Do you think someone can love the person they're with even though they cheat?

I don't believe people who say they love their partners and will die if their partner ever leaves them. Only for you to find out that they have another one on the side. It's simple really. The reason why you have a lover on the side if you're already in a relationship only means that you want something else that your original partner can't give you. And if you're not happy with what your partner CAN give you and have to look for someone else to complete what you need, then you don't love what you already have. I had a friend whom I had trouble understanding and convincing otherwise about this situation. He's married. He says he's totally in love with his wife and would die if she left him. There will be no one who will be fit enough to fill her place. She's been the love of his life since high school, and now they're married. She's this hot little piece and he loves doing things with her. And because his wife isn't into any wild bed games, he would like to experience that with other women. Which he has. He's gone as far as chatting up women in chat rooms to line up dates every other night, getting it on. He says his wife isn't that adventurous in bed, and he'd like to be able to do things that he sees in movies or videos. He describes the girls he goes out with in a way that would make you feel loved if you were the girl. I felt sorry for his wife which is why I kept trying to convince him that what he was doing was a sin. I tried using reverse psychology on him. I tried making him imagine what he would do if he found out his wife was doing the same thing. But he couldn't believe his wife would do anything like that. After that I gave up on him. I didn't sell him out to his wife in efforts to see that he was losing friends because of what he was doing. I'm afraid I didn't have the guts to tell his wife because I didn't know her well, and anyway she suspected me having an affair with her husband. I wouldn't be surprised, after what he was doing. I didn't even argue so that she could get the hint that the affair part was true, just not with me.

hi:) Yes that's true but there are some circumstances that the man cheat but that doesn't mean that he don't love her wife or girlfriend,. There are a number of reasons why people cheat and it doesnt nessasery mean that that reason has many think to do with you, or the way he loves you,well I'm just saying this from my aunts experience.

Personally, I feel that if a person has to Cheat, especially when they are married than they have no Self respect for themselves, and will never be Happy. Some people even if they know one is cheating will stay together for the sake of the kids, etc. and it often is quite detrimental to all. Personally I would hate to be the one being cheated on and it would take a lot of me to ever choose to stay. Because like you said their would be Betrayal and how could you ever Trust?

when you love someone, i personally think thaat you will not hurt them. the moment you start doing so, the moment you start thinking how hot the other girl is.. or start imaging what it would be like to be with other people.. that is a clear sign that you already have lost your interest or love for the person...

I've heard the side of my best friend regarding this. It doesn't mean that when the husband cheat, they doesn't love their wife anymore. Maybe, one way or the other there is something that is lacking in the relationship and because of the too busy schedules of being husband and wife, we sometimes forgot to do our responsibility as a wife. I guess it's not love either, sometimes it's just lust.

There is no question to the fact that when we love, there should only be one. If a person cheat on the one he claim to love, them that is not love. If a person love someone, he or she will not do anything that will hurt that person. He or she will not do something that can make that person step away from his or her life. Cheating means there is no love at all, it will make the other person lose trust and when trust is lost, no relationship can no longer survive.

Sometimes people fail and have weaknesses. If a man's weakness is women/easily falling inlove/seduced with women then you can't do anything about that. Some men are just like that.Though their love isn't perfect it doesn't really mean they didn't love at all. But if a man knows that's his weakness and doesn't really do anything about it then maybe he didn't really love you at all.

hi court-yea you absolutely right if someone cheat their partner they not in love with their partner .for me if you love your partner then why you find someone else if you really in love right?if still he/she can cheats their partner that is not true love...

I think that a cheater does love the person they are with but not in the way they use to. If the cheater didn't love them or care for them then they wouldn't feel hurt or repentful during. What you are saying is true but it's only the case for certain people. But, sometimes people don't intentionally cheat, it just happens. People fall out of love with people all the time, and instead of being upfront they rather go down the dirty road and hurt someone else in the process.

I don't think so... cheating is not acceptable in the land of LOVE... to those people who cheats to their partner... I'll pray for you! If you really love a person, you can't afford to cheat them because you don't wanna lose them... Remember, there is no LOVE in cheating...

When we build our relations on trust, love and friendship then there is no place of cheating or lying. All the problems can be discussed and sorted out peacefully. But, unfortunately these days people feel cheating as fashionable and do not actually understand the value of a platonic relationship. I have more respect to those who are loyal and true to themselves.

yes the true love is not see what he/she love always cheat, the true love always forgive.