I do not want to upset anymore.

For me really it is good keep up the good work.

no miracles will happen,you have to try for urself,when ur not able to take it anymore why should u bear it.Why dont u see a plaec for u and leave.Wny dont u stand alone for urself,why should u play that ur happy when ur actually not.

You sound totally misserable. You need to work out this grief you feel. Talking to a professional would probably help you. Your culture is such that you may not have many options. That is sad. I really don't know what to tell you that will help you in your cultural situation. I can only say from mine.

By always grateful with what you have now, you will feel happy. You feel sad, because you want, you do not have right now.

I know what you would like others to see you my friend.To be tough and ever ready on anything.Play acting in front of others will only make you feel the pain, because deep inside you is the otherwise.You have to be frank and tell what you feel because it is stressful if you do it alone.Be fair to yourself.

Hi!!! I don't really know why you have to act in front of your family. MAYBE, you want to please them. It's really hard because you are the one trying to fool yourself. Why don't you try to discuss things over with them so you will feel better.

I'm sorry indahfth, I know you probably do this because it is your culture and I do feel for you, because in other cultures, we try to be honest with our feelings. It isn't bad to feel a certain way, but I believe it is bad to keep it all in, it isn't good for you. I pray that your country opens its eyes to see this truth, I can't imagine living that way, as I am an emotional person and vocal, I'd never survive if I had to keep it all in..

I'm sorry that you feel this way. I can relate, as I felt a similar way with my family for some time. I don't think that it's good when you are pretending to be happy. Maybe you should try talking to someone that you can trust. Maybe it might help you to talk to someone about how you feel. I do hope that you get better.

Have you forgotten who is in charge of making you happy? you are in charge, each time you feel upset you have made that choice to be upset. This soon becomes a poor me habit. Many of the things we face each day we have no control over, but we do have control over how we react to them. To break this poor me habit you must start very small, I write myself lists, lists of every small little thing that I can find positive in my life. Like waking up each day, being able to get out of bed, thanking Mother earth for another day. Being able to ask for the most beneviolent outcome to whatever comes my way. If someone else is cruel or mean or just unhappy, I find some small thing to like about them and focus on that, do not allow the actions of others to ruin your day, even if they are physically abusive, I can take that, I just keep telling myself about the small good things I found. If you constantly wish for a better life you will get nowhere, you must make what you have better for yourself. I know you can do it. Blessings

It is fine to pray and ask for a miracle to come but you must also take some action as God helps those who help themselves. You may want to list your options and make some decisions. It may be hard to do but if you ask for help you may just receive your miracle. You must keep trying to find a way out, if you sit back and do nothing you will not see any changes. In the meantime practice gratitude for what you do have...I hope you will find your solution...

indahfth, i am angry! how long will you suffer? you just said it.. you are tired of all these pretenses. ask yourself, who loves you more? who wants to see you at peace and happy? that is whom you should think and love more, the family where you came from, they love you unconditionally. the people around you will gossip.. just to satisfy their twisted tongue. why care? think of your children. make them live in an atmosphere of love and laughter.. not in fear and tensed surroundings. i have been very frank with my advises since day one and i thought you were soliciting it. if you remember, richnai does the same too. i have read others who say the same thing. only you can make yourself happy. i wish you all the best my friend. ann

And will be worst day after day until you'll make the only one right decision: vent all out, no matter what. Human is not made to keep inside and be 100% him / her self after. We, human, we must split out all evil from inside, else that evil will kill us or change into ... evil. What is to do? One way out: face the problem and deal it. You are not happy? Ask yourself why and then eliminate the cause of .. is simple as that.

Hi indahfth I understand what you are saying as you are looked upon as being a very strong woman and no one in your family expects you to be weak. This is a very difficult thing to do as you do have feelings and those feelings deserved to be expressed. I too would like you to someday get this miracle where you can simply be happy at whichever makes you the happiest. Do know that it is okay to come here and express your feelings as here you have a lot of members always willing to listen.

You should look for things that will make you happy. Engage in the bobbies you love and try to do good to all people. Avoid things that will make you unhappy.

i really care about how my family really feels. i wouldn't like it if they felt like they had to hide their true feelings. i'm not saying this because i'm offended. i just want to know my family is comfortable enough to say how they truly feel.

You don't have to pretend, be yourself. If you are not happy you can talk with them. We have all the rights to express what we feel and what is inside our feelings. Everyone has the right to be happy and be free. have a great weekend jaiho®

Apparently, you have a difficult problem, so it makes you very sad. Face everything with sincerity and patience. Create happiness in your life. You can certainly do it. Not only is there sadness in your life. Of course there is happiness in your life.