Do you love me ?
By edumate
@rollylolly (2843)
India
August 19, 2011 5:37am CST
Recently I visited an orphanage.I had never visited one before.I went there with one of my friend who frequents there.I took some clothes , books and sweets for them . Spent the whole day with them . Took meals with them and enjoyed there a lot . The children were so loving , full of smile and lively .Ran and played with us . Danced , sang , recited and play acted with full of vigor and happiness . When I was about to leave them I still remember a small girl named Pinky ,aged seven years ,holding my fingures and asking me " Do you love me ?" ...I said yes I do . But with tears in her eyes she said "all of you say so but then why you leave us here and go ?"....The words kept resoundind in my ears and I felt so sad . Why can't we take them with us ? They have no one in this world , they feel so lonely in those homes . Can't we do something for them ? What do you feel friends ?
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@icats64 (43)
• United States
19 Aug 11
You shouldn't have told the girl you loved her. Instead, you should have told her that you like her very much and you want to be her friend. It is great that you went to the orphanage, but with children, you have to watch what you say. Kids do take things to heart. She wanted you to tell her you loved her but because you didn't take her with you, she hit you with a guilt trip. Kids are smart. I do encourage you to do more volunteer time with them, to show that you are their friend and you enjoy spending time with them. Kids do need interaction and it will make you feel good doing something positive.
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@icats64 (43)
• United States
22 Aug 11
As your comment states "you hope to be their friend" then tell them you love them as a friend and you hope to do many fun things with them. If you have the ability to adopt, then do so, but if you only can spend time with them here and there and be a friend then fine.
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@rollylolly (2843)
• India
19 Aug 11
Thanks icats64 for your comments . I think that would be rude on my part . I promised to visit her and also thinking of bringing some of them to my house if the adminstrators of the orphanage permit . I also hope God helps me to do something for them . Why should I lie ? I love them and hope to be their friends .
@rollylolly (2843)
• India
19 Aug 11
Thanks icats64 for your comments . I think that would be rude on my part . I promised to visit her and also thinking of bringing some of them to my house if the adminstrators of the orphanage permit . I also hope God helps me to do something for them . Why should I lie ? I love them and hope to be their friends .
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
My wildest dream is to own an orphanage building. I know how they feel, i am exposed to those kind of society because I joined an organization before reaching out with less fortunate people. If only I have lots of money then I am so willing to help them But it's hard, same as what you feel you want to help them but you can't do anything.As of now the only way we can do is to pray for them. And maybe someday if we have enough to help we will give our hands wide open. 
You're a kind person for posting this one, you have a good heart and I appreciate that.God bless
You're a kind person for posting this one, you have a good heart and I appreciate that.God bless1 person likes this
@rollylolly (2843)
• India
20 Aug 11
I am so happy to meet like minded friends like you here . You are right we can only pray for them until we can do something meaningful for them . Great to hear you have so noble plans and attached with such splendid society .
You too have a big heart and may God bless you too !
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
19 Aug 11
Well done for visiting the orphanage and spending the whole day playing with and helping the children. It was lovely you took them books, clothes and sweets for them. It must have been so sad to leave after the 7 year old girls comments. I feel sorry for those children and hope they will be adopted into loving homes. These children feel insecure and lonely. They need loving adoptive parents to care for them. The older a child gets the less appealing he or she is for an adopter it seems to me. All of them deserve a loving home. Good luck to these orphans.
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@rollylolly (2843)
• India
19 Aug 11
Thanks maximax8 for your response . I felt very sad to leave the little girl . I too hope and pray that God provides them with loving families and a home .
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
19 Aug 11
You can adopt one if you like.
Or at least visit them once a week and be a part of the orphanage render your free service to teach those kids.
It's really sad and heart touching when we can't do everything we want due to our limited resources or we don't have the capacity to give everything no matter what we want.
At least you have shared a little with their feelings.
have a good day 
jaiho®
jaiho® @rollylolly (2843)
• India
19 Aug 11
Thanks for your comments jaiho . You are right it is always not possible to do everything within our limited resources but I hope I can surely go and be with them sometimes and help them as much I can within my bounds . I was really touched and this issue keeps on lingering in my mind .
You too have a good day !
@rollylolly (2843)
• India
19 Aug 11
Thanks petersum . I too feel we need to support them in any form if not possible to adapt them .It is so heartening to see them enjoy our company .I do hope to visit them often and do something worthwhile . Have a nice day !
@flowerfest08 (1677)
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19 Aug 11
hi:)
oh that's sad,perhaps she's looking for a parents love, if I can only adopt one, but I think I'm not allowed to do that.
I remember this one song called " No body's child "talking about an orphan who was blind and was a left over in the orphanage because no one wanted to adopt him. He was dreaming the day when he came to the heaven where everyone can see and have a place to call home.
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@rollylolly (2843)
• India
19 Aug 11
Thanks flowerfest for your comments . You are so sweet to thinking of adopting,may be you have some hindrance . The story of the song is also very touching . I know they miss parents' love a lot .
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
23 Aug 11
I had visited once long back in another city, my city doesnot have any
I had almost similar experience, all they need is love and sympathy.
I was told the officials, workers in some are very rude..
Thanks for this nice discussion
Best of luck.
Professor
Best of luck.
Professor
@rollylolly (2843)
• India
23 Aug 11
Thanks for joining in Sir . I too heard that in many homes they are maltreated . What I could comprehend , as you said , is they need our compassion and love .
