I felt bad for this guy

Hi CaptAlbert, Your link did not work for me. I think that if the girl walked out on him then that says a lot about the relationship itself. I'm not sure if I sympathize with the guy or not without knowing a little more behind it. I'd be curious to hear the girls explanation. I mean to ask on a live NBA basketball game, you'd think he'd be almost positive of the answer or was it a way to manipulate her...hoping she'd feel pressured into saying "yes"? I had this happen to me on a much smaller scale once. I had been dating this guy for about 3 months. I was a single mom and no where near the point where I wanted to make even a live-in committment. My girls weren't too fond of him and I really wasn't sure that the relationship was going to go anywhere. He was fully aware of all this. He invited me to have lunch with him on a yacht. Having never been on one, I thought it'd be a fun adventure so I accepted. Well, we got on the yacht and there was all his family whom I'd never met before. That part was unexpected but they were all very nice people. Right in the middle of lunch he stood up and asked me to marry him. Apparently, they all knew that he was going to do this. I was the only one that didn't. I felt put on the spot and very awkward. I just said that I needed time to think about it. I broke it off with him afterwards.

I feel sorry for him because of the way he got rejected and humiliated in public. On the other hand, I can't really see what the woman could have done to make the situation easier for him. She could have said yes in the situation and when they were alone she could have told him that she didn't really want to marry him, but that would also have been a painful situation for him. He would have gotten very disappointed, because he thought that she was going to marry him and the second problem is the people who watched him propose to the woman. When they congratulated him he would would have to explain "Ehm...I am not getting married anyway" and that would be an akward situation. If the woman had told him that they should talk about it in private instead of saying or not. I would imagine that people would ask him afterwards: "So what did she say?" and he would have to tell them that he had been rejected. So that wouldn't have been the perfect solution either.

I don't know how I would have handled it from the guys point of view, but if I was the girl, doing the rejecting, I would give him a hug and ask that I speak to him in private. Sure most people would already guess that I had turned the guy down, but at least it wasn't a blatantly done...

I've seen that video before, and I think the worst part is the newscaster/announcer saying, "I'm just waiting for the girl to say no!" and then she does and the announcer is like, ".... you know I was only kidding, right?" I don't think it's any less humiliating if the girl was to say yes to the crowd and then no when they were alone. I think that would be double the heartbreak, because he'd believe she was saying yes and then find out she lied. Then he'd have to explain to all his friends and family and all the people (possibly strangers) trying to give their well-wishes that the yes was just a ruse. I'm not entirely certain why she said no, but I bet she had her own personal reasons. I mean, we don't know how long they've been dating... could be two years, and could be two weeks. She might have a legitimate reason that she's not ready or he's not the guy she wants to marry. Or she could just be heartless or selfish or something. There's no way to tell from the little information given. If I was with a guy who went to such lengths to show his love, I can't imagine why I would say no... but if I knew the answer was no, then I'd say it right then and there. I don't think a ruse to save him public humiliation would be any better for him. Once again, I can't imagine what my reason for saying no would be. This is my favorite marriage proposal video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eJWlavnM6b0

hello, Yeah, I also feel sorry to him. If I were the girl I will say yes even I dont like and I will just say it to him later if I don't really like to get married yet because I know if I rejected him, he will feel ashamed to all of the people watching all over the world.I think the girl dont feel the same to the guy because she never think what will be the consequences of what she did. She is selfish because she never think the feeling of other.

I just watched the video, where was the part she said no? I watched it to the end, and she said yes from the start to the end. did she reject him after this video aired or something? I don't feel I can comment if I'm not seeing the rejection at all. if this is the case then maybe she didn't want to marry anyone at this point in her life and it may not have to do with her not loving him.

Well, the way I look at it, things happen for a reason, and I look at it as a good sign, that there was not a truthful relationship to begin with ! Sometimes your feelings can get carried away, and you lose perspective of what your 'friend' is feeling'! Or maybe she was just using him to begin with, or didn't think she was 'sure-footed' enough to handle this permanent commitment ! Basically you just do what the rest of us, have had to do, just pick up the pieces of your broken-heart that is left, and try to mend it together as best you can, and try to move on, things happen for a reason ! All in all, it makes you stronger as a person !

Oh that was just sad. But I'm just wandering, why did the man proposed to his partner if he is not sure of what the girl is feeling about it. I mean you will only proposed if the feeling of settling is mutual right. And doing it in public with so many viewers makes the situation more than worse. Poor man. I just hope he could cope up well with what happened to him.

hello capt, That's really sad. I've watched sweet and cute video proposals...and it made me fall in love again and again. But with this one having bad result...I can feel how much it pained the concern person. But we have to understand the girl's feeling as well, maybe she really never loved the guy. have a good weekend ahead jaiho®

That is so brave. Unfortunately, he didn't get his wished answer. I saw other videos of proposal fail and girls walked away after rejecting their man. Why don't they say no and comfort them and not just leave or walk away.

I think she never had feelings for him in the first place or that feeling was not strong enough. There is also a possibility that she's not ready for a commitment yet but either way, it really was sad for the guy. If that happened to me, I would really be hurt. It's hard to prepare for something like not to mention the mental preparation for doing a proposal in a big crowd. At least she was straighforward enough but she shouldn't have walked away, she should've just said sorry or maybe in her mind, that would be too awkward.

I think that there is possibly another side to this. What if she said no specifically because he made a big show of it ? Heck, what if she's not even a fan of basketball ? My point is I can certainly see a side where to some women such a grand gesture could seem selfish, attention seeking, and impersonal. Having "the nuts" as you it to do something like this is quite frankly the easy part. Understanding one's partner's needs and personality enough to build a successful marriage is the hard one. If he had accomplished the latter, she probably wouldn't have said no.

I remember that video! When I first watched it, I felt so sad for the guy, going through all that trouble and having the woman walk away. But then I thought about it. Maybe she didn't want the proposal to be such a public ordeal, or was in too much of a shock. I don't know! It's really sad though D: I think if that happened to me, I would feel somewhat embarrassed because it was witnessed by so many people. But worse than that is feeling crushed by the fact that the "love of your life" rejected your proposal :(