Just try to be more understanding. I know you might feel alone since your missing them. But time will come you'll get together again.

You must be very young or have limited life experiences to be so concerned about these friends. You need to realize that with marriage come a different set of values so to speak - not counting the different set of responsibilities and budgeting of time. If these people were ever TRUE friends, they will not forget you and change their feelings toward you much at all. Just sit back, relax and let the changes take place then one day, some of your 'friends' will wonder what happened with you and seek to find out. Praying for good things to happen to you as you are growing up!

hey tess there is nothing new people changes after some time its natural and after marriage people become more busy in life due to responsibilities,thats why they sometimes forget to reply thier friends and till peoples are in touch with us they are active but when they are apart from us sometimes they forget us.its natural thing.

hi:) I was going through some of my old things last week and found some letters from my best friend when I was 14/15 yrs old. In all of them, he was saying how much he missed me and loved me. He was such an awesome friend, funny and fun to hang out with. Reading his old letters brought back a lot of good memories, but it also made me sad. because since they migrated to Texas we don't have communication anymore. but I still hope that I'll see her again in time.

Not many people have the time to rekindle old friendships as they maybe busy with their real world demands. Fortunately I am still in contact with my childhood friends.

I understand your feelings. It's the same as what I feel to my old friends. They just forget. It's true that people changes. Before they're always willing to hang out with you but now, they seem not interested anymore. But there are still a few who will be there no matter what. I know so many people who managed to maintain their friendship even when they get married.

Understanding why my friends did not want to hang out as much after they got married was one of the hardest things for me to grasp. It was very difficult for me at first, but now a majority of my friends are married and have separate lives. I have learned to accept that they are married now and their lives have changed. Luckily, my true friends have not forgotten about me. Although we do not talk or get together as much, we can still pick up where we left off the last time we talked, even if it was 6 months prior. If your friends got married and forgot about you, then they weren't true friends to begin with and you will be better without them.

That's is not real friend if they don't reply to you when you send the message, it is not deserve to make friends with them. A real friend is the one who never forget you no matter where they are and what they do. There is an old saying: a friend in need is a friend indeed.

Hi tess! I am fine with it~ If one day they want to come back and contact me again I will accept it and if they leave me once more I can go through it because they are just friends. No best friends in my list. Just friends. When they were just friends they free to come and go. I make it that way so I won't put more trust and believe to them as I know they will not be with me forever and it will hurt me. I don't want to feel the hurt so I am ready with the consequences but not putting any expectation and replies from them..(^^)

I also miss my old friends. Its been ages since we talked to each other. This is life, friends that stick together till end are indeed a blessing. Its good at least you are initiating to meet them, now they reply or not, its on them, at least you can say that you never forget them, infact they left you.