maybe i am too old and getting very sensitive
By tigeraunt
@tigeraunt (6326)
Philippines
August 19, 2011 11:43pm CST
it seems that i put myself always in the other's shoes especially those stories which are very sad.
like i have read about some person who is alone (her partner died) and she is trying to save for a trip but then discovers she is sick of cancer and is now on chemo. but the spirit stayed and she said she is still saving for that trip.. guess i am very touched, yet very impressed of her positive thinking.
i am always teary eyed after reading.
do you get this thoughts and reactions? does it make you depressed or sad in a way? how do you encourage people to think positively?
ann
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15 responses
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
Hello tigeraunt, I don't think being old has gotten to do with it, in fact my mom is probably a lot older than you. but I am inspired by this women, despite of her being sick, she doesn't want to give it up and some day she will make it for the trip though. last night i went a bit emotional about a discussion that i had dig up three years ago about one of the mylot veterans then who passed a way.
@oXAquaXo (607)
• United States
20 Aug 11
Haha, don't worry about crazy. My grandma must be much older, and she's still a sane, not too sensitive person. Age hasn't effected her demeanor, so it shouldn't have affected you, either. Everyone's different, and everyone reacts to everyone else's story in different ways.
Have a nice day!
Annie
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
LK hi,
so i am not going crazy after all, am i?
things are just so complicated, you get into a situation where you feel so sad or angry or whatever and you react to it without much thinking. that's when it gets so crazy.
but i know how sane we are.
have a nice day.
ann
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
hi annie,
thank you. that was a good thing to say. i find that funny as well.
ann
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
21 Aug 11
How do I encourage people to think positively? I don't know. All I do is tell people that I hope things will work out, and I do. But how to make a person think positively? I have no clue.
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
hi sarah,
there are so many success stories and amazingly, these are so much encouraging. when i feel down, i try looking at people who are less fortunate than me and it gives me courage to move on.
ann
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
21 Aug 11
That would never help me. Whenever my mom said she Knew she could do things because she saw others doing it too , I would say That doesn't matter , I'm not them. In fact the opposite would happen, I would think since I can't be like them , I must be defective. And I just stopped trying.
@buddha3 (1026)
• India
20 Aug 11
And yes, taking their attention from the cause of their negative thinking is the best way..I hope only friends can do it. Just be funny, discuss about their favourite things that makes their heart light. Maybe make them listen to or read the stories of others who've been in the similar situation but made the best of their lives by being postive
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
hi buddha,
it is one good reason why there are what we call friends. people who maybe sick can be grouchy and unreasonable at times. but for people and friends who knows and understands, all they need to do is listen and be encouraging. make the one who is suffering feel less of what he suffers. it is not easy, i tell you.
ann
@buddha3 (1026)
• India
20 Aug 11
OOHH YESS!!!! I'm also the same kind of person! I'm very sensitive to such stories of others..even if I'm reading such things or listening, tears start rolling down my cheeks without my knowledge:(
Yesterday my classmate shared her family problem with me. She was strong and she was normal.. but after listening to her I was in tears:( she was surprised..I don't know if i'll ever be a bit stronger..but I'm strong when it comes to my own problems!! strange yeah?!
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
11 Feb 12
buddha3,
am really sorry i missed this response of yours. i was going over unresolved discussions and i found it. hope am forgiven?
you know what? i find sensitivity more to my liking. you see, i feel the truth there and i see how true a person is when he shows his sensitivity.
but of course, being oversensitive is not good. one tends to make the people around him go further away from her, if you understand what i mean? yes, people tend to leave her because they get afraid that they hurt her unintentionally.
so there goes.
thank you for your response.. God bless.
ann
@oXAquaXo (607)
• United States
20 Aug 11
I've always been an emotional girl. My parents say so as well, and say that I'm extremely sensitive. When I was younger, I truly tried to hide it and acted tough and uncaring, but it never worked. Whenever I see others happy and crying, or others sad and crying, I start crying, too, even when it's something that's not even important.
When I come across a sad story or movie, I always lay there thinking it over and seeing it from their eyes, like you. It always gets me sad, and I become depressed for a while. But then something else distracts me, and I'm all happy again.
I always try to encourage others to think positively. I don't directly tell them that, but I tell them that they still have a good chance of doing great, and not to worry, and that's they're awesome people, because I know deep down that they are. Telling a joke here and there doesn't hurt, either.
Happy mylotting!
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
dear aqua,
soft hearted people empathize and when one empathize, compassion goes with it.
you just need to be positive and encouraging. but not too much or it will look all fake. all you need to is listen.
have a very nice day.
ann
@jugsjugs (12967)
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21 Aug 11
I am the same as you, lol, it must be my age as well, as i can never think of a time when i was younger and use to get teary over many things at all.I feel that there are a lot of things that people write or of the things that we watch and hear of that can get us like that at times.Perhaps it is an age thing or perhaps it is that we have just grow in our maturity over the time.
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
hi jj,
i haven't seen you for a while. hope everything is ok.
maybe its the experience. i feel very compassionate for people who are so positive even if things are very hard for them actually. i have been in situations that i wanted to climb up yet so many people pull me down. maybe that is why i could not avoid putting myself in someone's shoes now, and feel what they feel.
ann
@AnnieHouston (208)
• China
20 Aug 11
I just wanna say that everyone has their own way of life, and all u have to di is make ur own life better and make urself happy, don't be so wrooried about other people's troubles, just be urself!
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
dear annie,
i think i am being myself. i would be a fake if i say i dont feel compassion for someone who is having the saddest times of her life. thats how it is to be a friend. i dont find it a trouble to feel what they feel.
for someone so young like you, there will be lots of challenges and tests that you will have to hurdle. i wish you pass them all with flying colors.
am happy, and i pray for you to be happy too.
thank you very much for your response.
@FickleSky (140)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
I'm 20. ;) And, I also noticed that to myself these past few weeks. And, I figured it was maybe because of the experiences I've had recently, like with my father going to a different country to work and my grandmother passing away. It's like because of some emotionally challenging experiences, you get to empathize more to other people's experiences. That is how I figure things out about being easily touched.
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
hello ficklesky,
our own experiences makes us feel for others. i feel very compassionate for people who are so positive even if things are very hard for them actually. i have been in situations that i wanted to climb up yet so many people pull me down. maybe that is why i could not avoid putting myself in someone's shoes now, and feel what they feel.
you are still very young and you will be in so many situations good or bad. be that as it may, be positive. problems will come and go. and it will not take you down.
have a nice day.
ann
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
Yes, sad stories always make me feeling low, that is why I choose to read funny ones. When I get hold of anything to read or buy I book, I see to it that there's plenty of humor in it because I like to laugh instead of cry or feel morose.
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
hi cutie,
i think that is a good thing to do but here, we always find different stories and i just cant avoid being emotional reading it.
so after reading your comments about this discussion, i feel i am sane. and not over reacting. seems i am not the only one like this.
have a nice day. and thank you.
ann
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
25 Feb 12
Sweety
I know every bit of you, you are so overemotional, cry like a baby, may be it is due to the approaching menopause, women become moody and mood swings is so common,
take care, god bless.
Best of luck.
Professor
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
8 Jun 12
Anny dear
You are too old? You are 53 and you say you are too old, hubby was once telling me you are sensitive, he and your hubby Jose used to call you 'crying-baby'; only for this!!!!
No dear you are not TOO old, this might be due to hormonal changes, you might be approaching menopause.
@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
20 Aug 11
I'm also very emotional sensitive having empathy for other people. I think the older we get and the more we experience we learn and know what it feels like being in all kinds of situations. We can relate to our own experiences. It's a good compassionate quality.
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
dear qeegood,
i agree very much on the experience portion. when a person have had many experiences whether it be happy or sad, one gets undoubtedly compassionate. it is truly a good quality.
have a nice day.
ann
@whispers168 (768)
• United States
20 Aug 11
I am also very sensitive.I cry when some ones cries and I laugh when someone laughs.I feel the life of my friends and family.I try to stay positive though and keep the people around me positive also.Life is hard sometimes but try to also notice the beauty.
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
hello whispers,
"life is hard sometimes but try to also notice the beauty." what a wonderful way to express it. thank you, it made me less angry with situations i could not handle.
have a nice day.
ann
@flowerfest08 (1677)
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20 Aug 11
hi:)
I'm also like you, I cry when I read or watch some emotional movies and books, like I always imagine how they feel,and feel pity. that's the reason why sometimes I avoid watching and reading that kind of stuff. but then I realize that I'm still lucky,somehow makes me count my blessings after.
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
hello flowerfest,
some people are just so soft hearted like you and me.
i hope we dont get us into trouble being so softy.
come on, we laugh now.
have a nice day.
ann
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
24 Aug 11
I am now and have been a very sensitive person for as long as I can remember. I love to read and listen to music, but there are several songs that are out right now that really make me sad. I think that the reason for it is because of some of the losses that I've faced in my life. Two specific songs that I can think of right now that make me cry are "If I Die Young" and also "If Heaven wasn't so Far Away."