How do you feel when people lie to you?
By Dominique25
@Dominique25 (9464)
United States
August 19, 2011 12:22pm CST
We all of course have slipped up and lied, perhaps because of embarrassment about a situation. But how do you feel when a person consistently lies to you? It makes me upset, I work hard to have a good relationship with others and keep peace. When a person however continually lies to me I find it very upset. I'm honest with others and so naturally I want them to be honest with me. I find it rude when a person lies to me a lot.
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23 responses
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
20 Aug 11
I'm like you too, I tend to be honest and I hate lying to others because lying to people will just make others lose trust in you. I know someone who constantly lies so much that you just want to laugh at her. She tends to boast about herself and how many boyfriends she'd been with when obviously you can tell that she's lying. I have no idea how her friends put up with her. It's kinda funny when someone lies about something and you know the truth but you just pretend you don't know.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
21 Aug 11
That is sad that she is this way. I guess in her case she wants to make herself look better. But for those who really know her and know that she hasn't been with many boyfriends, will probably start to have lower respect for her. I don't know why a person would want to lie about how many boyfriends they have been with, that's not something to necessarily be proud of. She should be proud that the number are few.
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
21 Aug 11
I know! What's worst, everyone knows she's a big boaster and something like that isn't something to be proud of. She pretty much has a bad reputation in my school but she just keeps on lying just to "look" better but it isn't changing anything. I wonder when she's going to stop lying because I've known her since primary school and she's been lying ever since.
I guess only time will tell, one day those lies will get back at her hard.
@jokerzhunter (129)
• United States
20 Aug 11
Yes trusting someone is the most important thing we have, more valuable than gold. Yeah I have had to put up with those kind of people that constantly have to lie, I feel bad for them, but they never change that habit of theirs, they start living a lie at some time.
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@henkiprananda (2729)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 11
i feel has been betrayed. but the next what i do is: i don't away from him/her. i will learn, all about lies. cause i not want to lied anymore.
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@henkiprananda (2729)
• Indonesia
22 Aug 11
you right. and that became a never ending lies. haahahaaha....
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
20 Aug 11
Yeah being lied to is not a good thing. Most people don't like to be lied to. It is considered rude and disrespectful for a person to lie to someone. It is just really sad how often people lie to one another and especially to those who are close to them. I think sometimes when a person lies once they ended up telling many lies to cover it up.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
22 Aug 11
of course, that would be very hurtful. i know how it feels, i've been made a fool out of at, i have been lied to a few times and as human as we are, we just simply had to let it out at times, but more often the best way to help ourselves is to try and forget and move on and truly let go of the pain the lies has brought us.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
23 Aug 11
Yeah it is good for us to move on and not hold on to the pain. Always reflecting on our pain can cause us to be depressed and that lessens the enjoyment we get out of life. When we move on learn from our errors we are stronger. It's much better to be stronger than depressed and tired.
@dodo19 (47268)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
19 Aug 11
I honestly really don't like it when people lie to me constantly. I can certainly understand when people might tell me a little lie once it in a while, as I do it myself from time to time. I'm guilty of lying to, although it's really not often. It's really when it's all the time that it really does get frustrating.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
21 Aug 11
Yeah when a person lies all the time that can be very frustrating and annoying. It can be difficult to be around those who lie a lot. Because we already are aware of their habits and can't believe all that they say.
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@allknowing (132209)
• India
21 Aug 11
I am having that issue right now with someone whose future I had sponsored. She was with me for 9 years and in that period she went to full time school but did lend a hand in household chores. We got her married and now she comes on certain days to help me but I have noticed she has changed in that she has got into the habit of telling lies which was not the case when she was with us. I don't know what to do about it and am really hurt about this development.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
23 Aug 11
Yes it is very difficult to when someone close to us lies. I think that the best thing that you can do is talk to her about how you feel and what you are noticing. She should realize that you care for her a great, all the love that you have shown to her. Because of the love she has for you perhaps after you talk with her she will realize what habit she has been developing. I hope things will improve for you.
@cloud3315 (33)
• India
20 Aug 11
if i am close to the person i will tell him/her to stop lying to me and lying in general. I feel it will helps to have heart to heart discussions on these matters because you never know the reasons why the other person is lying. If he/she is a habitual liar its a different story all together.
If i am not close to the person i do not bother.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
20 Aug 11
I feel that it is important as well to talk to those who are close to us about when they are lying. I don't like to be lied to and I don't feel it gets a person anywhere. I think it's sad though when people we are close to lie to us. Sometimes I feel even when a person knows that they are lying more than once that would tell them something, but sometimes it doesn't.
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
I don't feel happy and feels betrayed me if someone is constantly lying to me, Its hardly to accept those liars, but still i try to understand them if they do that. I'm also a honest person as much as possible i try to be honest in everything that i say.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
20 Aug 11
Yes when we are honest to others we are showing them respect and consideration. There are too many people who lie all the time. It is hard at times to understand why people lie so often. It's different for those who are compulsive liars but people who just like lying it is really sad.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
20 Aug 11
Yes, lying is something that I really don't like. And I don't like to associate with people who are known to lie, gossip, or slander others. There are so many people who thrive off this type of activity that it makes me upset. I like to respect others and so therefore want others to respect me by being open and honest with me. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
21 Aug 11
I agree everyone can learn a lesson hear. Honesty is the best policy no matter what anyone says. When a person lies it just gets them in more trouble. So I agree that to tell the truth is the best thing we can do.
@bravobrino (70)
• India
20 Aug 11
Well that is really a very embarrasing situation for both if caught.The future relationship would be permanently ruined between the both.In my case it will be very hard to believe that person in future and i will always be suspecting him/her even there's a truth to go on to tell me once i know he he/she lied to me.I simply would tell him/her that " the chance is simply gone now, through the goodness of my heart i trusted you but now you may take our friendship as a thing of the past"
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
21 Aug 11
Yeah I agree with you wholeheartedly. Once there has been lies and continued deceit a relationship is ruined. It is very hard to regain that trust. And most of the time the relationship can't be restored nor does the innocent person want to try. So it's just better if people are honest with each other.
@pepperpopper (376)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
I feel like Im betrayed and I feel like im the most stupid person in the world. Sometimes, when you are in a relationship for the longest time, you tend to forgive your partner in order to save the relationship though it hurts your pride.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
20 Aug 11
Yeah it would be very difficult to be in a relationship where your partner constantly lies to you. That would hurt tremendously especially if when you ask about big issues or problems and they continually lie to you. That is very hurtful. I would strongly dislike my life if i were in a relationship like this and didn't make changes. We deserve better than this. And it does hurt our pride when we stay dispite how bad we feel and how much they have caused us pain.
@Judy890 (1644)
• United States
20 Aug 11
Yes I hate being lied to, especially when you know the truth but they think you don't know. My friend she lied one time about passing a test but I already knew from my counselor that she failed so I thought why would she lie I'm not gonna judge her for not passing.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
21 Aug 11
Yeah I agree our companions do have an influence on us whether we may realize it or not. And so like you I feel the same, I don't like to hang around those who constantly lie. It's bad enough when someone lies about big things but to even lie about small things that is really bad. It just means that really there is nothing precious in the relationship because possibly most of the things a person talks about he or she could be lying.
@phatchyck (25)
• United States
20 Aug 11
If someone I know well lies to me about something important or lies often, I feel betrayed and no longer desire to continue a relationship with them. Since relationships are based on trust, how can you trust someone who is not honest? You will never know when they are being honest or not. Before I would discontinue my friendship, I try to have open dialogue and find out what the underlying reason for their deception is. Of course, we would all rather fix a friendship than fracture it. Have you let this person know how you feel about their lying? Perhaps that will curb it? Good luck!
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
21 Aug 11
Yes all relationships are built on trust. So when a person breaks that trust by constantly lying it's very hard for the relationship it survive. This person unfortunately has in the past been aware that we know they lie. But for some reason just continued to do so. For a time we didn't associate, hangout, or trust what this person was saying because we just couldn't. Now things have improved a bit. I still notice that they lie about some small things but hopefully it will continue to get better.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
21 Aug 11
I to feel very bad about it. I think people need to be honest. It leads to better relationships. And people who are honest are generally happy about themselves, the type of person they are, and with their life.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
19 Aug 11
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
21 Aug 11
You said it in the perfect way. I don't think those who lie realize or they just don't care how their actions affect others. It really does hurt a person's feelings. That they did not think enough of us to tell the truth is a great way of explaining how we would feel in such a situation. And a relationship is built on honest and trust and when that's gone it devastates the relationship.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
19 Aug 11
When people lie to me, I just let it go the first time. The second time, I'll do some kind of a gesture to make them aware that I know that they're lying. The third time, I'll make sure they won't do it again.![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
21 Aug 11
Yeah it's good to let the other person know that your lying. For some reason it seems that when people know that I'm aware that they are lying. The next time I see them they lie again. It is very annoying to me.
@alquizar (480)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
It is really sad to know that a lot of people lie just to excuse themselves for the mistake that they had done.It is really disappointing when someone you trusted will lie to you.I really don't want to go out with people who is a big liar because I don't want to be influenced by them.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
21 Aug 11
It is very sad when people lie to us. They feel the need to lie to cover up, or whatever other excuse they make. A lie is still a lie. And like you mentioned I don't like to go out with those are known to lie either.
@thetis74 (1525)
•
19 Aug 11
Little honest lies I think are okay sometimes if the reason is to keep yourself from embarrassment. But the big ones that can really hurt people and ones that are unnecessarily intentional are irksome. And many liars I believe don't feel anything because they do not have the conscience whether or not they would be hurting someone. Just avoid people who lies around a lot. They can never do you any good with anything.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
21 Aug 11
Yes being around liars isn't good for anyone. Big lies I agree are very hurtful and cause a lot of problems in relationship. Problems can be solved or fixed a lot easier if a person is honest and open.
@nubbu123 (24)
• India
19 Aug 11
Really this is bad thing but a person always can not lie .There is some problem behind of it what he is hiding so ask ,spend time with him or her and try to know his personal problems and find out some good solution, Behave very friendly with him. A person lies always because he try to hide his mistake and for hiding his one mistake he again lies in this way he will become habitual of it.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
21 Aug 11
Yes I agree it is very hard when someone first lies they keep making up lies to cover up others. To me it seems so much better to just tell the truth in the beginning. This way it's out in the open and you won't have to dig yourself out of this huge hole you have created for yourself.
@jokerzhunter (129)
• United States
19 Aug 11
When someone lies to me...I feel a deep pressure on my chest. As if it was getting crushed by the pain felt. When somebody lies to me, they take away all the trust I had given them, it can never be the same again after you have been hurt, the memories of it will remain on my mind forever. I just wish a day comes when everyone can be honest with each other.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
21 Aug 11
That day when everyone is honest to one another will be wonderful. It is very hard when someone lies to us. It hurts very deeply and it can cause such great wounds that will take along to improve. Because once someone has lost our trust it is very hard to rebuild and fix that problem.
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