Im shy in public and im about to go to a new school!
By cole585
@cole585 (167)
United States
August 18, 2011 12:24pm CST
hi im 16 and im a guy going to a career center/this is a special school that people from ohio can go to their junior and senior year to study things they are interested in going to college for/ But anyway im extremely shy unless i know the person im talking to. i think its mainly because im a perfectionist and i like to make sure that nothing i say will offend them. This causes making new friends hard. But usually after being around a person for a couple weeks i can pick up on how they are and adjust my personality do their liking but i swear i come off as the quiet kid when people first meet me and im hard to approach haha What is some stuff i can do to make sure i come off as a cool guy that wants to make friends right off the bat. Im really nervous because im not going to know anyone and if i cant find someone to sit with at lunch ill be walking around like an idiot the first day...
3 responses
@cole585 (167)
• United States
18 Aug 11
I hope I don't have to much trouble I hope that since they will be in my class for the same things as me we will have a common... likeness that will allow us to become friends quicker so that might help but o well shy people seem to make friends half way easy becuz the out going people find us... amusing hahaha Idk I guess they like to try to bring us out of our shell so yea
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
18 Aug 11
There are times when I can face the public but most of the time I'm afraid to do it. I get nervous because I might make a mistake in front of a lot of people.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
18 Aug 11
If situation calls for you to speak up, obviously you have to do it no matter how nervous you are. Also, you have to speak your mind because that's the only way you will be heard. Being tagged as the quiet person has its advantages but in most cases, it's not good. Although there are some chics who dig guys like that, you should watch out for that. You'd be suprised how many cute girls like quiet guys.
@cole585 (167)
• United States
18 Aug 11
Lmao see I always wonder about that girls wud have to make most of the convo on a date with me but I wide think that wud get annoying so I always try to make really stupid convo that doesn't really have any meaning to it I may play out my quiet Guy attitude now that u said that :) haha
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
18 Aug 11
I was shy at your age, too, and never really overcame it till I was in my late 20's. I didn't make friends easily because I cared about what people thought of me but I've since come to realize it doesn't matter--if they don't like me, that's their loss!
You need to relax and be confident. Think up some opening lines like hey, how ya doin' or ask about what they are studying. Remember that people love to talk about their favorite subject--themselves! Ask leading questions about their area of study, where they got that cool jacket, what kind of car they drive, anything they can talk about and feel cool. You'll soon have more friends than you can handle and get a reputation as a great guy.
That's all I know! I hope you make friends and have a great time at the school. What are you going to be studying?
@cole585 (167)
• United States
18 Aug 11
haha sounds like a plan as long as im not to shy to actually start conversation. I keep my gpa above a 3.5 easy but im apparently not smart enough to make a conversation! btw gpa out of 4.0 not to bad haha idk i feel more comfortable around people that i know are geeky like me but that doesnt mean ill be able to talk to them I shall be studying computer network electronic technology! my favorite subject in all the land haha its so cool i love messing with computers and opening up ipod touch's and stuff its great i cant wait for it to start
