Ex boyfriend
By SydneyJ
@SydneyJ (902)
United States
August 20, 2011 12:51am CST
I have this ex boyfriend (it's been bout 6 monthes almost 7 since we broke up) and I don't feel like he respects me because he everything I say he disregards but as much as I try not talking to him and telling him not to talk to me he contuinues. It hurts me to continue talking to him and it's getting harder and harder to say goodbye because he keeps draggin the pain and hurt out.. Anyone out there going through the same thing I am? Anyone have anything they might be able to say to make me feel a little better? Any support I can get from you all? Please help
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7 responses
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
That pretty hard for you, I ain't experiencing that king of situation for I am in love right now and being loved back too,thank GOD. And about how you feel, I think you still love him and he still has interest in you because he still wants to communicate with you. What happen to your break up if you don't mind. Have you done something or he has done something wrong for you guys to feel that way. Seven months of not moving on is hurtful.I hope you guys will have a real talk to patch up things. Either you'll end everything and not talk to heal the wound or start all over AGAIN.
@SydneyJ (902)
• United States
20 Aug 11
Well we were together for bout 10 monthes but by the end it all my love wasn't there for him anymore, I have a lot of love from an even older relationship and he loves me back.. Whole nother story.. And on top of that he started just driving me insane, wouldn't give me much space and he tried to make sure he knew everything bout me at everytime of the day, I wasn't very happy anymore. I started getting a lil abusive and that was kind of the last thing I could take because I know peope should never have to go through any kind of abuse! I couldn't handle the relationship any more and it just wasn't very healthy for either of us to be together anymore, so that's pretty much how it ended. I don't think I could have a relationship with him again and if somehow it did happen I would be worried about me hurting him and both of us ending up unhappy all over again.
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@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
22 Aug 11
If your not happy then tell him straight, be firm in your decision and make him feel that you are serious. he's thinking he just can control you..
@eurekafemme (5876)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
I don't know the reason why you two broke up. If you were the one who broke up with him, then, it could be that he is not ready to let you go, really. So, he keeps on bugging you even if you two were officially off.
If he was the one who ended the relationship, then, he is really a pain in your butt. What you can do is avoid him. Change your mobile number and avoid going to places where you are most likely to see him. Stop mingling with common friends first. If he goes to your house, then, do not entertain him.
There is no use why you keep on talking or seeing him when you don't want to. If you really don't want to, then DO NOT...even if he will chase you to the end of the road. Time for you to move on and get a life without him in it.
@maricarfull (22)
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22 Aug 11
well i agree with eurekafemme...maybe he is not ready to let you go...if u really want to let him go...help him to move on..talk to him seriously..tell him what you want,give him a closure...and after that just like what eurekafemme said..change ur mobile number..avoid him and do not talk to him...promise yourself not to search him in facebook..much better if u block him...hehhe
and u also..u should move on...i know its not easy but u can do it...:)
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
It was just only couple of months, so it would be really hard for you to let say move on. But you did not mention how come that you stil have communication after the broke up. Usually the easy way to get rid of pain is to avoid the cause of it. In your situation, I should say, take time to avoid him, even thinking about him through diverting your time and attention to other things. Keep yourself busy with your other outlet like your family and friends. In such a way, it can occupy your mind and time to get healed of those pain caused by him. Good luck hope you can move on the soonest for your own good.
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
hello,
You know what I also have this ex boyfriend which dont know how to respect me even I treat him right and we broke up formally. He just tell something that we've done even were not do at all. Gosh! I just made a mistake loving him at all. I do regret everything! So, what I do is just ignore him and the issue he made did not work because some of my friends did not believed it. You see how do guys can do if they hurt. Maybe your boyfriend also feel the same as you are that is why he is doing like that to you.
@pepperpopper (376)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
I went to the same situation before. It's really hard to say goodbye especially, when you see him everyday. We had on and off relationship. Finally, I had the guts to say goodbye when we graduated in college. I finally learn how to walk away as I will not get to see him anymore. I moved on and continue my life as a matured person.
@haopee (493)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
The problem with us women, is we tend to be more emotionally attached to relationships than men and it hurts to break up with them. But since you haven't been together now, I'm sure time has helped you heal.
I used to have an ex that was really annoying. I already broke up with him for several months but he couldn't accept it. He would say stupid things and do stupid stuff because he couldn't bear that I had accepted a new suitor. He even threatened me that he'd kill himself (and he had my bread knife on his neck). Nothing I would ever say could let him stay away from him until one day, I just stopped feeling.
I was tired of hurting that I finally decided to stop feeling because crying would give me the sniffles yet it would not solve anything in the world. You have to stop thinking of him and the good memories about him. Even when he messages/talks/call you, ignore him and avoid every circumstance to be with him. Ignore everything about him. Eventually, all the buzz will die and even that thin line that's holding you both together.
I know it's harsh, but if I console you, it might hurt you more. Women have to be strong in relationships because there are men that exists like your ex... they tend to be manipulators. So, BE STRONG.
@SydneyJ (902)
• United States
20 Aug 11
This is kind of what I've been trying to do, just be feelingless, but it's hard to keep everything bottled up sometimes. I try ignoring him and everything but school starts soon so I will have to see him everyday becasuse we go to a small school. So it's going to be hard but like you said I gotta be strong and I'm gonna try my best to avoid any contact with him. Thank you for helping me out.