Is it right?

I can understand both sides. The cousin was upset because his relative was hit by a car and could have been killed! On the other hand your brother was upset because no serious damage was done and after all the kindness your driving brother had shown, how could the woman's cousin be so rude and hot headed? The cousin shouldn't have yelled at your brother. After all it sounds like by that point everything had been wrapped up quite well. By firing a shout attack, the cousin was keeping an already unpleasant situations going. Furthermost, he opened the door for emotions to get out and take control. The brother of yours who shut the cousin up probably did a wise thing - he prevented an argument or worse a fight from happening. In general he ended the situation before it could get worse. However I think he might have been a bit strong and impulsive. The cousin did have a right to be distressed considering that his relative had been hit by a car (a very serious and dangerous event). I suppose if you look at both sides - both could be right and wrong. It depends on how you see or which way your bias lies.

Hi islooboy Unfortunately in situations like these, both parties are right. I must admit your brother has done the wiser and better thing by taking that woman to the medics and announcing his availability. That indicates his high morale and virtues in him. The cousin of that woman who was shouting on the brother is also right in his/her perspective as this is an outburst of the emotional love. As love always is driven by emotions, many a times, we dont see things in the right perspective and what we do too is not taken from our perspective.

Personally this is a time that would be Best for the family to stay out of it, and leave it between your brother and her. If she is OK and not really wanting to accuse your brother than that should be OK. It is good that this woman was OK and that things did not turn out worse.

hello isloo, Maybe the cousin is too much worried, but he don't need to shout. He acts to so rude- and that's too bad. I know he is worried, but still he has no right to shout as he can see that your brother did his responsibility thu it is not his fault. Well, i hope everything is fine now have a great weekend jaiho®

I find what your brother did was very commendable, in making sure the women was taken to the hospital and did all the responsible things towards a human being. The way the cousin reacted basically was out of nerves I believe, though I feel that the cousin should have calm down as it was not like your brother was irresponsible, since the woman said it was her fault. Plus the fact that he saw to make sure she was treated and not disregarded. Some people react differently and although your brother was patiently listening there a came a point he had to make the cousin stop. I hope your brother is okay too as this has to be hard for him also.

islooboy: What your brother did is right. He took her to hospital and gave treatment. The relative of the woman shouted -- it is natural -- it cannot be avoided -- it is advisable to bear it and not shout back. But in this case it has helped. good.

Both sides are upset. Your brother upset that he clash the woman and the cousin of the woman upset because her cousin might be killed. There is nothing between them just upset. Your brother did pay for the accident right? He has done what need to be done so don't blame him. Pray that the woman get well soon.

I think your brother was trying to do everything he could to make things better. He was willing to take responsibility even if it wasn't totally his fault. The cousin is entitled to his reaction however he might have crossed the line already. I always believe that too much of anything is not good or just bad.

Accidents do happen. it is not just or fair to place blame or show anger in a situation when it will bring no change from it. when an accident happens, you must find a way to move forward instead of having to live with regret.

Your brother who hit the woman did the right thing, bringing the woman to the hospital, he was just being responsible of what happened. Now, the reaction of the cousin of the woman, though nothing really serious happened was just natural and was expressed by impulse. You know when someone was informed suddenly that a relative met an accident the first reaction would be fear and stress besides,she does not really know how the incident happened so it is natural to act that way. What your big brother did was also right, because it was his way of putting a stop to the scandalous reaction of the cousin. Maybe after the fuss on everything, and all are calm, i think both will be able to think and talk in a more civilized way. Afterall, it was an accident and somewhat a fault of the woman.

With your brother's part, he had done what he should. He took responsibility of bringing the woman to the hospital and pay for it (?). I guess the cousin of the woman was just overwhelmed from the accident even if her cousin did not really commit such serious case. So, I think all is good.

It's natural for us to get mad when one of our loved one get hurt, we are overwhelmed with our emotions and concern for them so we can't blame the cousin. Anyway, it's very good of your brother to go on his way and took full responsibility to ensure the well-being of the woman eventhough he's not at fault

Hello isloooboy, It happens in life when you are going on a vehical and hit a person who is on foot then you are going to be blaimed despite of you are not being faulty. But your brother gave a great example of humanity as i have seen people who hit people by their vehical and run away they don't bother to see back what has happened. That lady's cousin yelled at your brother because his cousin was hurt and it was a normal behaviour as person do get impulsive when they see their own being hurt without knowing the reality.I know after sometime he will realise that he should not shout at your brother.

It was a good gesture that your brother took full responsibility,took the woman to the hospital and was even ready to shoulder everything to the satisfaction of the woman's family.The woman's cousin was wrong because your brother did whatever he could to assist showing he valued her well being.Then this was an accident and at times such situations are unavoidable.

People will always react according to what they feel, especially in situations where people they love are hurt. We can't blame either party for reacting the way they did, setting the situation aside. I can tell, though, that your brother kept his cool and focused on doing the right thing. He brought the victim to the hospital. More importantly, he didn't allow himself to get into an argument based on the victim's reactions. His question was a valid question and it really got the point across.

hi, for me,why that person need to shout with your brother,even the woman spoke that its her fault,i have seen that guy was really hot tempered person,but it was really wrong,but as a calm person maybe we have to understand those kind of people and never go to the flow of their tempered.

i am agree with both the parties,your brother has done all the things he need to,but the cousion of that women was angry thats why he is shouting on your brother,but if she got just scratches and saying that it was my mistake then her cousion is over reacting he just need to understand the situation that she is alright.

As what Awind had said, the cousin was upset. Sometimes getting upset can really cloud a person's judgement. And it's a good thing your brother didn't spite her or fight back. This situation is very stressful and your brother seemed to handle it well. The family should be thankful that your brother is responsible but you should also thank the woman's family for not sensationalizing the issue. Even if we wanted to say who was right and who was wrong, we couldn't exactly judge them since we weren't there. Given that she had stop when he talked to her, maybe the cousin just wanted the comfort of knowing that you're brother is also greatly affected by this issue.