Breakup reason: He's interested in another MAN

See at the end of the day, if hes gay, then hes ga.. there is nothing she can do to change it. And if hes going through a phase, or experimenting, when hes finished his phase or experimenting, chances are she isn’t going to want him back anyway! .. so either way, theres nothing can be done. If I were you, the approach I would take, is atleast she has nothing to be jealous over! Atleast she will never see her ex with another woman! She won’t ever see another woman in her place! Won’t ever need to compare herself to the other woman, wonder if the other woman is more attractive, better in bed.. nothing! She won’t ever have to imagine him doing the things with the other woman that he did with her!! .. she won’t ever have to be “the ex” because there will never be another girl in her place. That’s a good thing!! I’m sure all of us who have ever been dumped, and then seen another pretty, skinny girl in our place, has thought that we got dumped for a better model. She’ll never have to think that, because no matter who her ex meets, she’ll always be the pretty one haha cuz girls are prettier than boys :)

I'm sorry Kei but this really made me laughed! But I think I could understand the frustrations your friend felt! Of all the reasons there could be for a break up, she was so unlucky to have been thrown that. But I think there's a consolation to this, at least she wasn't dumped for another woman. Wait, now I'm confused which is more frustrating. ^^ I guess both is. I'm not helping, am I? lol I don't have any idea either on how you can console her! ^^ To say that there are other fishes in the sea is cliche. Maybe you can tell her that the guy only said that probably because the guy thought it would hurt her more if he said there's another woman. But I'm pretty sure there's nothing wrong with her or there's nothing that she did to make him realize that he's gay! That's a personal thing I guess. It's just a coincidence that your friend was the one he was with when he realized his true self. ^^ She'll get over it for sure. Good luck!

I've been there and done that... It stinks, but perhaps it is better that he did it NOW instead of waiting until they were perhaps married? I think that would be more devastating. While she may be upset, if she truly cares for him, she will respect his decision and hope for his happiness.

I am so sorry to hear that, and tell your friend that she will find another man will appreciate her existence as a woman, and not because she make him realize he likes man. She will find another good man for her life though. Honestly, to read this discussion, I found it kind of hilarious though, but seriously, she will get her a good man.

Your friend is very young i think. There's a lot to learn in life. She should be thankful the boyfriend was honest with him. Tell her what her life would be if they ended up getting married and the husband is having an affair with another man. That would have been worse right? I would be sad and depressed if the man i think is the man i loved would end up to be liking another man, but i would soon get over it and be thankful. Why? Because the man that i loved no longer exist! He's no longer a man, so why should i continue loving a man that isn't no longer a man. I will try to be his friend instead.

hi kei, Well this is really kinda frustrating and insulting one But it happened already your friend can move on though it is not that easy, but now a days women are not rivals with other women but with some men too. happy mylotting

What is a girl to think when her best efforts make the boyfriend decide he likes men better? Wow! That is a tough one. Obviously the guy was a selfish brute, and it would have come out one way or another. Once she puts this situation behind her, she will be better off, and able to move on.

I don't think she needs to take this personally. It was probably the situation of the guy being in a steady relationship with a female - could have been any woman - which has made him realise he is gay after all. Chances are high that he was already doubting his sexuality and perhaps hoped that with a girlfriend, he could confirm being heterosexual to himself. He could have stayed in the relationship with your friend trying to bury his homosexual feelings, hoping that continuing with a woman would make them disappear, only to probably discover that his gay feelings became stronger as they weren't being explored then satisfied? It's sad that your friend has had to go through this, but I'm absolutely certain it's nothing she's done wrong. Hopefully she'll recover from this experience soon, and it might be worth pointing out that had they have gone ahead, got married etc., it may have hurt a lot more long into the future if the man had then, years ahead of now, decided that he no longer could suppress his true sexuality and left her then. At least now she's free and presumably young enough to find somebody else. Her pain will heal in time and she's lucky to have a supportive friend like you.

hello kei, I can't help to laugh (hehehe) I know that hurts and was kind of insulting eh...dumped for another man. Yes, you are right, i think it would be easier to accept that we will be dumped for another woman..but for a man..(goodness) Well, tell your friend that she should be thankful, imagine if they get married, who will wear the wedding gown then? No offense meant my dear...just make your friend laugh (hehehe) jaiho®

Bwuahahahahahahahahahaahhahahahha It's a joke, isn't it? Because if is not, then that guy is less intelligent than a pair of dirty socks.

She should consider herself lucky and should thank the guy for being honest with her. I have a friend whose father is gay and they only found out about it when the were teenagers already. What's bad is their father even cross dressed and brought men in their house and they can't do anything about it because they all depend on him including his mother. Just let your friend cry it out because she'll eventually move on.

Well I know how she feels.Being dumped is hurting enough, but in exchange of another guy is just super shocking.But that is better than marrying him and someday discovers that he can outrace her for the eyeliner and the mascara .That's life, just any other break-up , all she needs is time to heal and she will forget about it.It's all an attack at our ego, whether for another girl or another man,hurts just the same.But all wounds heal.

Just tell your friend, when she's old and have a family of her own, she will look back to that day a just-out-of-the-closet guy broke up with her. But being dumped for another, man or woman, gay or straight, is nevertheless painful. Convince your friend that there was nothing she did to make the ex gay. A gay guy is a gay guy and it's only a matter of time for his coming out. The best thing to do is not to wallow in hurt and tears. Go out with her and do shopping, have your nails done, eat out at a fancy restaurant, have a makeover. Be happy for the ex because he is now out and free to be himself. And finally, find a man... a real man!

*sigh* you know men... they sometimes don't get things right. It's really sad to hear that and a 2 year relationship is really long. It is possible that the guy wanted to participate in a relationship with your friend because being "straight" is considered the norm. After being with her, he realized that he wasn't experiencing a real relationship he wanted and the fact that he's gay. Knowing that you were just an experiment does hurt, knowing that he truly never loved you that way. Tell her that there's more fish in the sea and it was just bad luck playing it's game. Does she still talk to him? They may need to talk to settle the matter further.

Your friend must be in shock when she learned about the truth. I am in the impression that you have said all the positive things you could to console her. I think there is no need to say anything anymore. Just listen to her though she might say the same things over and over and be with her at all times that are possible for you. Once she is over this, she would definitely laugh at what happened.