having 3 dads
By Airen214
@Airen214 (50)
Philippines
August 19, 2011 5:58am CST
These 3 men have done something to me.They did great things in different ways just to having me, being with me and letting me live in this world.I was with my biological father for almost or over a year old. Because of misunderstanding my mom left and brought me wherever she goes. She went back to her parents’ house. In there, she got a job to support my needs and left me in their hands, and treated as their own child. I spent many years with them with their love, care and sacrifice. My mom had to move on and decided to live her life with me and her new love. But I couldn't live happily because I felt I was alone. My mom decided to bring me to my grandparents on weekends and spent the whole day and night with them before school day. I did the same routine until I graduated in college. After years, I surprisingly got a message on my phone saying that he is one of my cousins and he's visiting my biological father that time. He said my father wants to talk with me and hear my voice that he has longed for many years.
Whom do you think my great love should be with to my biological dad, step-dad or grandfather?
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2 responses
@Amanda81587 (3042)
• United States
19 Aug 11
From the sound of it it looks like your biological father did not get a real chance in the matter but I do not know the whole story as to why your mother left. Your grandfather did a great job as stepping in and making sure you are taking care of. Your step dad sounds as though he did a great deal as well, I would just look at them all as your fathers. But your grandfather is your grandfather and he played his role nicely with being the seniority father. I think you should share your love and get to know your real dad, continue loving your stepdad and continue doing all you can for your grandfather to show support back! 
@tess_quinain (1149)
• Philippines
22 Aug 11
Oh, sorry to hear about that airen.. but it would be better if you meet your biological father and have a chance to talk to him. Whatever he has done to you he is still your father and you cannot change that fact. Don't wait for the time that you will regret because of not meeting and talking to him. Past is past. Let's forget and forgive. Hope you'll be fine, friend.
@Airen214 (50)
• Philippines
22 Aug 11
Yeah, he did not really have the chance to see me growing. The reason why my mom left was a very long story and that was because of immaturity. Like, my dad really likes and loves her a lot but he can't stand on his own feet. He always has to depend on her mom's decision even after he got married with my mom. My mom doesn't really like it but she tries to give him many chances...To make it short...My mom couldn't bear it anymore. She packed our things and left the house with me while my dad wasn't home yet.Yeah, my step-dad is great though I'm not so close to him. And my grandfather is THE BEST. I'm planning to meet my biological father next year. Am sure there would be lots of stories to tell. ^^
@rollylolly (2843)
• India
19 Aug 11
You may go and meet your biological father and spend time as you are not aware of his feelings as you left him very young . But you should never forget your grandfather who brought you up as their own child . I don't think you have much ties with your step father . That concludes your grandfather is your greatest love and then comes the others . Good luck yo you ! God bless you !
@Airen214 (50)
• Philippines
19 Aug 11
Thanks a bunch Rolly! =) I really feel blessed having them in my life but the love I've shared to them is indifferent. I have less love for my biological father because he never find ways to see me or to support my needs when i was young. My step-dad is good though I really feel uncomfortable being with him sometimes and can't do the things that most my half-siblings did to him like cuddling, saying sweet words and even saying those things in a friendly manner. I do love him. He stands as my father for quite a long time since my mom left at my granny's house and live together with him...until now. And my grandfather passed away 8 years ago.
@rollylolly (2843)
• India
19 Aug 11
Thanks for sharing the details . Can understand your condition . That's nice of your step dad . Have heard of cruel dads too . Do you visit your granny now ? Hope she is fine . Regards to her . What about your biological dad ? Has he got family ? Hope God helps you in every way .
@Airen214 (50)
• Philippines
22 Aug 11
Yeah, i heard much about cruel step-dads who even abused their step children especially females. My granny is living with us now temporarily because all of her children had gotten married so she is now just visiting any of her children that she wants to be with, but she's with us most of the times. I'm going to miss her a lot if she's not with me. She's really fine, Rolly. Thanks! My biological father is in his own place, in another island where i was born. Yeah, he's with his new love now but I can't call them a family because they don't have any children. They live together for many years already but still can't make one. This is what I've heard from my source. God bless you Rolly! =)
