how to be the perfect wife?
By hushi22
@hushi22 (4928)
August 20, 2011 8:29am CST
when i went to germany with my bf we visited his grandmother.
since she knew our plan of getting married, i asked her tips of how to be a good wife and how to be a good mother.
to everyone who are reigned to be a good wife and mother in here, i hope you can give me tips to help me build a happy, harmonious family. =)
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7 responses
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
13 May 12
I think there are many things that you can do to be a good wife. If you are married by now I think an important thing to remember is to keep your marriage strong as a couple. To communicate regularly. Do things as a couple together to keep your marriage strong and together. I hope that you are happily married now and that your marriage will be strong and successful.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
16 May 12
I completely agree with you. When we have had problems in our marriage at times I feel at a lost. Like I don't know what else I can do to make it work to strengthen it. As it often seems my efforts go unappreciated. I hoping that will change as I talk with my husband more about him appreciating different things that I do for our family.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
13 Oct 11
Being a good wife, depending on how you rate your mate. You have to recognize, nature and your husband's wishes. Sometimes, well according to you, not necessarily good in your husband.
I always tried to be a good wife, but my efforts in vain, because I only saw from my own side, not seen from the side that my husband wanted. So I made a fatal mistake.
Before you marry, you should ask your partner, like what, a good wife according to your partner.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
13 May 12
You have given her good pointers on how to be a good wife. I really do hope your marriage improves. I know how hard it can be to be a wife in a marriage that is not going well. Where things are very stressful and you are not sure how to make things better because your spouse has to do their part as well. We as wives are often the ones trying to improve our marriage while our husband's either don't care to try or aren't concerned about the problems we are facing in order to try to work on them. I hope that you will be able to find happiness.
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Aug 11
there couldn't be a perfect wife or even a perfect husband. but there are lots of good and great person to their spouse and their family. you could not force yourself to be one either. and more, in the end, you will say, i did my best but your best is not good enough to be a perfect wife.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 11
How to be a perfect wife? " apparently identical with a sentence that reads' How to become a perfect man? " We all know, that nobody is perfect in this world, so that from the fact it can be said the same thing, that none of the wives in this world is perfect. But this does not mean we should not try to be a perfect wife, who interpret it to be a good wife.
Be yourself and do not ever want to be the one / other women who may admire or love your husband. Every man is different and unique. If your husband has been married to you, other than for love, certainly on the other hand there is something or some things that husbands love about your personal self.
Keep the good things you have, If you need these things further enhanced.
Do not forget to love your husband with all your heart. In this case, I think, that every human being can feel whether they loved or vice versa. With this love, will bring your home into a palace for him and of course for your family as well.
A wife who fears the Lord, he will be a jewel for her husband. She is more precious than anything her husband have in this world.
Some tips that would be able to help you gauge the extent to which you become a good wife, I can write as below:
- Be honest: this will make your husband to be a most happy in this world because he has someone (you) that he believes. Your husband is also no doubt will have to tell its secrets to you. You are the only place for him to complain.
- Be creative in everything: this will create the marriage you avoid the sense of boredom.
- Encourage your husband: this will help her become a household head is full of confidence when he was feeling 'down'
- Be a good listener: this will make you as number one, the place to share good and bad stories.
- Be happy: this will make him feel successful as a husband who has been successful in pleasing the wife he loves.
You can add the tips mentioned above along that's all well and can build a harmonious relationship in your marriage life. Remember, that every person is different. That is, you can add a list of tips above to customize your character's husband of course.
In closing, once again remember that nothing human is perfect, so do not ever try to be a perfect wife, but try being a good wife. That way, your husband will be confidently stated that he was a husband who is happiest in the world.
@eurekafemme (5876)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
I'm sorry to put a downer to your enthusiasm but there is no such thing as a perfect wife. A good wife and mother is possible, though.
I am a wife and I did everything for my husband and our kids in order to keep the relationship strong but all my efforts being a good wife were wasted.He betrayed me in a lot of ways.
But, here's what I can tell you. You don't have to ask for others opinion, dear. Your heart will tell you what and how exactly you want to treat your husband and your would-be kids. If you truly love him, your heart will show you how to do it the right way.Trust me, dear, it will come naturally.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
13 May 12
@eurekafemme I agree with you that's the first thing that we have to realize. There is no such thing as a perfect wife. We shouldn't strive for perfection. We should strive to do the best of our ability to take care of our family and love our husband. Sorry to hear that your husband betrayed you. My husband hasn't cheated on me or anything like that. But I also feel that I've done everything that I can to take care of him and our daughter and he just doesn't appreciate any of it.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
20 Aug 11
I don't think any woman can be the perfect wife. We can only be the person that we are. The ones we love has to accept us or they don't. If they are expecting perfection, they are probably going to be disappointed. Just be true to yourself!
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
20 Aug 11
I will first tell you that there are no perfect people.
And that you want to become perfect is good but you need a lot of energy and time.
These things stvata the time you want a nice healthy and happy family.
First you have to think whether what you expect other than you do your best to be what your family wants you.
Be nice benevolent compromise and stand their ground.
I hope some day to have such a healthy and beautiful family, just perfect.
Have a nice day!