Family against your Man... What will you do?
@katrinadoreen (31)
Philippines
August 17, 2011 9:04am CST
My boyfriend and I were together for 8 years now. I kept this from my family because of our situation. He is 12 years older than me. We met when i was 15 through textmate.
My mom caught us when were in our 5 years of being together. She was told by someone i didnt know and feed her false information about my boyfriend. So she got mad and told me to stop it.
When the woman is rich and the man is so-so. Some people tend to look at it as the man is up for the woman's money. and that is exactly what happen to us.
Ofcourse i still continue our relationship because i know who he is and hoping that someday my family will accept him.
On our 7 years of being together my mom caught us again and same person who told her false information 5 years ago. This time was unexpected because she confronted me early morning together with my aunt who live in another city, they let me choose between him or them.
My Aunt purpose their is to bring me with her and live with her forever. No connection to anyone. So i choose HIM not that i dont love my mom. My reason is that is i know he is a good man and he is not using me or is up to my money that they are accusing him of. My mom wont let me but when my Aunt enter in our conversation she said to my mom to let me go. I think it is easy for her because i am adopted. i dunno
Now im here in my boyfriends family for 4 months now. Good thing is that my mom and i were ok. I contacted her through phone.
SO HOW MUCH WILL YOU SACRIFIES IN THE NAME OF LOVE?
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4 responses
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
17 Aug 11
I'm glad you chose to be with him, sweetie.
I will leave my family in a heartbeat to be with the one i love.
It's not always easy, but sometimes we just have to follow our hearts.
And you have been together for a long time now.
As long as you both are happy, nothing else really matter.
Families come around, eventually.
@katrinadoreen (31)
• Philippines
19 Aug 11
You are so right that family do come around. I guess my mom realizes that he's not that bad after all. Family will always understand and support you all the way.
@love2click (366)
• Philippines
18 Aug 11
Hello katrinadoreen, I really admire your decision. Me too has a boyfriend for 9 years. Our relationship started when we are young as 12 years old. He is my first boyfriend and i am also his first. Our relationship is perfect for us the way we treated it except for one thing, my family was against him. So we keep it secret. We decide to tell it to my family hoping that they will accept him but we only got disappointment. My mother was so angry and she wants to terminate our relationship. She forbid us to meet, I don't know why they are against us. My boyfriend is good and kind and I'm sure he really loves me. Even though he is not that rich he has a good job.
They forbid us to meet so e meet secretly..
After 7 years of covert relationship, I got pregnant unexpectedly. My family got mad at me. Our child is now 2 years old, but still in the same situation, my family don't want us to get married. They don't even let us or my boyfriend to see us. So in order for my child to see her dad, I sometime bring her to his father.
This was really a hard situation for us.. We are now 21 years old and has a child but still my family interfere with us. For now we are deciding to elope but I'm afraid of it..
(Sigh) It's really hard!! :(
@katrinadoreen (31)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
Its really hard to elope from your family because you love them too and they are your family. In my case i wasn't able to think clearly because i was confronted early morning right after i wake up. I can feel that my mom really wont me allow. The hard part was seeing my mom crying when i leave.
If i were in your case,I will to my man if you will elope from your family, that you both can raise your child and provide his/her needs as well as the both of you then if you can i will talk to my mom and try to convince her for the last time to try to accept my man especially you have a child already. If still she can't accept it then GO prove to her. It will be hard but later on trust me she will come around and everything will be OK. Don't forget to pray OK?
Message me anytime if you have a problem, I will be glad to help...
Nice meeting you.
@derlilaStern (1756)
• United States
17 Aug 11
It is always hard when your family doesnt approve of a relationship!! I dont think the age matters at all!! My brother-in-law is 25 years older than my sister!! At first a lot of people in my family didn't believe their relationship would work. But they have been together for over 7 years and continue to love each other!! They really are great for each other.
I hope things can work out as well for you and your boyfriend as they did for my sister. Maybe when your family realizes he is still with your even though you dont have their money right now, they will see that he loves you and not your money!!
@katrinadoreen (31)
• Philippines
19 Aug 11
Yes and I think I already prove it that He is not up to my money because I move to his place with nothing...
@katrinadoreen (31)
• Philippines
18 Aug 11
Yah! i am happy. were not married cause i still want the blessing of my mom...
