Criticism - Take it of Leave it!

Hi bianca! Everybody encounters criticism once in a while. There are destructive criticisms and there are constructive criticisms. Destructive are those that pulls us down like you said but only if we let it. Constructive criticisms are those that can help us move on with life and change for the betterment like you said only if we know how to distinguish it. I mean, it depends on us how we will treat criticisms that we encounter. We can treat it as destructive or constructive and so it will affect us differently. Cheers.

When I receive a criticism, I contemplate on it. There is always a basis for everything and sometimes we get caught up by the situation, how it affects us and the effect it has on our being and even how we respond to it that makes criticism automatically a negative energy. In order to control the effect we must eradicate the cause - so if you reflect that indeed it was your action, the way you behave or your habit that leads to that criticism and indeed what they saw/say has a hint of a truth in it then we should evaluate ourselves. However if those criticisms are made up then you got nothing to worry - let it go.. cause no one knows you better than yourself aside from your God (depends on which religious sector you belong). Let them have their way cause eventually they'll wear themselves out. When I receive a criticism I evaluate it and act on it to make myself a better person.

I think, people who criticize are not happy with themselves that they have to find fault of things. on the positive side, criticisms are like stones and what won't kill you will only make you stronger. regards =)

For me it really depends on the criticism if that will make me improve myself or just judging me wrongly.Criticism has a negative and positive feed back in us.Usually I will just ignore it because i know myself better than they know me.

You're right. I don't take criticism that well, I usually tend to feel down about myself. I tend to feel bad for a while and afterwards move on and not make the same mistake again. Most of the time, criticism is based on one's opinions and dislikes.

Negative criticisms are the most hard ones to accept. Especially if it aims to push you down. But when we are criticized it is the time that we get to know more about ourself through other's opinion as long as the critic will be objective in his response so we can take on it positively to improve on things that needed attention. We should learn to separate the destructive ones so we could avoid the feeling of self-pity and pessimism in the process.

a criticism all depends who will be the one telling it to you and how that person lay it down on you. if someone who you knows that cares for you then why not listen and try to take it in. me and wife are both open with this. if a brother or sister would criticize us we are okay for that. but when the criticism comes from a person who we are not that close i ignore. my wife is different she analyze it first. if she thinks that it will help her grow as a person then she embraces it. me as long as that person is genuine then i will atleast listen and learn.

Criticism can be something that might in fact be useful, to an extent I say. Of course there are people out there who criticize for the sake of being critical about other people. There are some people who give what is called constructive criticism, where it is actually going to help us become better and to grow to a better point, but those people tend to be among the minority a lot of the time. There can be a rather huge problem with determining between criticism that is warranted and those who are just nit picking. Some people tend to look all criticism in the same basket, which is really unfair to say the very least. Still there are a lot of times where criticism is something that is going to really be something that can be help. A lot of the time, it is just a lot of noise that really does us little to no good at all.

If somebody criticizes me just for the sole purpose of putting me down as a person it hurts but I just ignore it. There is saying that says that a tree that produces fruit are often thrown stones at. If the reason is because they want to see me change my negative behavior then I will listen to the best of what I can and If I can change for the better.

Well, it depends on the criticism thrown my way. If it is something which i think is constructive, i deal with it, meaning i make ways to better myself. But if they are obviously thrown my to put me down, i confront the ones throwing them to me. That way, i get to correct them if they are mistaken.

hi:) For me it depends on the criticism, if its constructive then I will accept it, but if it's destructive then I'll ignore it, I don't like those people who judge because they just want to degrade somebody, I think it's some kind of bullying.

It's really hard to accept a criticism, whether it's a constructive or a destructive one. If you are a soft-hearted person, for sure you will be depress, go on one side of your room and pity yourself. But if you are a strong person, you will accept it, of course you'll get depress at one point but it will fade fast, and for sure you will learn something from it. The main problem with regards to criticism is the person who delivers it. It depends on how strong or soft it delivers a criticism and how he/she wants it to be absorbed by the one being criticized.

criticisms might hurt at times or most of the time.but they should be taken positively.it should not drag you down but inspire you instead. and for your critics, you should be thankful for them.for they are the ones who have not yet accepted their own imperfections, and to lift them selves up what they do is criticize and judge others faults instead.

It really depends on how the person constructed his/her criticism statement towards me. If the statement is constructed in a fashion wherein it really is constructive and applicable to correct my mistakes, then I will take it as a positive note. However, if it goes too far and overboard which includes some personal issues over my life, then I would totally get offended and does try to make a say on such criticism.