Im really scared :(
@MissUnperfect (18)
United States
August 16, 2011 8:47pm CST
i have known a guy almost 10yrs, we went to school together and everything. well we finally got together after all these years things were going great, he has 2 children and i have one of my own and everyone was getting along and everything.
But...he has a major lying issue and most of the time its about dumb stuff..and it is very frustrating. well i moved from pa to be with him in louisana and i ended up moving back to pa because we "needed a break" we are engaged and i love him and he loves me, but i dont know what to do about the lying issue...he says he will stop and i believe him but what if he does it again?
also found out im pregnant with his child, im trying to make our relationship work and on top of that his family is so nosey and they are always in our buisness, constantly putting him and i down...i cant just tell him to drop his family because i know he wont...anyone have advice? im out of ideas and wanna break down and cry.
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@GardenGerty (160883)
• United States
18 Aug 11
Maybe he lies because his parents are so nosey? What happened to the mother of his two kids? I would suggest that since you are building a family together, you guys need some family counseling, to help him figure out why he lies and what he can do instead of lying. He should be willing to go with you so you guys can have a fresh start. Where do his parents live? I think it would be a good idea to put some distance between you. Not that you should not have them in hyour life, but distance helps make good boundaries. He will have to stand up to them. Why are they putting you down?
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@MissUnperfect (18)
• United States
18 Aug 11
his mother is a really nosey person. ive only met the woman like 4 times but see the thing with her is she is a major alcholic and a real piece of work in other words. she lives in LA not far from where we were living, we wanted to move and get away from her but we are having alot of finicial issues right now, taking care of almost 4 kids, and us 2. his babys momma is in another state and has nothing to do with her kid...so she isnt any of my concern really.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
17 Aug 11
It is difficult indeed if the family of the man you love is too nosey.
Maybe you could talk to him for the both of you to be far from his family. Tell him, you need a peaceful environment because you are pregnant. It's not good for a pregnant woman to be stressed , so talk to him nicely about it.
Fight for your family to be !
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Jun 12
hi missunperfect the lying would get to me if he refused to stop. then I would feel he did not love me enough to stop. no I think if he wants marriage he has to do it , change and change now and quit lying and the two of you move to where he does not lean on his parents.. their putting him down just adds to his lying. get him some mental counseling an break the lyiog habit with help.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
20 Aug 11
First off, I think you should talk to him about your being pregnant. Does he know already? Even though he already has 2 kids, he should know that he is having another one, and this baby/child would need him to be always straight up with you. It's part of his responsibility.
If he, or his family can't deal with this, then maybe it is time to move on.
