I want a divorce!

life is full of ups and downs and divorce will not end those ups and downs in life. divorce is just a separation between you two. but after divorce you will be separated but the thoughts about him will not go from you for sure. whatever you do,you will try to connect everything with him and you will start missing him badly. you cant think about the bad things he did for you. only the good deeds he did for you will flash in your mind. even though the bill is passed,don't try to do that stupid thing my dear sister:) secondly if you have kids it is a wrong time to appeal for divorce. this will affect the mentality of the kid. every kid want their parent to be united and not separated. so every parent should keep in mind about their kids future and they should lead a beautiful and peaceful life. try to go for a long walk with your husband and try to share some really beautiful memories of him. he will surely enjoy. if the girl is not intelligent the family will be messed up. we should play some tricks to keep our husband with us. hope you know all the strategies to make your husband happy and all the best for your beautiful life.

Hi toni! You're lucky to have a wonderful husband who loves you. I've seen those scenarios of people throwing their partner's stuff out of the house because they were in a feat of rage. After awhile, they mend their differences and end up with a stronger relationship. On the other hand, regarding this issue on the Divorce Bill, I will admit even I want to have it push through because it will give women more power in their relationships. Having it passed doesn't mean that everybody should get a divorce. The sanctity of marriage is still a great responsibility of the couple and they should at least try all options before doing so such as couple therapy and living separately rather than fully terminating a bond made in front of God. For those who are saying that they shouldn't have gotten married in the first place, the question lies, have you not done something wrong that you can no longer fix? The family comes first but what if the family is self-destructing because of two people who had made the wrong decision. We are humans, after all.

Absolute divorce decree as I think should not be allowed here. It is never a solution to break marriages. Besides, it also destroys the true meaning of marriage. I ove what you said, you may have that imperfect marriage, but you find ways to cope things. That is actually the significance of the vows. Divorce is just another escape from obligations. It loses the meaning of marriage.

when i got separated with my first wife, i thought about divorce. but at that time and until this time, divorce is not available in the country. i would love to see divorce finally accepted in the country. but on the second thought, i hope it will not pass the chamber. do you mean that if divorce is available at the time you had the serious fight, you could have divorced him?

I agree with you. Even if there will be divorce, i do not think i will go and file for one. There are a lot of ups and downs in a marriage but i think it is a matter on how to solve it and in my case, we are both willing to solve it no matter what.

I think you must banish vigorously any idea about divorce. You've a family and they need you. On these days the world need strong and united families.

Nice post! But I wonder why your country doesn’t have a divorce law yet!!! Maybe in one way it is good for your society. Fifty years back, couples still had their issues, women still were browbeaten but they still carried on with the good and bad in life. Nobody thought of divorce, it was such a taboo. Now that it is legal and commonplace in many nations, couples don’t want to compromise, sacrifice and give each other time and space…separation is the quickest and least messy solution for many. I agree with you wholeheartedly. Being a working woman and a mother, I know how difficult it is for me to juggle everything…most of the time I’m stressed out and irritated with life. My husband, coming from traditional upbringing, doesn’t really feel it necessary to help me in household chores. I’ve shouted, I’ve sworn, I’ve cried but I’ve never ever imagined separation…it just doesn’t figure in my scheme of life.

Hi Toni! Your approach is very saner and practical. You are very right that couples keep fighting on various issues and they also hold different opinions on a single issue. Fighting with each other or disagreeing with each other does not mean that we should go for separation or divorce. Like you, I also shudder at the thought of divorce and never allow these kind of strange thoughts to come in my mind. If any time things turn too bad, I will leave no stone unturned to save my marriage. I feel that divorce is not a solution to our disagreement with our partner.

I was married and divorced and no regrets. My husband was abusive and while I loved his good points which he definitley did have, I could not live with the abuse and I did not want my girls to witness it and think for a minute that it was ok to put up with abuse. I do honestly think divorce is too easy and people rush into it way too quickly but all in all, I am glad that it is available. I just think that people should take more time and think things thru before entering marriage and I think they should do the same when thinking of exiting it. It's not so much the laws as it is the people's values and how much they value the relationship itself. I did not enter into my marriage with thoughts that if it didn't work out, I could just get a divorce. I really loved my husband and had a lot of convictions. I did not choose divorce lightly either nor in a moment of anger. I put up with a lot and gave it every chance I felt possible. I was raised Catholic as well and I gave up the church but I did it for my children. I don't have any regrets in that. I really don't want to belong to a church that thinks I should put up with abuse and that my daughters should witness that and see their father in that light.

Maybe one or two serious fights that makes us disappointed at our significant others, but when you come to think about it, you might realize how silly that was. We shouldn't fight at the first place, and we shouldn't develop such silly thought on breaking up, or getting divorce. Sorry for your disagreement with your hubby, hopefully you both make it up for each other.

We found between thoughts and feelings telling how much separation hurts. We found between time and times as much suffering heart. The answers are not hard in the swamp where all the folly lies. The real treasure of hidden paths to the highest of your beauty. Just as every rose has at least one spin, like every night has at least one starry morning star and your life is at least a hope, a ray of light even if you close your eyes. No you can end the show. No one will have power to keep you behind the scenes to pull ropes for someone else to take your role in your life spotlight. Do what's best for YOU!

i think that is a good marriage. you are able to stick with your partner through ups and downs and in sickness and in health. that is the reason why i dont like the divorce bill, people may become reliant on that and when just one little fight or misunderstanding and they are not able to cope up they may use it to end a sacred rite.

please thinking again to divorce has many affected to your family including in big affect in your child

Wait so if you did want a divorce you couldn't get it because the law isn't passed? I know what you mean about having ups and downs and fighting? I've only once thought about divorcing my husband and that was when we were fighting for 2 months, it was a really long fight. It happend about a year ago, but I can't stand to be away from my love, I love him so much, I want to be with him forever, grow old with him, and die with him. I want to make a family with him to. I love him.

Hello Toni, My chance of me getting married will never come true if this bill is passed into law. marriages will be doubtful beyond recognition. look what's happening to other countries, using marriage as a tool to get into the country just to be a citizen and then once they are resident, then they divorced who ever they married to. have a nice day

Hi toni i couldn't imagine not being with my husband. I believe that is the secret of a good marriage. I 100% believe in this as I cannot imagine myself without my wife. Some say that this attitude is quite bad but I see that it is quite positive and gives me almost everything that I can give into to maintain this relationship. Fights, quarrels happen in almost every relationship and They add some love and spice in the relationship (if you take those positively). I am so happy that you are my friend

yeah,you must have some uneasy adult problems to be sovled,but my advice is you should better take more thinking of you child.in your picture,your kid is so cute,i thinke that he would not like to see his mom and dad breaking.in china,couples realize that thay have responsbilities not only to their swearing but also to their child,although we have divorce item in marriage law.i think that you and your husband share the same view with us,best wishes!

why now you want to fresh some one?