i am partly bald.what shall i do to over come this inferiority complex?
By preethaanju
@preethaanju (3000)
India
August 20, 2011 8:50am CST
I am suffering from an inferiority complex. I am losing hair fast. In fact i am bald in front. I am thinking of many things to get my hair back. I applied oil nothing happened. Am thinking of hair weaving but its beyond my means now. What shall i do. I need hair badly
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15 responses
@umabharti (3972)
• India
23 Aug 11
see i think ur male,okay let a person who does not see u from ur outside looks and sees u how ur from inside be ur friend.See what we see out does not exist for ever.Hair loss is having treatment if u want to regain it.However why u need it.If its not there then wh y do u worry for it.
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
23 Aug 11
I will ask a straightforward question to you umji. assuming that you are a female. Will you marry a bald man? i am not talking of love marriage but an arranged marriage in which your parents have taken interest in choosing the groom. Be honest with your answer
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
23 Aug 11
okay arranged marriage,i get ur point what ur asking,if parents see such a person then there might be something which should be had a thought.If i am a daughter of such parents and if my father or some one chooses for me then i will agree and obey it,however i can tell u something ,people around us are such characters that they always try to be at the back of something ,if someone is inferior they try to be causing more trouble,they like either to show curtousy or they try to throw stones,i wil in return ask u one question wil u marry a person who is having some inferiorityh like u are facing ? will two persons who are having inferior complex will be able to be happy in a married life ? i dont say they wont because they will definelty try to understand each other.See in every situation love is more important.In one way a married couple of such type can live happy ,they should be away from the known relations,friends becasue there will not be a problem .At least i hope so.many people have many diferent opinions so as a couple its hard to watch and listen everyones.If there are only two then there will not be a problem.
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@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
10 Jun 12
Why the "inferiority"? What can a hairy mind-and-body do that a bald mind-and-body can't do?
@daliaj (5674)
• India
4 Sep 11
I don't think there is much you can do. You can enquire about ariticial hair fixing treatment where they take hair from back of your head and place on the places with no hair. Being bald is not a big deal these days, especially if you are in late fourties or fifties. You have to understand the fact that nobody is perfect looking. You should think positive that you only have the problem with bladness, thank you, you didn't have any serious illness like cancer. You should think about positive and great things about life and be thankful to god about them.
@pickwick (858)
• India
20 Aug 11
Hi Preethanuja , please dont be disheartened.There has to be two approaches to this problem.First please be more grateful for all that you have like other features of yours.Second , hair loss is due to hormonal reasons.I can bet on sujok or alternate therapies to help you out.I am a sujok practitioner , that is why I am saying this with confidence.It may take time like 3 or 4 months but you will be able to regrow hair.
@pickwick (858)
• India
21 Aug 11
Preetaanuja , sujok is using hand and feet for treatment.It originated from korea , Dr Park Jae Woo is the founder.It involves acupuncture on hands , color and magnet therapy.You can search for a good sujok practitioner in the area where you live.I know it will definitely be an answer to your problem.Also I know of cancer patients who have undergone chemotherapy and had not faced hair loss problem due to Aloe vera.It is easily available in India and you just have to consume its gel for 4 months in the morning on empty stomach with curd.It works and I have seen it.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
21 Aug 11
I know its more important to be confident in life which in a way will negate that inferior feelings. But not everyone has that power. I am trying hard to accept it, but..
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
21 Aug 11
Could you please give me more details on the sujok therapy you suggested. since i am from India how is it possible to try the therapy if i find it useful?
@allknowing (136089)
• India
21 Aug 11
There are so many bald men that look good. It is the way you carry yourself and accept that there is little you can do about it. No doubt initially it becomes a bit difficult to accept it but slowly you will get over it and move on.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
21 Aug 11
Men who are blessed with an attractive face and a well shaped scalp will surely look nice. I have neither. So the only way to prevent me from going even uglier is by having more hair on my head. This is precisely why women are rejecting me in marriage
@allknowing (136089)
• India
22 Aug 11
Even ugly men as you have put it get married. Marriage is a package deal and having hair on one's head could be just one aspect of it. You could develop yourself in other areas that could attract 'that woman' in your life who would be your life partner. A positive attitude wipes out all other so called 'bad points'! 
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
21 Aug 11
I can really understand how hurting it would be. But I would say think smart and remove this tough situation. Parlours are doing great stuffs nowadays, wicks can be smartly used which looks so natural and doesnot cause hitchy. Hair weaving is costly, but try to make up the money selling any thing. Because u can always earn money, but the pain and getting married is most badly you need it. So try these 2 solutions in best way. Dont take time for worrying, whereas be smart and strong enough to end this inferiority complex. In latest technology, nothing is possible, remember you have still life to live happily, so start acting today. Baldness is not a major problem, some does clean shave and grow a french beard and look more modest.Dont let something eat you! Fight against it!
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
23 Aug 11
yes its hurting and am losing confidence by the day. I am in no position to do anything now
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
26 Aug 11
Please dont lose hope, there are many who have overcomed their problems and only one reason behind is confidence to fight against. My friend was bald either he got married at age of 45 and he is bald and he had even skin allergy. He patiently waited and he tried his full best, he is still a admirer for us and living example that nothing is impossible. When you go down, all things will pull u down, so take up life and you will win for sure!
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
21 Aug 11
yes some mylotters suggested that medicine.But will it really work?
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
my dad's hair is like that too. when i was still young i see his hair slowly vanishing. he is in a band. at first he always wears a hat or a bandana. but he got tired of it and shaved his head instead. unfortunately in our family i am the only one who inherits my fathers vanishing hair. a few years back i shaved my head already. my wife puts oil on my scalp. then one day i tried growing it again and found out that my scalp is healthier and grows a few more strands than before. as of now i havent shave my head again but i know my hair will soon be back with the vanishing hair. there are a lot of actor who are bald but looks good. you dont have to be sad just because your hair is vanishing. that is only hair. the personality counts more, more than hair. if you love yourself and accept what you have it will show in your eyes and your face. you just need to embrace you.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
21 Aug 11
I would not have felt so bad had i been married. Since i am still a bachelor, i feel inferior to approach women with a proposal. Its become so distressing for me. its easier said than done. Life without hair is just too much
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
i start shaving my head when i was single. then when i got married wife just puts oil on my scalp. i mean why not try shaving your hair then put oil it might help your hair to grow back. but then again it is only a suggestion. it is still up to you on what you want to do. life without hair is just too much, true. but it would make you feel better if you accept it and love what you have. yes it is easier said than done, but what i am saying i done it already. i am not just advising i am sharing my experience.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
20 Aug 11
Hi preethanju, the only solution seems to be either hair weaving which you say is beyond your budget and a wig which I feel looks bad....I have seen many people who are on the verge of going bald shaving their head - very short hair, like skin heads, and it looks good on most people... all the best
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
21 Aug 11
Yes hair weaving i did think about it. But my pockets are dry and ant afford it now. I tried many oils but no affect.
@JasperTore (1275)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
I think you should not feel inferior about losing your hair. Its normal and everyone else is experiencing it one way or another. Also, looks is not all about in this world. There are people who are loved because of their personality and also what's inside counts most so be confident and don't be bothered by that hair of yours.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
21 Aug 11
Its ok if i go bald after marriage. I am still unmarried for reasons beyond me. Now am contemplating marriage and women are finding me unattractive. I know hair is not everything in life. But under certain circumstance we realise how important it is as i am doing now
@Olleenz (3398)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 11
I'm bald ..... so what, cried for something like this? No way buddy. Getting bald just change your outlook a little bit. Don't think it too much, this problem could happen to any one.
Just think positively, like: become baldy mean make you even look smarter than before or become baldy mean make you even handsome than before.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
21 Aug 11
Nice to know there are people who are in my position. But dont you think that hair is essential for a good outer appearance??If hair was not that important then God would have created everyone bald
@francesca5 (1344)
•
20 Aug 11
losing hair as a man gets older is very common, and not that unattractive. sometimes the things men do to try and hide this problem look worse than just wearing their baldness with pride.
i wouldn't try to hide it, if i were you, i would just change how you think about it.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
21 Aug 11
I know its a problem with age. But my brother who is 7 years elder still has all his hair intact. So its not a rule that all aged men must be bald.i look more aged than i am.Also i am not married yet
@francesca5 (1344)
•
21 Aug 11
this is true, some men still have a lot of hair, even when they are older. but their is a lot more to any man than the amount of hair he has on his head. do you think we women are so shallow that that is all we think of? and losing hair as they get older does suit some men, it makes them look more mature and wiser!
@Judy890 (1644)
• United States
20 Aug 11
If you're 40 or up you can't prevent your hair from balding because this comes with aging using products such as oils or sprays won't help there are no products out in the market that can grow hair they may claim to but they don't work if they did most guys who are forced to be bald would have full hair by now. I would suggest you looking in to hair transplant.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
21 Aug 11
If as a rule men over must go bald then my brother who is 7 years elder must have been bald too. its not. Some people lose hair for various reasons, not just age. I am trying various remedies but no results so for.
@jokerzhunter (129)
• United States
20 Aug 11
Sorry to hear this my friend. if you want try shaving your head completely, it actually looks good on some people, you may actually like the style,if not then try wearing hats a lot, just get a collection of hats and have as many as you want, they actually look good.
More importantly, do not let yourself feel inferior because of this matter, your hair does not change who you are, just be yourself and be proud of what you are, I wish you luck with this matter.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
21 Aug 11
Shaving will look nice on those who are endowed with a good shaped head. I am not blessed with it either. I will look more ugly with absolutely no hair on my head. Its that what i fear the most.What if i go completely bald in the future
@jokerzhunter (129)
• United States
23 Aug 11
How about just using a wig then? its the only thing I can think of thats affordable.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
21 Aug 11
I will look even more ugly if i decided to go full bald. That in fact is my real concern. Now i have a few strands of hair left,what if i go full bald??
@lampar (7584)
• United States
20 Aug 11
You can apply hair grow cream sold in the market, if none is working for you, you still can get yourself a wig from store for your bald head or even a hat/cap will do the trick. Keep trying, don't get disappointed over your hair, you will find something that will work on you ultimately. They are many new products invented each year, have some faith in yourself and go over few of these products, try each one after another fro a perod of time, to see which one will work on you. You don't have to give up your hope so quickly over your hair loss. 
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
21 Aug 11
I tried many things since the past few years,but to no avail.Most of these products are gimmicks to extract money.
